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Maryanne
01-29-2006, 07:23 PM
A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced

tea and visiting with her Mother. As they talked about life,

about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the

obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in

her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon

her daughter.



"Don't forget your Sisters," she advised, swirling the tea

leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important

as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no

matter how much you love the children you may have, you are

still going to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them

now and then; do things with them. And remember that "Sisters"

also means your girlfriends, your daughters, and other women

relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."



'What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman thought.

'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the

couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A

grown-up. Surely my husband and the family we may start will be

all I need to make my life worthwhile!



But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact with her

Sisters and made more female friends each year. As the years

tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand

that her Mom really knew what she was talking about.



As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon

a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life After more than

50 years of living in this world,



Here is what I've learned:



Time passes.

Life happens.

Distance separates.

Children grow up.

Jobs come and go.

Love waxes and wanes.

Men don't call when they say they will.

Hearts break.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget favors.

Careers end.

BUT.........



Girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are
between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.



When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by
yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying
for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open
arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk
beside you. Or come in and carry you out.



Girlfriends, daughters, daughter-in-laws, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mother,
Aunts, nieces, cousins, and extended family, bless our life! The world
wouldn't be the same without them, and neither would I. When we began this adventure
called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay
ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.



Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on to all of the women who
help make your life better--


Thank you for making my life so much better,
Maryanne

Cathya
01-29-2006, 07:44 PM
Wooooooooow! How touching and how true. Thank you so much for this Maryanne.

God bless,

Cathy

RhondaH
01-30-2006, 07:42 AM
I've found this to be ESPECIALLY true this past year and a half being a single mother of a 5 yo, caring for my mother now and my father just prior to his passing. My girlfriends were my rock and now being a part of such a wonderful community here, YOU ALL are my rock, especially since we have more in bc common (I found this to be true when my coworker who is a 2 yr survivor and wanted to be helpful was taken aback and DIDN'T know there are different kinds of bc and that my treatment was going to be so much more agressive than hers especially since she had 18 nodes positive and only had rads...she is ER+/PR+, Her2-). I love you all and I share all your joys and pains. Take care and God bless.

Rhonda