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Believe51
09-02-2008, 10:13 AM
Since cancer has entered our lives there are things that DO NOT BOTHER me anymore. I thought I would start a post for us all to share was is unimportant to us now that used to drive us nutty before cancer came to town.

Here Goes:

"Leaving the refrigerator door open as he views for the eight-hundreth time what he can eat....as though something would mutate in between viewings!!"

I now love the fact that he even wants to eat!! I celebrate each time the door opens and he is the one who is opening it!

chrisy
09-02-2008, 11:43 AM
Marie, that made ME smile!

Believe51
09-02-2008, 01:45 PM
Glad I made you smile Chrisy, I so love seeing you happy. I have plenty more where that came from!! It is great that these things are so unimportant now, my life is so much more complete. Today I too can laugh with you, but yesterday I would have wanted to push him down a flight of stairs!! LOL>>Love Ya>>Believe51

loveher
09-03-2008, 10:17 PM
haha i totally know how you feel!
for me, the whole cancer experience in a way really kept me above the fray especially in highschool, i just didnt care who said what about whom and cliques and what not.

the whole thing really makes you realize that the most important thing is to be healthy and in the long run, little annoying things are pretty negligible

Colleens_Husband
09-12-2008, 08:09 AM
Colleen used to comb her hair and drop the combed out hair down the sink. This would clog up the sink three or four times a year so I would have to crawl into the vanity to take the pipes apart to fix the drain, cursing silently the whole time.

Now that she has lost her hair a second time, unclogging the drain seems like such a little price to pay for sharing the life with the best person I have ever known.

Believe51
09-15-2008, 01:01 PM
I do have a high tolerence for pain but I have been known to be a wimp at times. After witnessing some of the things my poor sweet husband has done just to live another day....my pain can be put aside.

My pain is still 'my pain' but I can live another day without having to endure more pain just to survive. My migraines seem a bit better after I look at him. I will still vomit when I get them but I survive easily and then they are gone until the next time.

My eyes and the problems I have with them now......the skin biopsy, although scary I made it by.

Looking at Ed and my Sweet Friends here has forever changed the way I view pain and illness.

Forever grateful>>Believe51

Believe51
10-07-2008, 01:39 PM
Although a neat man, Ed would leave shave stubble in the bathroom sink. He broke out of the habit after we discussed how mental it made me.

Well, I welcome it now. Especially because I miss our old days when he was able to shave!

Off chemo for a few months now, hair is growing back again, shaving is back to more normal. I had a bad day the other day and to cheer me....

HE SHAVED AND LEFT THE STUBBLE!! Life is good!>>Believe51

Jackie07
10-12-2008, 05:58 PM
My husband always likes to keep the house neat. With me going through cancer treatment over and over again, he finally 'gave up' and started to relax a little bit.

Because of my repeatedly-wounded brain (surgery, Gamma-knife, 2 chemos), I need to have things spread in front of me as much as possible. Unless things are logically arranged (like the library work I am familiar with), I have a terrible time remembering where things are.

Our loved ones' understanding and assist is absolutely necessary. Thank you, care-givers.

Believe51
10-13-2008, 06:13 AM
I chuckle as I read this since I could never go to bed without washing the stray teaspoon sitting in the sink. I reflect upon this with great pride since this was quite a feat for me to accomplish. Through years of training myself out of this bad habit, I gently replaced it with book time or trying a favorite recipe. Thankfully cancer sent this goal into full effect since for years I was striving for that.

It is great that we can realize the important of things that we can give or take importance from; things that drastically improved the quality of our lives. Pick and choose our fights My Dears>>Believe51

Believe51
06-10-2009, 09:27 PM
I spent my entire fairy tale with Mighty Oak racing to keep up with him. He is a tall man with a long stride and walking with him made me tired. Spending any amount of time racing to keep up was always interrupted by my pleas to walk slower. Sometimes this was a source of stress for me as crazy as that sounds.

Now what disturbs me is that I am still in race mode and find my pleas are to myself to slow down for him. Life has changed for us and I still plea to adjust the speed of our walking side by side. I like knowing that we have this time together to perfect our strides as a team! Love you Eddie and glad to see we still walk as one, with a little plea of course!!>>Believe51

Believe51
06-16-2009, 10:39 PM
I am a recovering 'perfectionist' that has fine tuned myself into a person who expects order, not perfection. When Ed had his first Gamma Knife I went for a walk to the gift shop at the Gamma Center. That particular shop has awesome trinkets and my particular make-up. My girls sometimes will give me a facial and such and I always love their quick company. It is a shop that pampers the cancer patient and I love the thoughtfullness within it.

I searched for something small that I could make mine which would serve as a reminder of the day. On a display I found a huge square silk-like scarf with maple leaves on it. I may love my oak leaves but second in line is maple and had it removed from the display. When I got home I knew I had to put it somewhere special. Placing it in its new home I noticed a run throughout it that no one would probally ever see (but me).

I was going to return it since it was of course overpriced. I decided to keep it for many reasons....it represented this monumental day is our journey......it was hidden in the display and I had to have it....most of all because life is not perfect but it is beautiful, you just have to see beyond the runs.

I kept the scarf and took it on vacation and shall enjoy it for an eternity. It was a pleasant reminder for me as I changed the wardrobe from one season to the other and bumped into it. I actually looked beyond the runs and it was liberating.>>Believe51

Colleens_Husband
06-17-2009, 10:58 AM
Nice story Marie! It is amazing how little flaws can annoy you at first but later on become endearing.

It used to bother me going into hospitals. I never went into hospitals unless something dire happened to me.

A couple of days ago, Colleen went in for Herceptin and she said she started looking at the people in the fancier private room infusion areas. The hospital reserves these for the new patients and their first chemo infusion. Colleen said she always avoided looking into them because she knew those people were in for a hard time. She told me she looked into one of the newbie suites the other day and said hello to a young women receiving her first infusion. She told her that she can do this and she is stronger than she thinks she is. I was happy to see that Colleen has gotten past the 'chemotherapy is fearful and awful' stage and is now operating on the 'chemotherapy is a Godsend and it will save your life' stage.

Anyways, when Colleen told me this story, I actually had a fond memory of sitting next to Colleen and holding her hand while she was getting the infusion. It was a neat time. We could talk without phone interruptions or the children bothering us. I always bought her some small gift for each infusion. At the time I was hating being in the hospital. It is odd that I now have fond memories of that time.

Believe51
06-24-2009, 01:23 AM
Being such an analytical person I have always been one to 'look' before I 'leap', studying and looking at the entire situation until my eyes almost bleed. Breast cancer has allowed me to just leap. I love the freedom of being able to be so spontaneous and free, it is liberating and refreshing. I wish I had learned this so long ago.>>Believe51