Dear Friends

[Bill]

You know I love you all, and you are all always in my thoughts and prayers. I have decided to spend less time on the her2 website. There's nothing wrong, it's just that since Nicola's passing, I've spent alot of time here, and my house and affairs here are still in a state of disarray. There are certain things I need to do here, and they are not getting done. I know you all understand. Also, on May 10th, my son Zach and I will be flying out to AZ. for a week, to visit my Father and his wife, Cathy, and I will be out of touch then, for sure. I'm not saying I'm taking a complete break, but I just need to spend less time here, and get my affairs in order. I'm sure I will say Hi at least once a day, just not posting as much. You all stay strong and please know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Bill

[lilyecuadorian]

Bill you are in my thoughts and prayers too ...and good luck on your trip to AZ ...and take a break too is great to take a break we all deserve a break...(please not too long) I'm 100% we will miss you a lot ..you are part of this big family and I love you SO much much much

[SoCalGal]

no.

Okay - that was just my first response. I was wondering about you and the time you spend here. I think that your decision sounds healthy. Enjoy your son. We'll be around awaiting your check-in. Blessings and wishes of peace and happiness from me to you. --Flori

[hutchibk]

I tend to agree with Flori's first response. No.

But, I suppose if you promise to check in at least once a week, we won't get our feelings hurt. We will miss you, though. But now we can talk about you more without you knowing about it.... see the danger in turning your back? LOL

Actually, I need to do a little more of what you are proposing, Billy Boy, so I have cut back on my Her2 time a little. It's a very seductive place!

[Barbara H.]

Hi Bill,
Have a great trip to Arizona! We enjoy your posts and words of wisdom on this site, and your everyday posts will be missed. However, I do understand your need to take care of your affairs and find additional ways to help you cope with your loss. As you know, you are always welcome here, and your support is helpful to many. Again, enjoy your trip and we will be looking forward to hearing about it when you return.
Best wishes,
Barbara H.

[Mary Jo]

Awww Bill...........I hear ya.......I understand.......but that doesn't mean I'm not sad that you will not be a daily poster here at her2 support. Your understanding and giving ways to the people here that are going through so much (not to mention your humourous side and those stories you tell) will be greatly missed. I was always astounded by all you've done for others here after all you, yourself, have been through.

Of course, you need a break from this site so you can move forward and deal with those things that have touched your life. I get that most definitely. This site, although a wonderful place to visit, is addictive to say the least. The love and care we all feel for each other is real.

So dear friend.............I know you will check in and be a part of our world here at her2 support (how could you not with us wonderful people - hahahahahahttp://www.her2support.org/vbulletin/images/icons/icon7.gif) BUT I hear you that a break is necessary.

I will miss you and your kind words of wisdom and hope to see a post again soon.

Love & God's Blessings to you Bill.....................and have fun in AZ.

Mary Jo

[karen z]

Bill,
It is ALWAYS good to take care of yourself and the things around you that need taken care of. I hope that you have a great trip with your son! Take good care.
Karen

[Jean]

Bill,
You are a wise man - enjoy your much earned trip with your son.
You are not gone from us as you know that you remain in our hearts.

Hugs,
Jean

[IRENE FROM TAMPA]

but I am sure you will check in with us once in a while, but I completely understand.

Have a wonderful time with your son and your family.. It's will be good for you to have some family time for yourselves.

Know that we all love you and look forward to hearing from you again.

Take care my friend

[Gerri]

Bill,

You have had such a positive effect on this board and I hate to see you go. However, I understand exactly what you are saying and have done this myself at times. You are such a kind and thoughtful man, but maybe now it is time for you to take care of YOU.

I sincerely hope that being a part of this family has helped you move along in your grief process. Remember, if you need us we all just a click away.

Stay well, stay strong. You will be missed.

Much Love and Peace to you,

[Jeanette]

Bill you go take care of yourself and whatever else needs tending to. Enjoy your trip with your son. You too need time to heal, Take care, hugs and Blessings , Jeanette

[kareneg]

Bill do what you have to do hun, we will be here waiting and know we love you very much have a great time visiting your Dad, Tak soon!
Love always Karen

[Ceesun]

Hey Bill, You do what you need to do and I understand as well. I feel like you are a new friend and am being a bit selfish to say I wish you would stay...but life does take us in new directions. Hope to still hear from you once in a while. Fondly, Ceesun

[Becky]

Dear Wild Man Bill

I'm really going to miss you here. Make sure you don't totally disappear because we will want to hear about all your adventures.

Love to you

[Paty]

Bill,

I am sure we will all miss your posts, but I understand that you need to "put things in order". God bless you and enjoy your trip.

Paty

[jones7676]

I will miss your humor - but I agree that you must take care of yourself...may life be good to you, you deserve it.

[chrisy]

NO. and YES.
Bill, I will miss the sunshine your posts always bring. But I am glad you are taking more time to "do your life". As you know, I sometimes worried when I saw you posting at all hours - and I do mean ALL hours!

So I have to agree that it sounds healthy for you, even though it makes ME cry. I know we're in your prayers, as you are in ours.

Just remember, everyone (Wild Bill and all those who think it will be fun making up stuff about him while he's gone!), it's unlikely we could come up with anything WILDER stories than the real deal! I hope, Bill, that the change of scenery will stir up some new and even more unimaginable adventures!

In the meantime, I'll just picture you lurking and giggling while we talk about you. Maybe we should start a thread called "Crazy things Bill is doing instead of posting on the Her2 site"

Much love,
Chris

[sassy]

Wild Bill,

Keep writing the story of your life--(especially the funny chapters)! Just remember, we love a good story.

Love to you and your family.

Much thanks,

[StephN]

Dear Bill -
It IS a very hard thing to cope after the loss of a much loved one. Normal to ignore things that usually would get taken care of in the course of things.
But these months have NOT been normal for you. A way to stay close to Nicola is to be close to us, who are walking where your beloved walked.

This vacation is like a trial separation. You will see how it goes. If you are able to move on a little and do other things not concerned with cancer, all the better. Nicola is always in your heart no matter what you are doing. Maybe she is the one spurring you on pick up the pieces and get your act together.

I agree - we all need our time to grieve and this takes various forms for different people.

Thanks for showing us the guy that our dear Nicola loved.

[Faith in Him]

Dear Bill,

I agree with what everyone else has said. You will truly be missed but it is necessary for you to put thing back in order. So, with that being said, I wish you a time of healing and new adventures. Please come back and check on us when your ready. And know that I will keep you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Tonya

[ElaineM]

Hi,
We totally understand. Everyone needs breaks. Take care. Stay well, safe and peaceful. Everyone will welcome you back when you are ready to re join us.

[caya]

Hi Bill,

I also echo what others have said - I'm sure part of the healing process for you has been to stay close to the board where your dear Nicola was treasured. I hope this has been a comfort to you during these difficult days. Please keep in touch when you can, enjoy your time with your son and your family, and remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life.

all the best
caya

[Lolly]

Bill, you have been such a bright light here, but it's so important to take care of yourself. It sounds like you have a handle on that. We'll always be here if you need us!

<3 Lolly

[Bill]

Hi everyone! You are all so wonderful. Thanks for all of your support and kind words. Like I said, I'll still be checking in, I promise. As far as my trip to Az goes, I know I'll bring a story or two back from that one. Love, Bill

[Soccermom]

Bill, we will leave the light on for you! Blaze some new trails, friend.
Hugs,Marcia

[Sheila]

Bill
If this is your way to get out of making me cupcakes...well.....
we will miss you...your support and understanding, not to mention those wild adventures.....Nicola was very lucky to have you, as you were lucky to have her....may this time away help you to heal and take time for yourself....you and Nikki will always be here in thought!

[Donna]

Hey Bill,

I just gotta say I think you are the coolest guy ever! That you came in here support of your beautiful wife is so incredibly wonderful in the first place - BUT - to stay here and lend support and insight and knowledge after her passing was really sooooo amazing. I am in awe of your gentle, care spirit and thank you so very much for being there.

By all means, go have a life! But don't forget we love you!

Donna

[Sherryg683]

Dear sweet Bill, all I can say is "it's about time". Not that we won't miss you terribly. I have always said that the worse thing that would come out of my death would be the pain that it would cause the ones I love. I would expect my friends and family to grieve for a while but I would quickly want them to get back to their lives, be happy and get joy in my memories. If they suffered too long, I would consider my life to have been a failure in that aspect. There is a time for grief and a time to move on and bring joy and honor to your loved ones memory by living a good happy life. It's time for you Bill to get out and do the things you need to do. I know you will still grieve for your dear Nicola but you have more important things that need to be done than spending your spare time here. You have been an awesome support for us ladies here, every now and then a guy like you pops up on this board and I am in awe of the concern and care given to us when you must be hurting so. I totally understand and support your decision and just ask that you occaisionally drop by and say "hi". You have been such a support for me here lately with my brother, and I want to say "thank you". Be blessed...luv..sherryg683

[Liz J.]

Hey Bill,

I haven't been on the site nearly as much as I used to be. Not for any bad reason, just too much going on. I just want to thank you for sending your sympathy when I lost "Red", my golden retriever. I know that you probably did not even know who I was but you were kind enough to respond. I am wishing all the best for you and hope that you are on the site again when the time is good for you.

Take care and enjoy your trip.

Sincerely,

Liz J.

[Unregistered]

Good luck to you Bill. It's OK to take as much time as you want. Everyone is different, and you may need a break. Thanks for being here. Bev

[juanita]

You will be missed. You have such insights on all of this and your advice to others has been so great. We do wish you luck on your trip and any time we get from you we'll take.

[kimber]

I too will miss your posts Bill. Your honesty, candor and true gentle spirit has inspired me to be a better person. No kidding. You have an old soul my friend. It is now time for you to go on with the next chapter of your life. Whatever that may bring, I hope that it brings you peace and love. You are meant to love Bill. It is who you are.

Much love to you. . . . .

-kim

[mts]

Live a little !!! Nicola would have wanted that for you. I took a 2 week break and no one noticed !
I cetainly understand your sentiments and your obligations as well.

Warmly,

maria

[Joan M]

Bill, Have a good trip to Arizona. God bless you for everything you did for Nicola and for all the support you give everyone here. Joan

[harrie]

Hey BBB,
Be sure you will truely be missed. Like I told you before, you give our site a very special touch with your spirit, compassion, and humor.
I understand 100% as to why you are making your decision to spend less time here and set your sights on your family and personal priorities. I know that is a very wise decision.
I am sure this site has helped you as much as you have helped so many on this site. I think it is time for you to move on to other important matters. I can't believe I am crying while I am writing this!
Wishing you all the best in life PLUS. take care ....and God bless.
Hariecanarie

[hutchibk]

I miss you already - hurry back!

luv, hucklebuck

[Chelee]

Bill, You have certainly shown us all what a wonderful, caring and loving husband Nicola had. I can only imagine how blessed she felt to have you in her life. You've been so supportive to so many of us, and on the flip side brought so many laughs our way. You have such big heart and your presents will certainly be missed here.

That being said I do think its good that you are moving on in another direction. I can only imagine how difficult this time has been for you. Hold all those wonderful memories of Nicola in your heart and do what you know she would want you to do. Here's to you having a wonderful time out in AZ. Sounds like a good time for a trip...enjoy yourself.
I'll keep you in my prayers.

Chelee

[Colleens_Husband]

Bill:

Even though I am new to this site, I can see that you were an extremely strong supporter of the people here. You are definitely a community builder. I would like to thank you for the time, effort, and devotion you gave to this community.

Take as much time as you need getting your affairs in order, without feeling any guilt about the Her2 Neu community. This site is better off because of your contributions.

Thanks,

Lee

[Bill]

I don't even know what to say, you are all so wonderful. I really do appreciate all of your support and out-pouring of love. I starting to feel like the little boy who cried wolf, though, because I haven't really gone anywhere yet, just spending a few less hours here and posting less. I hope you are all doing well. You are all in my thoughts and prayers, Love, Bill

[Mary Jo]

HI Bill,

And that's just fine with me if you only spend a little bit of time away and post less BUT still visit and post. You're too special to be away from us for long periods of time. Am I being selfish? If so...oh well.....http://www.her2support.org/vbulletin/images/icons/icon7.gif

[dhealey]

Bill, I will miss your funny posts. I think you needed this site after Nicola's passing. I hope we were able to give you as much as you have given us. Peace be with you and enjoy your trip. You will be much missed, but we understand. Bless you!

[karen z]

Bill,
Please do not feel like the boy who cried wolf. You should visit and post as much or little as is best for you at the time. Once again, enjoy your forthcoming trip. It is wonderful to read all of the valentines that keep coming your way.
Best,
Karen

[swimangel72]

Hi Bill - have a wonderful trip with your son and don't worry, we'll still be here when you feel like popping in. Even though I'm still a newbie around here, I'll miss your posts - you've been such an inspiration!

[goops]

Have a great trip Bill!

[Audrey]

I have to echo everyone's sentiments here about missing you, Bill, as you take a break from this board--Thanks for all you've given to us and shared with us--Have a great time in AZ with your family. Isn't it great to know you've made such an impression on all our hearts here? I know you'll be back. I've been NED for a number of years now and still can't seem to stop coming here and checking up on everyone. It truly is such a caring community and we're glad you're a part of it (as little or as much as you want to be)!

[hermiracles]

Dear Bill - you are such a sweet man - and your love for Nicola shines through. You spend as much or as little time here as you can Bill - we love you anyway! Acceptance of each other makes all of our journies that much easier brother ~ and you are one brother I am so proud to know.
Much love to you Wild Bill http://her2support.org/vbulletin/images/icons/icon12.gif
Blessings
Hermiracles