????strange question????

[RhondaH]

A co-worker of mine who is a recent breast cancer survivor told me that HER oncologist does not offer her a gown when she sees him, he puts his arms around her and takes her bra off and pulls her shirt up to examine her then after the exam, reaches around again and hooks her bra up and pulls her shirt down. Am [B]I[B] being a prude by saying that THAT is weird? Do any of YOUR docs do this? Thanks. Take care and God bless.

[Mary Anne in TX]

Totally weird!

[Mary Jo]

ummmm.....I'd be looking for a new oncologist.

[StephN]

I find this awfully STRANGE behavior! You are not being a "prude" - this could be construed as sexual harrassment.

Did she ask for a gown and say that she prefers to undress and dress herself?? If she did this and the answer was negative, I would REPORT this person for unprofessional and indecent behavior under the guise of a medical exam!

Maybe he should be reported anyway.

[MJo]

I agree with Steph. I've seen lots of doctors in my 58! years - male and female - and have never experienced anything even close to this.

[Colleen007]

I agree with the comments already posted. I have a female oncologist and I'm always asked if I would like to change into a gown. I think that the behavior of your friend's oncologist totally crosses the line of professionalism.

[Yorkiegirl]

UMMM Yes, Strange in pervert kind of way.

I am always given a gown, and when ever my ONC is in the room he has his nurse with him as well.

[tricia keegan]

Very weird, I don't consider myself prudish but would feel extremely uncomfortable in this situation.

[WomanofSteel]

I think this is definitely out of line and your friend should never go back there. I would be interested if he did this to all his patients. Maybe someone should report this guy.

[Becky]

I think its really weird.

[Gerri]

Very creepy.

[suzan w]

I agree with everyone else...this is totally bizarre behavior

[ElaineM]

She should speak up if she is not comfortable with that doctor.

[sarah]

totally weird so unless he's a great oncologist, change.

[Jean]

Rhonda,
Yes, it is werid!
Also, a nurse should be present whenever an exam is
being performed.

Your co worker already knows something is wrong,
If if quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, well hon,
it is a duck.

Somthing is very wrong.
Jean

[caya]

Weird. Creepy about the onc. taking the bra off and on. However, I do have to add that I saw a PS, originally from Holland, who specializes in reconstruction , and he told me that in his country women do not change into gowns before an examination - they just strip down and the dr. walks into the examination room.

all the best
caya

[Jean]

Caya,
Had to chuckle as you mentioned about Holland.
That country by the way is extremely liberal compared to the US...haveing an open expression on sex, soft drugs. So, it is not surprising that patients do not wear growns...

If you have never traveled to Amsterdam it is a trip!
Holland is a beautiful country but so different from
home.

jean

[flynny]

I would be finding a new onc and definitely letting him know what I thought about his "ethics".

[karenann]

Totally weird. I'd look for another doc.

Karen

[AlaskaAngel]

For me this raises another question.

I wonder just how many oncs who are so clinical that they could not bring themselves to touch their patients are considered "more professional"?

But I agree -- unless it is a country where gowns are considered wasteful practice or not used generally for all patients in clinics, something should be provided to provide some personal dignity.

[Brenda_D]

That kind of describes how my Onc did my last exam. We never have the nurse in the exam room, she's too busy with the other patients in the chemo room.
It didn't bother me. I knew he was pushed for time, and didn't do anything I would consider to be sexual.

Now my Rad Onc was one of those that wouldn't touch you if he could help it. He said he got tired of washing his hands all the time. So, it takes all kinds I guess.

[Ceesun]

Good Grief! I would head for the door pronto!! Ceesun

[Diana1993]

If changing doctors is not an option, I would have a friend accompany me. My husband comes in with me, so I don't forget to mention some detail and often he hears things that I miss.

[Sherryg683]

My Oncologist never even looks at my breast. He just pushes on my stomach, thumbs a few things and listens to my heart and lungs. I have been seeing him every 3 weeks now for over 3 years so he would probably be very bored with looking at my breasts by now anyway. He only checked my breasts a couple of times when I had questions about scar tissue and when the shingles broke out. Otherwise, he refers me to my breast surgeon every 6 months for a check up. ...sherryg683