My brother and hospice

[Sherryg683]

I had to take my brother to the doctor last week while he was officially told that there was nothing else they could do for him and that he needed to go under hospice care. His doctor told him that he had at the best..a couple of months, but that he could likely go in a few weeks with organ failure. He has been battling melanoma. We were expecting this but it is so awful to hear it. He told his doctor that he had tried his best and of course we cried (not the doctor, he was pretty cheery). Actually, he was trying to get my brother to see there was a better place waiting him, but that's a hard thing to believe sometimes. I went this week and took care of all the funeral plans, my husband and I bought plots right next to my brothers, under a big oak tree. My brother was worried about being buried by himself, that made him smile when I told him. He was a bachelor and had no children...just crazy mom. He is now sleeping almost all the time, maybe up an hour or two a day. Please pray that God sends him an angel of reassurance. He said that he had been having awful dreams...something was coming to get him and he had been fighting them with all he had, he said he wasn't ready to go with them. This broke my heart. I pray God sends him something positive so he won't feel afraid and alone, please pray with me. ..tks..sherryg683

[BonnieR]

Oh, Sherry.........

[Bill]

Sherry, I will be praying for your family. I would like to know your brother's first name, if that's ok. I, too, am a bass fisherman, and as I catch, and release them, I would like like to say "this one is for____" please tell him, for what it's worth, that I will do that with every bass I catch, for the rest of my life. I'm praying for you. I know how hard that news is.

[Chelee]

Sherry, My heart goes out to you. I went through this eight months ago with my Mother. Passed away from advanced lung cancer. Towards the end it was very difficult to watch so I can only imagine how hard this is on you right now. (I am so sorry to hear your brothers onc seemed so cheery.) These onc's/doctors have to be detached at some level...but some times I say its a bit too much. My Mothers onc wasn't very warm either when giving her the news. He was darned right cruel. Your post really hit home with me...I just can't stress how sorry I am to hear your dealing with all this right now.

Your post brings tears to my eyes because I know how hard this is on you. Its just awful that your brother is having such terrible dreams...I know my Mother was having nightmares too. They terrified her. Sometimes I wonder if the pain meds they have to take make the dreams worse? Either way its just so difficult.

I just want to let you know how my heart breaks for you Sherry. But it is nice to hear your brother got some comfort out of knowing you all have plots together. He knows he will be with family that loves him and I'm sure that means alot to your brother. He's been so blessed to have such a terrific sister by his side. I'm just so very sorry you are having to go through all this. I will certainly be keeping your brother and the entire family in my thoughts and prayers.

Chelee

[RhondaH]

my thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care and God bless.

Rhonda

[karen z]

Dear Sherry,
I will pray for reassurance and peace. You are a good and kind sister.
I am thinking of you guys.
Best,
Karen

[BonnieR]

Bill, your gesture is so moving. It will be meaningful to both Sherry and her brother.

[IRENE FROM TAMPA]

Sherry - your brother and your family are in my prayers.

[Sheila]

Sherry
My heart goes out to you...this a a very difficult time for you and your brother....may you both sustain peace throughout this time...you are both in my prayers.

[goops]

Sherry, my heart goes out to you. When my grandmother was dying of cancer, her parents and husband appeared to her and let her know they were waiting for her. Two days before she died she saw a hand come down from the heavens. These things helped her know there was a better place waiting for her.

I will pray for strength (as well as health) for you and comfort for your brother.

[Karen W]

Sherry,

I am so sorry. Prayers being sent to you and your brother.

Karen

[Jean]

Oh Sherry,
I am so deeply sorry to hear your news. Hospice is a wonderful group and they do offer counseling to patients and the family. Maybe you could inquire with Hospice. I know when I lived through this with both my parents, I found our Pastor was a wonderful Influence in helping all of us cope. He would come to the house and visit, sit and talk with my mother and the rest of the family, it was a huge comfort.
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Please know I will keep you and your family in my prayer during this difficult time.
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Kindest Regards,
jean
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[Joan M]

Sherry,

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. I understand how you feel, I lost my sister to MS in 2000. It's very difficult to accept that nothing else can be done. God was merciful with my sister. She slipped into a coma and went peacefully. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Joan

[Mary Jo]

Dear Sherry,

I'm so sorry for all the pain you and your family are going through. Life, this side of Heaven, can be so, so, so hard.

I ask our Lord to send an angel of comfort and Peace, to be felt by your brother and you, and that the bad dreams may cease. I ask with a believing heart Sherry.

What a wonderful, caring sister you are. He is blessed to have you as you are to have him.

Wrapping you and your brother in prayer.

Mary Jo

[Faith in Him]

Sherry,

Sending prayers of comfort and peace to you and your brother.

God Bless,
Tonya

[chrisy]

Sherry,
I'm praying right now that God sends angels to both of you and wraps you in love. This is so hard...

[Mary Anne in TX]

Sherry, when my mother died it was very painful and difficult. Her body shut down because she could not swallow(PSP). The last night I don't know who was in more pain, her or me. I just about lost it. The nurse asked me if I had prayed, which made me really mad cause I'd been praying, but when I thought about the fact that there was nothing else, I grabbed her hand and my husband's hand while he grabbed mom's other hand and we prayed and prayed. I prayed til I had relief and once more had trust in God's goodness and wisdom. Boy, had I lost track of my faith! After praying, I just opened the bible and began to read to mom. Her labored breathing eased and my heart returned to a place of staying in the moment and being there for her. It wasn't easy, but when I cried out to God, He heard and comforted us all. I'll pray for you and your brother and for God to send some angels to surround him and keep him safe from nighmares and fears. And for you to find a place of acceptance and peace and trust. Pour out your love to him Sherry, it's hard for fear and love to abide together. Read to him, sing to him, just love him openly and with all that's in you. You need peace as much as he does. God bless you and keep you strong. Much love and prayers, ma

[swimangel72]

Oh Sherry - I'll be praying for your brother - and for you to find strength!

[Sherryg683]

Thank you all. My brothers name is Pierson. ...sherry

[Bill]

Thanks, Sherry, you are in my thoughts and prayers, and so is Pierson. Hugs, Bill

[charlotte]

Sherry, I would also like to add my thoughts, prayers for you and your brother .

[lexigirl]

Sherry,

Pierson is in my prayers right now. Prayers that he will ask Jesus into his heart and that he will feel peace and love and light around him. I am sorry that you are hurting but what a wonderful and sweet sister you are. He is very lucky to have you in his life.

Hugs and Prayers,
Lexi

[Becky]

Dear Sherry

I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you at this difficult time.

[Jackie07]

Sherry,

Have y'al sought second opinion from other docoters? The mother of two of my church members (both of her daughters' families are founding members of our small congregation) was given 3 months at the end of her lung cancer treatment. The family took her to M. D. Anderson in Houston and she lived 3 more years - attending Sunday services occasionally and gave us a really amazing testimony a couple of months before she passed away.

Medical research has shown the reason behind "positive thinking" type of healing power - endorphin. It is human nature to avoid the "unavoidable". But I would think that some counseling and action may be in store.

[harrie]

Sherry, you and Pierson have my prayers. It is tough. We went through lung cancer with my mother at the end. I know it is hard. When we had to take my mother to the hospital for the last time, I knew she knew it was hard for us and she gave us this smile, I can still see it, and she told us she was fine.
Maryanne

[Paty]

Sherry,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family for your dear brother.

[karen z]

Dear Sherry,
Please know that you and Pierson have my prayers as well. I lit candles and said a prayer for each of you today- and will continue.
Karen

[Joanne S]

Oh Sherry, I know exactly how you feel---It's not easy. Life isn't always fair. Please know that we are all beside you praying. May God provide a healing miracle or surroud your brother in his love and comfort in preparing him for his journey. And may God bless you and give you the strength to stay by your brother's side to lessen his fears and provide warmth and security.
Hugs,
Joanne

[sarah]

Sherry,
So sorry to hear about your brother. Hope your mom is being more understanding.
What about books on tape and nice music for your brother to listen to? I know I found that soothing when I was in hospital.
hugs and love
sarah

[Ceesun]

I am also sorry, Sherry. Ceesun

[Barbara H.]

Hi Sherry.
You and Pierson are in my thoughts. I'm sorry that you have to go through this.
Barbara H.

[Hopeful]

Sherry,

You and Pierson are in my thoughts. I am so sorry you both have to go through this.

Hopeful

[MJo]

My father didn't like the dreams he had the last few months before his death either. But something must have changed toward the end, because he said he wasn't afraid and he smiled more. I hope that "something" changes for your brother. I'm kind of left brained about these things and want proof; however, I hope that angels or family members on the other side will let him know that all is well.

[tricia keegan]

Sherry your post was heart breaking to read and I really hope you all find the peace you need soon, especially your brother. I'll be thinking of you all.

[juanita]

So sorry to hear your news. My thoughts will be with you!

[Sherryg683]

Thanks again all. Jackie, my brother has been at MD Anderson for the past 6 months. They have tried everything on him, including a test drug and nothing has worked. He was on the hardest combo of chem known, is what the doctors there said. It made him terribly sick. I saw him today and he ate a little and told me he loved me, then he went back to sleep. I appreciate all your prayers and hope he does get some relief and enters into a better world..sherryg

[Karen W]

Sherry,

I am sending healing prayers and strength to you and your brother.

Karen

[AlaskaAngel]

Hi Sherry,

Being there for Pierson day by day is one of the hardest things to do, and I hope you both find more peace as time goes by. Please let us know how you and he are doing. We are all thinking of you.

AlaskaAngel

[D.W.]

Sherry,

I pray that the peace that passes all understanding would be with you and your brother.

D.W.

[hermiracles]

Dear Sherry - so sorry to hear your brother and you and are going through such a difficult time. It is always so hard to watch someone we love in such pain. Your brother is very blessed to have you by his side Sherry. Hope the pain eases soon sis and you have some comfort for yourself.
Blessings
Hermiracles

[Heide]

Thinking of you and your family Sherry. Thank you for your posting at such a difficult time.

[Believe51]

Keeping you all in thoughts and prayers during this very trying time in your lives. I am so sorry Sherry.>>Believe51

[Leslie's sister]

Sherry:

I have been following your brother's story and am so sorry to hear that he has no more options. I can tell you this, my best friend is a hospice nurse and these nurses are wonderfully supportive. They will take good care of your dear brother. I will pray that he finds peace and comfort in his final days. Please know that you are a wonderful sister. He is so very blessed to have you!

Lisa

[Soccermom]

Dear Sherry,
I was just thinking about you and your beloved brother...just wanted you to know ..

Marcia

[lilyecuadorian]

Thinking of you and your brother Sherry ...you are in my thoughs and prayers