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Lolly

01-17-2006, 09:20 PM

Well, in my former life (BC as I call it) I was a real estate broker along with my husband, and we owned our own small company. Then we decided to move back to the area where he grew up (just over the hill from the small community where my family lived when I was in grade school) so we bought into the country store in this very small (pop. 300 +/-) but very close knit rural town.We had gas, groceries, deli, and an ice cream parlor. It was fun but very physically taxing, and so when I was diagnosed we sold our interest and took the year off to get through treatment. The community held a huge fundraiser for us and raised over $18,000! We were so grateful for their support, words can't express.
My husband is selling real estate again, and after my first recurrence in 2001 I decided it was time for me to stop and smell the roses! So that's what I do now, garden and take care of my family, including our elderly parents. I love my life and love having time to spend with my family; like Lyn says this business is like a full time job anyway, so who has time to work?! I'd like to be able to volunteer more, but it's been hard to squeeze that in.

Also, my husband and I have been married 31 years and have two children, daughter 31 and son 26 who live in our town. My 2 sisters also live close by, as does my father and my husband's mother, plus cousins, aunts, uncles, and many great friends.

<3 Lolly

Diagnosed Sept. ’99 at age 45, Stage III B Invasive Ductal Carcinoma, ER/PR neg HER2+++ by IHC, confirmed in 2004 by FISH. LMR Mast., AC/T, 33 Rads, finishing tx for primary disease in summer 2000. Diagnosed Stage IV in January 2001, started Herceptin/Navelbine. RS Mast. in April 2002, participated in UW/Seattle vaccine trial in 2005, radiation (37) to right axilla in fall of 2006. Have had 3 recurrences to local and regional lymph nodes and skin, and distant lymph nodes, since January 2001. I have been living well with Stage IV disease since 2001. Herceptin has been the "Backbone" of my treatment strategy, with first Navelbine, then Xeloda and now Gemzar added to acheive remission or stable disease.

jsattaw

01-17-2006, 10:48 PM

I'm a university marketing professor -- am married to a marketing professor too (we met in grad school) and we have a 5-year old son, Parker.

We have many hobbies -- wine, cooking, cars, gardening and restoring our 1890's Victorian house.

My son and I have just started taking guitar lessons -- something I've wanted to do for a long time. I studied piano for 12 years and am now a very rusty pianist and co-director for a church cherub choir.

TriciaK

01-17-2006, 11:01 PM

A really good idea, Rhonda! I feel like you do about all these ladies, they are special friends and it is fun to see pictures and hear about family and life styles. As most of you know, I am semi-retired from private practice in psychology with my psychologist husband. He still works 2 days a week and we share some of his cases as we have always been full partners. My specialty was working with women who had been abused as children and I worked especially with multiple personality disorder, now called disocciative identity disorder. I still have one patient who has a strong need to stay in contact with me by phone and email. DID is a horrendous but very effective way a small child copes with unthinkable physical, emotional and sexual abuse, and working with it was extremely time consuming and exhausting, but also very, very rewarding. It is not a typical mental illness, but an incredible coping skill. Some of the ladies have become lifelong friends, which isn't the usual expectation when a therapist really tries to stay totally objective with patients. These are very special people, though, and they cannot be successfully treated without absolute trust between them and the therapist. It is interesting that several of my patients 20 years ago were sure they had somehow caused my cancer. We had to work through all of that and maybe I had to get well for their sakes as well as my own! Now I do a lot of writing, genealogy, art, scrapbooking and keeping track of 9 children, 36 grandchildren and twenty-plus great-grands. During my second mets I took time off to get well and my husband and I wrote a book called "Intimate Marriiage". I have had a full and rewarding life inspite of fighting cancer for 20 years! My heart really goes out to all of you, especially those of you with small children. Each year gives a little more hope to overcome this challenge.My thoughts and prayers are with you everytime I check into the website, which is at least once a day. Hugs, Tricia

Susan

01-18-2006, 04:13 AM

I'm a dental hygienist and work 3 days a week for a wonderful dentist! She has been a great support during these past 6 months. I have 3 kids, 20, 14 and 11.

Sue

Sherry in WV

01-18-2006, 04:25 AM

I am an RN and have worked in many specialty areas, ICU, CCU, Liver transplant ICU, ER ect... before my dx, I was a transplant case manager. In June I will have been married 35 years to a wonderful man. 2 kids, 32 and 33. One Granddaughter, 13 going on 14 and another little one on the way.
I love to read, do crosswords and word game puzzles, love the ocean and anything to do with Scotland.

sassy

01-18-2006, 05:09 AM

I am the Director of Financial Affairs for a small private boarding high school. Have been here for 24 years, first as a teacher of English and Business. Met my husband here, have two boys 13 and 15, live on campus and enjoy working with 130 teenagers every day. Teach 11/12 year old Sunday School and direct children's choir at church. Enjoy needlework, gardening, watching sports.

This is a wonderful idea--its great to know something about everyone.

Sassy
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Novana Residence Condos (http://pattayaluxurycondos.com)

Sheila

01-18-2006, 05:46 AM

I have been a Nurse for 33 years and have worked for Bechtel Construction for the past 12 years as an occupational nurse on various construction jobs, both military and nuclear...it has been wonderful as I have worked all over the country and have a binder of nursing licenses as you must me licensed by the state in each state you work practice nursing. Since being on Herceptin for the past 2 years, I have stayed at home...too hard to get continuity of care traveling the country and living out of state.
I have twin girls, 30 years old, a son 27 years old, 4 grandchildren Saul 9, Jasmine 9, Jessica 8, and Eden 5, and a 5th on the way due in August. I am also Mom to 2 black lab sisters, Sophie and Sadie who really keep me going.
My Michael husband works for Exelon, the electric utility at a Nuclear Plant.

I love riding my motorcycle, enjoying my grandchildren, sewing and doing crafty things. The one good thing that has come from my cancer diagnosis would be that I now take time to enjoy the little things in life...and appreciate every minute of life!

Marlys

01-18-2006, 04:29 PM

I too am an R.N. I graduated with a BSN in 1961. I worked in mental health for 10 years and in the operating room for 35 years. Some people have thought this was a strange combination but only if they did not know surgeons(smile)!! I am currently retired but still act as a consultant at my hospital. They believe I know things no one else knows & I try not to disillusion them. I have been married for almost 42 years, have a son 37, a daughter 34, 3 grandsons-9,7,&5,and a granddaughter 6. I love to fly fish, and play video games. The last makes me a winner in my grandchildrens eyes. I often wonder about people's occupations when they post about very scientific matters. Doing thuis is a great idea.
Marlys

lu ann

01-18-2006, 04:32 PM

I hope we can keep this thread going, as it is interesting learning more about each other.

I have tinkered in several different vocations, most of which were service oriented. I have worked as a cook, waitress, hairdresser, and bartender, all of which I received formal training. I no longer work outside of the home, but I am eager to find something that I can do on my own schedule, while being in treatment.

I attended a 'Party Lite' party Sunday and I am considering becoming one of their Sales Associates. I really need to get out of the house and be around people having fun. We could use the extra income.

August 1, I will be married 25 years to my husband, Tom. We have three daughters. Emilee will be 22, March 19th. She lives with her boyfriend, Christian. Carly will be 19, April 14th. She is attending school to become a Medical Assistant. And Julie will be 15, Feb. 3. She is the typical teenager, trying to push every limit she can. We have a dog named Breeze and a Cat named Millie. I have many wonderful friends and family members.

I enjoy watching funny shows such as "The 70's Show", "Everybody Loves Raymond", and "2 1/2 Men". I also like to watch police shows like all the C.S.I 's(Miami is my favorite), "Criminal Mind", "Law and Order", Etc.

My hobbies include gardening, photography, and video-editing on my computer. I'm almost finished editing my late father in-laws vacation videos and transfering them on to DVDs for my mother in-law.

I can honestly say, "Life is good, in spite of cancer".

Lu Ann

margaret

01-18-2006, 05:51 PM

I'm really thankful for this website. It's fun to get to know more about people. My main job is to take care of myself and my children. It took me a long time to realize that it's really important to take care of myself (physically, emotionally and spiritually) and then take care of my beautiful children. I used to put everyone elses needs first and forgot about my responsibility to myself. Cancer gave me the 'wake up' call that I needed. I have to remind myself each day to put my health and welfare first and that no one else is going to do it for me.

I'm a single parent of two daughters, 12 and 14 years old. They bring me such joy and I'm so lucky to be their parent. I'm also a yoga teacher. I believe I'm on a spiritual path and I'm forever searching and seeking the truths in life. I've gained much wisdom in the past few years and I continue to look for freedom and joy in life. I really want to make the most of my life and live it to the fullest.

Margaret

Berta

01-18-2006, 06:28 PM

I just became Deputy Director of our local community mental health center on Monday. I'm a licensed clinical social worker and have been with the agency for 15 years, I've worked my way up through the ranks and just got the promotion. Wasn't sure whether to go for it, (you know, that fear of recurrence thing). Anyway, I decided I wasn't going to let cancer control my life so I went for the job I always wanted and I got it. I've been in mental health for 31 years. I'm married and have 3 children. They are all legally adults, 30,21 and 19. The youngest two are still at home. My husband is disabled due to heart condition but he does pretty well. We also have two miniature dachshunds.

Rhonda, I think this was a great idea. This message board has been a lifeline to me also

Sandy H

01-18-2006, 08:08 PM

I worked in a hospital sitting for 24 years as a secretary and office manager, took early retirement after my diagnose of IBC. I tell people I changed careers and became a full time IBC patient in 2001. Between appointments, exercise, eating healthy, getting plenty of sleep who has any energy left to work? I joined several breast cancer support groups, do phone support to other breast cancer patients. I help out a very dear friend (89 years old) take her shopping, out to eat, visiting, anything she needs done as she does not have a daughter so I am her granddaughter. I am active in a local church doing a monthly newsletter so I am called the newsy lady of the church as well as serve on the Deacon board. I am also known as the professional road runner because I am on the road so much. Some of this is for appointments. I have been married 32 years to a wonderful husband who is disabled from DJD. I have a single son age 27 years old and a 4 month old pug named Yoda. I enjoy traveling, sewing, cooking, knitting and crocheting. I am taking oil painting classes. I enjoy listening to Christian music. This sounds like I do a lot but it is worked around my energy level and how I feel. Some days I may not do anything. That is my story for now. hugs, Sandy

al from Canada

01-18-2006, 09:17 PM

Linda has been in education her entire working career. For the past 16 years she was department head of English at a number of different area high schools. Linda has always been the type of leader that she gave her team members the easiest classes and she always took the "sweat-hogs", the toughest to teach. That's were she found her strength and I guess; that's what drew her to me. You can draw your own conclusions about that comment. Linda went on long-term disability when she first became ill, mostly because she didn't want to spend 1 more minute away from her family.

I have been in the construction industry my entire working career, from carpenter to teaching construction technology to consulting. As well, some where along the line I picked-up auniversity degree part-time (in psycho-pharmacology; believe it or not) I am part of a consordium of 6 consultants, builders and building scientists in Ontario that work exclusively with residential track builders. Our mandate is to promote best practice through energy efficient construction, promoting EnerGuide for new houses and EnergyStar, to large builders. Through a process of value engineering, corporate re-tooling, trade negotiations, on-site training, and deliverable marketting and brand recognition advantages, we show them how to build smarter, tighter and better homes for approximately the same cost as their regular product. What was once an up-grade is now a standard.

I cut back my work hours dramtically when Linda got sick but struggle at keeping my work down to 2 days / week. I have lately done some work in Alberta and soon in BC ( these are the areas where my hours may spin out of control) but it's not much like work when I can bring Linda along.

Linda and I have a blended family of 5 kids and 1 granddaughter (1 year old next week). Three of the kids ( 22, 20, 19) still live here with us full time which makes for a pretty busy place as sometimes they are all "too much of a good thing". Once they are gone, we plan to sell our house and maybe move to our cottage on Lake Huron. In our life path, Linda and I have been extremely fortunate to have found eachother as we are still as deeply in love as we were 14 years ago when we got married. The problem is when you have a really tight bond with your partner, you tend to piss-off your friends and other people around you.

This cancer thing is our worst nightmare come true, as we often said, about once a week, that our combined greatest fear was one of us going to get sick and leave the other alone. We were to take early retirement this year....and had plans of travel, living in Vermont and skiing for 5 months. Well, we came to our senses and no one is going to leave anyone anytime soon. You hear about families falling apart because of stuff like this....it has brought us closer and we still plan for the future.

Great Idea,
Al

kristen

01-19-2006, 05:55 AM

Jack of all Trades, Master of None. That is how I would describe myself. I have so many interests that I haven't stayed at anyone for very long. (nothing over 15 yrs and still then always doing something on the side) Now that I am 2.2 yrs. out, I find myself searching for something to do that brings in money and lets me stay home with my kids or be available to them. My husband travels a lot with his job, we will be married 13 years on V-day. I work part time at the post office and take care of a small homes assn.

Right now, I am looking into organic gardening. I love being outdoors and love to garden, so I am trying to put the two together. I love inventing things. Have looked into patenting a couple. It's a long process, but fun. That is one of the items on my to do list....
I have 2 great kids. One boy turning 11 here soon and my daughter who will 10 later on in the year. WE love to travel and take trips as much as we can. I live on 15 acres with 2 dogs, 2 cats and 2 g. pigs. We used to have 5 dogs and a pony and rabbits and a real live big pig, Dante. He was a hoot. They all have gone on to the heavens.
I think my life path will lead me to other things that will benefit others. I have so many ideas that I just have to stop and start one and then the others will fall in to place. Life is good and interesting, always something new to investigate.
Good thread. Thank you. It's been interesting to read about you all.

RobinP

01-19-2006, 08:48 AM

Wow, it's interesting to learn a little bit more about all of you. Let's see where do I start, let's make this simple. Currently, I am a full time author finishing a book on a subject that is all near and dear to us, breast cancer. As some of you know, I have RN behind my name and I am not sure if it means I am a roasted nut from having breast cancer or a RN, registered nurse. Some may agree with the former as I am nutty enough to have married a physician! Whoops, just kidding. Did I mention, the most important thing in my life besides surviving her2+ bc? Three sons, ages 7, 12, and 15 years old.

lexigirl

01-19-2006, 10:14 AM

Before bc I worked in the dental field off and on for 16 years. Loved my job and my co-workers. I do miss them. Shortly after I was diagnosed I left the office. That was in Aug. 05. I am still going through my txs. and I am not sure if I will return to work any time soon. I am really enjoying being at home and not having to concern myself with working outside the home right now.

I am 37 years old. I've been married to the love of my life for 14 years and we have 2 beautiful kids ages 13 and 9. We like to go camping, dirtbike riding and weekend outings.

This was nice to read about each other. You all are such an inspiration to me. Thank you!!

Love,
Lexi

Montana

01-19-2006, 10:31 AM

My husband and I built a campground with cabins near Glacier National Park, Montana in the early 90's after we left Houston. We still own and operate it during the season of May - Sept. We have 4 kids - #1 daughter is a heart/lung transplant nurse at St. Luke's in Houston; #1 son is in construction here; #2 son is a chef here; and #2 daughter is studying criminal forensics and will be moving to Houston next semester from NJ. We also have 4 grandkids and have been married for 30 years.

I was "fortunate" that I was diagnosed in late Oct. '04 and had surgery, A/C and finished up rads by June 1st so I didn't miss any of the season.

I see an awful lot of RNs listed here and it worries me for my#1 daugther. Do you think there are a lot of RNs because of their natural interest in health, and coming online here for information, or because of the circumstances of their work? There is no history of B/C as far back as 4 generations on either side of my family. I think mine was from HRT for 10 years.

Montana is a beautiful place to LIVE!!

edit: Okay, Lani's post about the nurse's nighttime work just answered by question.

Becky

01-19-2006, 11:43 AM

I am the National Sales Manager for a division of BASF (a German Chemical Company). I have 10 sales reps that report to me and they sell our product lines (surfactants, dispersants and solubilizers) all over the USA. I travel a lot all over the place. This is why you sometimes don’t hear from me, as some hotels are bad for “hooking in”. I liked and enjoyed technical sales which is what I did for many years at BASF and then they promoted me to the highest level of my personal in competency (as I have already had to fire a person and I despise that) so I am always on the watch for open sales positions where I don’t have to move.

I have 3 daughters – Robin is 19 and is at Rutgers University studying Environmental Science. Leigh is 17 (in 11th grade) and Cara is 14 (in 9th grade). I have been married to my husband, Peter, for 21 years (and he has been my personal rock through all of this).

Peter just got a job selling construction equipment for Ingersol Rand. He stayed home and raised our daughters while I worked so we are in a new phase of life (he says working is very tiring - lol).

We also breed sport horses, primarily hunter/jumpers and will be moving on February 16 (not far from where we currently live – no school changes) to a house that has more land for this business (so don’t worry about us if you don’t hear from me the week of February 13th) . Peter, Cara and I break the horses when they are ready. We have a bichon-poo (or poo-chon as Michelle U says) named Chloe (who is 4 yrs old) and a cat (Oil – his brother was Vinegar but “Vinnie” recently passed away). I also enjoy gardening, hiking and camping. After we move, I plan on starting to take horseback-riding lessons again.

I love this group and being able to help everybody out and that you are there to help me out.

Warm regards

Becky

Cathya

01-19-2006, 07:25 PM

I just started back to work this week (two days for three weeks, three days for the next three weeks, etc.) after being off for 14 months. I work in the securities industry selling stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and offering financial advice. I work with my brother so it's kind of nice. If we ever disagree we close the door, have it out and then forget all about it. He was very upset when I was diagnosed and keep all of our clients in touch with my treatments by posting info on our weekly market updates. Now I'm getting lots of calls and it's great. I graduated university with a BSc in microbiology 30 some years ago. I am a single parent with two kids in university about an hour away. My daughter Amanda is 21 and studying political science and human rights. My son Richard is 19 and studying Mass communications. He's not crazy about that though and being an extreme extravert would like to go into Radio and TV arts in Toronto. I live in a small town near my parents...85 year old mom and 87 year old dad...both extremely healthy....mom's a small bowel cancer survivor and went through chemo 13 years ago. They have been taking me to appointments, bringing me home made soups, etc. I often have to laugh that at my age (56) I'm still being taken to appointments by my parents. My other brother is a retired police officer...now a PI and head of security for the NHL team in Ottawa. Living along the St. Lawrence River we have the highest rates of cancer in Canada I understand. I know two women going through treatment for IBC in our town of 5000. BUT....life is good and somehow better since I've been diagnosed. I just take the time to enjoy it I guess. I am so grateful for this site and all of you. Super idea.

Kimberly Lewis

01-20-2006, 06:00 AM

I am a potter and pottery teacher. The cancer gave birth to my most recent sculpture on display at our local gallery. It has been well received and I have gotten a lot of comments on it. Most people here in town know what I have been going through. This morning I have to postpone starting classes as I am having a secend mastectomy soon. sigh... No more left to remove now though and that is good news!

juanita

01-20-2006, 07:06 AM

I work in our local high school/middle school cafeteria. Mostly I run the cash register, but do whatever is needed. Then I clean the cafeteria. I took two months off when I was first diagnosed in Sept 04, but have been pushing myself to get the job done since then. Teachers have had me talk to a few girls whose moms have been diagnosed in the past year with breast cancer. That's a good feeling being able to help them.
I have been married 24 years to a wonderful man who took off from work and went to all of my first appointments and surgeries(then they got a new manager who didn't like all of his time off). I have a 23 year old daughter who just got married and is about to make me a grandma in April. I also have a 22 year old daughter who works with the handicap and is going to college for that, a 20 year old son who's majoring in college and a 16 year old son who just wants to be a farm boy and has been a tremendous help through all of this.
I want to open my own bakery someday, and was planning on doing that before bc. Maybe when I'm done with herceptin in June I'll start looking into that again.

Unregistered

01-20-2006, 10:20 AM

Hi,

Lets see I have worked in the Business Sales/Marketing field for 20 years, I work for AMD Telemedicine right now and love love love this company. I spent 4 years in the Navy as a corman (nurse).

I have been married for 7.5 years to the love of my life, Kevin, who just happen to come with 3 of the most beautiful daughters now, 20, 18, 16, whom I love to death.

We just today put an offer on a new home, we sold last Feb, then I got dx so we moved to an apartment for a year, and now we are ready to go back to life before bc. I'm her2neu++ so still have herceptin every 3 weeks till august, and 7 weeks of rads, than that is it. I'm done and I will thank Cancer not to come back!!!!!!!

I love to decorate homes and love spending time with the other love of my life. Nootie, the cutest pug in the world.

oh I'm 42!

randi

anne

01-20-2006, 03:44 PM

Hello everyone,
It is indeed nice to read about what everyone does. I am a dentist. My mom was dx in 04 with bc and I have found this site to be a God send. I look forward to reading about everyone here in good times and bad. I would love to answer any dental questions if something is bugging you. I am also 9 mths pregnant and hope to email you guys a pic of our latest addition to the family shortly.
XOXO
Anne

Bev

01-20-2006, 10:34 PM

hi all,

As I never figured out how to post a profile I'll do a quick one now.

I have 3 children. My lovely daughter who is nearly 16 and twin boys who are 11. We call them bad and badder. It has crossed my mind that carrying twins may have caused some hormonal overload to lead to BC, but who knows?

I'm an architect. I used to do commercial work with a firm before kids. Since kids, I work very little. Draw up a garage, kitchen, etc.. but enjoy it.

I have known my husband for 30 years, he gets the gold star sticker for finding this board and going to nearly all of my appointments with me. He's a General Contractor and we hope to collaborate on plenty of projects in the future.

I'm glad I found this site. I had been all over the internet, reading all kinds of studies, but I just couldn't understand them or know if they related to me. Well I still can't understand 1/2 the studies, but I have learned so much through all the individual posts. Thanks to everyone who has had a hand in putting this together.

Best to all. Bev

fourboysmom

01-22-2006, 04:00 PM

My name is Janet and I married my high school sweetheart (18 years ago) and we have 4 sons. Timothy 10, Kyle 8, Marc 5, and Robert 3. I am also a RN , though I am on a medical LOA during treatment. I work with babies that weigh just a pound and attend high risk deliveries. This work is very rewarding. I have been in the NICU for 16 years.

I also do various arts and crafts. I especially like to paint and photograph. I have 2 dogs, a golden retriever and a choc lab, and love to hike in the woods with them. I am an avid animal lover and have rescued injured wildlife. Reading is also a form of relaxation for me.

AlaskaAngel

01-22-2006, 07:50 PM

If there is one single commonality in these posts it is the shared long-term commitments in relationships, and the next commonality is medical work.

My hero and I have been together for over 30 years too, most of it in Alaska. (Lots of stability and character on this board.)

I worked in the woods for years in both silviculture and recreation, then more or less gave that up when I hurt a knee, and then I worked for a university for many years. I have also worked both in direct patient care and in technical medical services... a few years prior to dx I shifted to being a computer commuter, and am VERY happy as a private contractor working out of my home... My hero retired this year to "get serious" about our sailboat, and I don't know if he likes his retirement, but I sure do....

AlaskaAngel

Shell

01-23-2006, 06:33 AM

I am a partner in a law firm, with a concentration in commercial litigation. I occasionally get to travel, which is most enjoyable.

My husband and I are approaching our 20th anniversary, and we have two girls, ages 10 and 8. We have lots of caring family nearby, and everyone chips in to give me the time to do fun things like gardening, being a Brownie leader, cooking and being on our town council.

Monique M

01-24-2006, 04:55 PM

Hi Everyone!

I have enjoyed reading about everyone. I am an Immigration Attorney with my own private practice. I generally assist companies in bringing their foreign based personnel into the US. I love it when one of my clients receive a green card and it is even better when they become a US citizen! I have been out of law school for almost 14 years -- so I have been at this for a while.

The best part of my life, however, is my wonderful husband Jim. We have been married for 5 years-- he is a wonderful Southern Gentleman and he reminds me all the time that I am a Yankee who loves a southerner and the south! I have 2 great step children, age 14 and 17 who keep me on my toes.

We just moved to Birmingham, AL. After going through my diagnosis and treatment in a state without family, we made an effort to move into an area with family. We are loving every minute of it. We just moved into our new house on the day after Christmas. We share it with our dog Champ and my chemo cat, Aubie (a gift from my husband during my chemo).

When I am not busy with family or work, I love to cook, travel and read cook books.

Looking forward to reading everyone's posts!

Peace and Blessings,
Monique

Maryanne

01-24-2006, 05:04 PM

This has to be my very favorite post!
Took me awhile to read through all of them, thank you all for posting.
We really are an impressive bunch.
With that said, I am a Landscape Architect. Do both commercial work as well residential. Have a very understanding boss and was able to work throughout treatment. I also volunteer in a pilot art program with Down Syndrome children which is dear to my heart, and am currently putting the finishing touches on illustrations for a third childrens book( have an MFA)
I have two wonderful children, Amanda 23 finishing at UCLA this June and Jarret ( a Hodgkins survivor) who will graduate H.S. in June then off to college, where we have not decided. Am owned by a black long haired cat named BOO.
Enjoy painting, gardening, cross country skiing, children, friends, and making people smile.

mamacze

01-25-2006, 09:01 PM

Rhonda and Maryanne,
Leave it to you two to come up with such a wonderful idea! I am absolutely bowled over by everyones gifts. What a nice family we have here! It is so helpful to get to know you all.
I am a 49 year old mother of 4 kids; ages 11 to 20; two boys, two girls.
I also am an RN (quite a rusty one), but went on to get an MBA and worked in hospital administration for 5 years, than worked as a nursing home administrator for 10 years. I was also fortunate to have manage an inpatient AIDS hospital in New Haven CT for an interim period.
However when I was diagnosed, I retired and I am fortunate to have that option. It was time to focus on hearth and home which is exactly what I am doing now.
It is so nice to meet you all.
Love Kim from CT

Sandy H

02-20-2006, 01:48 PM

I forgot to do mine. Hope its not too late. I will have been married for 32 years in April, have a 27 year old single son. I worked in a hospital for 24 years. Starting out as a Nurse Assistant, Pharmacy Tec., Admissions Clerk, Switchboard Operator, and the past 12 years worked in a very busy Rehab as Office Manager in which I worked harder those last years then on any of the other jobs. I went out on disability/early retirement at the age of 54 when diagnosed with IBC. My hobbies are sewing, painting, knitting, crocheting, gardening and traveling. I volunteer at my church, do a monthly church newsletter, look in on people who need help, take a friend 89 years old shopping, out to eat once a week, do phone support to other bc patients, belong to 3 bc support groups. Now, you ask me why am I not still working? As you all know here all these things I do I can choose when to do them. Some days I do nothing and others I more. If I am not able to get to sleep then I don't worry about it because I will sleep in the next morning. Only you people who have been there and done it understand what I am saying. Some of my friends and relatives just don't get it!!! Well, as I tell them they need to walk in my shoes only a few days and they would know why this is the way I live my life. To the fullest possible and yet keep my quality of life around many, many doctor appointments. After all is said and done I am still able to say, "My life is good". Sandy

saleboat

02-20-2006, 02:41 PM

Wow! We all have so much going on in our lives!

I live in NYC (Manhattan) with my husband of one and a half years (I'm 35). I left big-firm life a year ago to work as an investment manager for a boutique asset management firm. It has been a great move and made going through treatment while working a lot more manageable. Before I went back to graduate school for my MBA, I had done not-for-profit and gov't/political work. My husband is a detective with the NYPD.

We enjoy city life, planning our apartment removation, dining out at NYC's great restaurants, cooking for friends and family, and long-weekend escapes to Cape Cod. When I'm not working, I try to get to the yoga studio, and watch way too much HGTV.

It has been a blessing to get to know all of you through this site.

Jen

Nicola

02-20-2006, 03:31 PM

I am 37 years old and married to my best friend. We have been married almost 6 years now and have known each other our whole lives. We grew up across the street from one another and our Mothers were best friends. Both of us lost our Mothers to breast cancer so we are all too familiar with this horrible disease. We don't have any children together but I have three wonderful step children who live with their Mother, we spend as much of our time with them as possible. We also have a small zoo, we have one large dog, 5 cats, a rabbit, a turtle, 2 parakeets, chickens and a pea hen (female peacock).

I am a self taught artist, I paint mostly Still Life Abstracts in acrylics and also dabble in mixed media. I have sold many of my paintings and have given several away as gifts to family and friends. Painting is my one true passion.

We enjoy camping, canoeing, kayaking, gardening, wood carving, antiqueing, reading, writing and spending time with family and friends.

We are looking forward to a trip to Cape Hatteras this summer where we will ride horses on the beach and celebrate life, love and family.

Cancer and all that it entails may ravish my body but it will never destroy my spirit.

OliviaB

02-20-2006, 03:57 PM

Hi!

I am 36 years old and I live in Baltimore. I am a stay at home mom working harder than I ever did at work with my 5 year old son. Am active in the Moms Club, MOPS and the YSC support group "Breast Friends".

I was dx in Dec. 2004 and currently on Herceptin. Am enjoying having my hair and energy finally back!!!

Olivia

Patty H

02-20-2006, 06:44 PM

After reading all the replys I can say so far I am the only one with this type of job. I worked for 30 years in a GM factory. I was retired a year and a half when DX with breast cancer. It had always crossed my mine wondering if working in a factory around glues and soder, caused my cancer. But so far no one else has posted that. I have been married soon to be 37 years. My husband has been with me through every thing. We always say we are in this together. We have 3 children and 7 grandchildren. He is still working at Haynes International (a factory) and has 3 1/2 years to retirement. We live in a town where at one time all most every one worked in the factories. But little by little they are shutting down. We love to travel and geocaching. Patty H

Cynthia

02-20-2006, 07:13 PM

Reading the posts on this thread explains why this forum is so effective -- its participants are highly accomplished men and women.

I am a private practice attorney specializing in mortgage banking litigation. (We defend the banks when they get sued.) When I was 43, my incredible husband and I headed over to China to bring home our one and only child. Four months later I was diagnosed with B/C. At first I thought, "how can I get through this with a baby." But very quickly thereafter I wondered how I could have done it without her. She is an amazing child whose smile (and Shirley Temple dimples) could solve our nation's energy problems. I did all the standard stuff (bilateral mastectomy, chemo, rads), the less standard stuff (vaccine trial at Walter Reed and ovaries removed), and fought for and now receive late Herceptin. So far, so good (she says with fingers and toes firmly crossed). My daughter was only 16 months when I was diagnosed so she was never scared about any of it and we have only discussed cancer with her on the outermost margins. However, she recently told me (at 3 1/2 years), "Mommy, you used to be very sick." I was stunned of course. I asked her if I still am. She said, "Oh no Mommy, you are fine now. I came to you so you would be better and you are." Now how can I not believe in some grand plan?

The simultaneous arrival of daughter and cancer sure changed my view on what matters in life. Gone are the 6 to 7 days a week at the office that Washington, DC typically demands of its attorneys. I now work three days a week (and take off every President's Day, Columbus Day and MLK day that I would have never dreamed of taking before). I explain to my partners that I would fully understand if they want me to leave but so far they haven't taken me up on the offer (though if and when they do, that's ok -- I'll do something else). I can truly say I am a much happier person now. I even started knitting -- imagine that.

I continue to wish each of you the very best.

Cynthia

sarah

02-21-2006, 09:51 AM

I was a film and videotape editor and also producer/writer of documentaries for TV but after the first time in '99 I couldn't work the very long hours (10 - 18 hours a day) sometimes 7 days a week and my arm has often been a problem. And then the recurrence in 2003 clinched it. My husband is a director/producer/writer mainly of documentaries and long form music shows. He's mainly given up his work to be with me. We've been married for 33 years and he's been wonderful through it all.
Interesting how many of you are RNs.
Sarah

suzan w

02-21-2006, 03:21 PM

I am a retired art teacher from VT, then moved to FL, then house got hit by Hurricane Charley in '04, moved to Washington where my youngest son (27) lives with his wife.My oldest son (30) and his wife are great adventurers and have just left their jobs, children's museum director, and health teacher, to go off on a 4 month backcountry ski trip through the US and Canada. Both boys have diabetes (youngest was 2 when diagnosed, eldest was 10). I live with a wonderful partner (don't think there are many other gay women here!), we love to travel, snowshoe, hike, and are avid birdwatchers. We also have a great little cabin in the high desert of New Mexico. I am in the middle of illustrating a book that a friend has just written...about a girl and her dog and the ravens of New Mexico! Diagnosed with invasive lobular bc in May '05...surgery, chemo...now herceptin for a year.

eric

02-21-2006, 09:30 PM

Hi all,

My wife Caryn has her MSW (Masters in Social Work) and has not worked since being diagnosed stage 4 in 7/04. While she's been feeling great physically she's had a very hard time going back to work. She's afraid that she won't be able to "be there" for others but she has decided to try and go back part time.

I'm the Eastern Regional Sales Manager for a unique company in the Incentive industry. In addition to setting up sales incentive, employee recognition and customer loyalty programs we're also the largest Direct Manufacturer's Representative for top name brands in the country. Needless to say, I love my job and take great pride in the company that I work for, but it pales in comparison to the pride I feel for my wife and kids.

Caryn and I live in New Jersey with our two wonderful children, Jennifer (13) and Zachary (10). The three of them are truly the light of my life.

Eric

Lee

02-22-2006, 08:37 AM

I'm an attorney/lobbyist for a financial services organization. I really enjoy my job, and miss traveling (often to DC). I was diagnosed in Sept. 05 with Her2 +++ breast cancer, had a lumpectomy, and started a chemo regimen of carbo/taxol/herceptin in late October. It was originally thought I was stage II but my pre-chemo PET and CT scans showed 3 lesions on my liver and 1 on my pelvis. Fortunately, a CT I had in December showed all the spots on my liver were reduced by about 2/3 and the lesion on my pelvis was gone. I had another follow-up CT yesterday and will find out results tomorrow.

I am so grateful this site exists, I have learned a LOT and have had some really good discussions with my oncologist because of this site.

Diane H

02-22-2006, 08:55 AM

I am an avid outdoor fan, love my horse, garden, dogs, birdwatching, taking care of my chickens. Also LOVE to go antiquing. As a means to these ends I work as a restaurant manager in a family owned Italian restaurant in Maryland. Iblame the restaurant for 40 lbs of excess weight! LOL> I also love to cook. Am looking for new directions in my life, cancer has been a wake up call for me and I want to give back and grow-- so glad to have found this site and others, Thank you Joe and Christine. Oh and I cannot forget the most wonderful thing in my life, My husband Robert, He is my shining star and support, bless him. He has his own health issues and I hope to be there for him.

BonnieT

02-22-2006, 09:03 AM

Hi
Wow it was great reading everyones posts !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am 42 and have been married to the greatest man for almost 17 years , he has always been there for me !!!
I am a "retired" Respiratoy Therapist, I decided to stay home with our 3 children about 8 years ago. My husband calls me a
"Domestic engineer"
We have 2 boys ages 12 and 8 and one girl age 5.
My husband is a Family Nurse Practitioner and works for a great orthopedic clinic they told him whenever he needs time off for me he can have it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks to all of you for sharing, it's great to have a group of people you can always turn to , you guys are the BEST !!
BonnieT

Marlys

02-27-2006, 10:59 AM

I so enjoy this thread I am Bringing it up again.
Marlys

TriciaK

02-27-2006, 05:07 PM

I hope this thread doesn't get lost! Can it be set apart as a sticky, Joe? I think it has been wonderful to get to know each other a little better, though I would love accompnying photos, too, for everyone. Hugs, Tricia

Tami

02-27-2006, 08:51 PM

I am in Corporate Sales for Callaway Golf. When I was diagnosed in 4/04 I had only been with the company 9 months and they were fantastic. The entire sales organization donated months of vacation to me so that I could take the week off after chemo, etc. It was one of the many blessings that came from this horrible diagnosis.

One of my concerns with the lymph node dissection was whether or not it would affect my golf swing. I am happy to report - so far so good!

I have been married for 21 years to my best friend. We met 33 years ago in 7th grade when we were 12. We have 3 boys - 11, 14 and 16 and at times I feel I live in a frat house. When we got a dog I insisted we get a female to help balance out some of the testosterone in the house. Before I went back to work I had the good fortune of staying home with my boys when they were young. I went back to work when my youngest started 1st grade. We are a pretty active family - golfing, skiing, surfing (bogey boarding for me) and basketball.

Inspite of BC, life is very good.

Best
Tami

Patricia

02-27-2006, 11:54 PM

I am 38 years old and a Sr. Program Manager in IT in a software company. My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 7. We each have 2 kids of our own and together we had a maltese. She is 'our baby'. My mother gave my husband the book "Breast Cancer Husband" when I was diagnosed last summer, but luckily for me he didn't really need it, although we both enjoyed reading it. I was blessed with a wonderful breast cancer husband and there is no way I could have done this with him.

We love flowers, decorating the house, exploring San Francisco (we still explore after 20 years living here)cooking, entertaining and geeky computer stuff.

This post has been wonderful seeing what everyone's non-cancer life entails.
This site has been such a wealth of knowledge for me and I am so grateful for it.

Patricia

Unregistered

03-01-2006, 10:19 AM

What I do for a living is travel, stay current with immediate family (between my husband and myself we have 14 siblings), read, walk, and take care of my dogs -- Gizmo (a papillion) and Penney (a long-haired chihuahua). I love to cook and read cookbooks, I also keep up with my two grandchildren, Angelo and Carlo. I also keep very busy with my daughter (26) and son (21).
I don't spend as much time as I would like to on this board right now...my husband has recently been treated with gamma knife and his cancer that has been "hiding" is starting to appear in the abdomen and chest. He's a great guy and we've been married for 30 years. Right now it's very time-consuming between the internist, neurosurgeon, oncologist, etc. I can't believe we have a family oncologist.

What I do for a paycheck -- I am an Executive Assistant who works with a private investor who manages his family's portfolios and a private foundation. We have worked together for 30 years believe it or not. I have a great job with great hours (10:00 until 4:00) and a boss that understands family comes before anything.

I love "hearing" from everyone, and promise to get more involved in time.

Unregistered

03-01-2006, 10:26 AM

I forgot to sign my prior message, since I wasn't logged in.

Vi Schorpp

jjfromcanada

03-01-2006, 06:58 PM

A friend who also has bc once said her health is her job and reading through this and so many other posts in so many other threads makes me think that applies to many of us. Maybe an avocation for some, but our health is very much part of our daily "job".

I am a training and technical writer. Sometimes. Whenever I can find a contract and sometimes I don't look very hard. Mostly I like to ski and golf and read. And I work on my health.

Diane Nathan

03-01-2006, 08:03 PM

This is a wonderful Forum for us all to express ourselves. I have either volunteered or worked in the health field for women. In the early 80,s while living in Dallas, I helped with the start up of the Susan Komen Foundation by helping women who did not have insurance get mammograms at Parkland Hospital. My Husband was COO of Parkland at the time. From there I worked for 2 Gyn Oncologists until we moved to Florida. I then worked at a Breast Center in Miami part time until 1998. Our youngest went off to college, we have 3 wonderful children and 4 Grandchildren, so my husband and I decided to move to a Country Club Community in Delray Beach. Several of us in our community started making Breast Cancer Bracelets to sell and a yearly golf tourny to raise money for Cancer Reaseach. Little did I know that 2 years later, in 2003, I would be diagnosed with BC........How it hits home! My community and Country Club has been absolutely wonderful, raising more money each year. It has become like a full time job to several of us.

My Husband has been wonderful and stayed home for 2 months helping me decide what to do but he had to return to work which included traveling (he helps hospitals that are in financial trouble) so my daughter who lives in Dallas and her 2 children moved in with me for 7 months during treatment. She litteraly gave up her life so I wouldn't be alone. I just had to mention how important family and support is, especially at a time like this and how grateful I am to have it. This site is part of this wonderful support system.

Thank you all for sharing.
Diane Nathan
Diagnosed at 55 in 2003

Marlys

03-16-2006, 09:58 PM

Just bringing it forward again!
Marlys

madubois63

03-17-2006, 07:42 AM

I never saw this thread and am glad to learn about everyone. I see a lot of you are/were in the health care field. I once read something about artificial light being a culprit...also someone mentioned chemicals.

I worked in the printing industry for nearly 20 years. Not blaming anyone, but I am sure that the stuff I worked with was not good for me. I started at 18 as a part time secretary (should have stayed that way) for a small printing company...before long, I was operating a huge camera that needed two rooms - one room for the actual camera where I loaded artwork that was to be printed and the dark room where I loaded large sheets of film (20 x 24) and then developed the negatives. I mixed chemicals and used large open trays for developing for years. I also burned plates (for the presses) and developed them with more chemicals. After getting married and having two babies to care for, I worked at a gym running the nursery. Hectic, but good job to have when you have kids...I brought my kids with me. when the kids started school so did I...I worked at a teacher's aide so that I had off when the kids had off. As they got older, I decided it was time to go back to work full time. I took a job at another print shop. My husband and I divorced at that time and then I was diagnosed with IBC. After chemo, I received SSD and was able to stay at home and recoup from surgery and radiation. I then went to college and finally earned my Associates in Paralegal Studies {with honors :) }. I did an internship at a great firm that ended up offering me a job. I handled divorce cases and loved my job. I also continued on with school, working towards my Bachelors and did bankruptcies on the side. And then came the cough...Since the relapse I have not worked. Now my official job is surviving and taking care of the kids (my son is 16, my daughter is almost 15 and my baby is a Bernese Mountain dog). I now spend my time going to the oncology center, cleaning and cooking, reading, surfing the net, painting glass, support groups, Reiki and I just started drawing again.

Joe

03-17-2006, 08:25 AM

I have been married for 23 years to Christine, the founder of this group. We will be celebrating our 23rd anniversary at ASCO in June.

I have degrees from Rutger's Universary and Fairleigh Dickenson Universary and was attending graduate school at William Paterson Universary when Christine had a recurrence in 1999. I also received training at the DeVry Institute in electronics. I am currently a Senior Field Engineer for a defense contractor in San Diego which allows me to travel throughout California.

We had already decided to move to California and had our home sold when Christine had an attack of Vertigo. She was DX'ed with mets to the chest and brain. She left for CA on July 5, 1999 with my youngest daughter, Danielle, in order to start treatment in San Diego.

I stayed behind with my oldest daughter, Debra, to pack our belongings and complete the sale of our home.

Christine's disease and this website has been a truly eye opening experience. Not only has my knowledge of breast cancer increased, but I have met many of the prominant cancer researchers. Most importantly, many of you are like family to both me and Christine.

Two of my most favorite quotes:

"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming... "Wow! What a ride!" - Anon

"When you come to a fork in the road, take it." - Yogi Berra

Unregistered

03-17-2006, 01:41 PM

Hi- I left my job as a Music Teacher last February when I discovered lymphedema in my arm.It was then that I finally had time to be checked and the recurrence was discovered. My heart goes out to anyone who needs to continue working while they are battling the disease, as I find it is a full time job.My husband is in real estate. I have two children- a girl and a boy, ages 20 and 16.I have a new baby grandson, one month old who is so sweet and beautiful. I love to laugh and I spend much of my time looking for the biggest laugh I can find.I also like writing poems and reading spiritual books."The Imitation of Christ" by Thomas a'Kempis is one of my favorites. Also, the writings of St.Thomas Aquinas,St. Alphonsus Liguori,and my absolute favorite, St. Francis de Sales. One of my favorite quotes from him is;
"Love Heavenly desires, and desire Heavenly love." ; St. Francis de Sales always tried to set aside an hour a day for prayer, except when he was extremely busy- then he set aside two. He said we must give God first claim on our time, interiorly if not always exteriorly.
Cancer ultimately has been a gift to me. Before the diagnosis, I did not appreciate the great gift of this precious life and how to joyfully embrace every single second and thank God for it. Now, with one foot in eternity, I praise and thank my Creator with every breath He gives me and I pray that I may help draw others closer to Him as they learn of His infinite love for them.

Chelee

03-17-2006, 01:41 PM

I worked for years at Beckman Instruments doing all kinds of different jobs. Great place to work. Then worked at a local newspaper for years and enjoyed that. Then became disabled due to a congenital back problem at age 30.
I stepped into a pre-made family when I met my hubby back when working at Beckman and rasied two wonderful step-kids that I love dearly. They are everything to me. They are now grown and out on there own...but they stay in touch and I see then often. I also have four wonderful grandchildern that are all the light of my life.

I have been married 26 years and going strong. My husband has been a awesome support system to me since my cancer diagnoses. He takes me to ALL my treatments and doctors appointments. He changed his work schedule so that he could be with me all the time. He has been fantastic. Without him I don't know if I could of made it this far.

As far as hobbies and things I enjoy...I love swimming, playing pool, taking pictures, bicycle riding, walks on the beach, boating and fishing, camping. I haven't been able to do much since my diagnoses...but I sure have plans to once I get through my treatment if all goes well.

I love animals and have ALWAYS had them in my life. I can't imagine life without them. Unfortunely I just had to put my kitty cat of 17 years to sleep due to a serious kidney problem. :( But I still have a turner & hooch dog and a toy poodle. They are girl friend and boyfriend. Quite the pair. lol

So for now...I am just focused on beating my cancer and doing all I can to get better. I guess for now I am a homemaker and do what I can when I feel well enough through my chemo treatments.

I am so thankful to have found this board and all the awesome people that I have met here. Its by far the best board I have found. I have learned so much and everyone is so helpful. God Bless everyone.

Unregistered

03-17-2006, 01:44 PM

Sorry- I didn't sign my name to my previous post- CathyW

MCS

03-17-2006, 07:32 PM

Oh what a wonderful idea this was.

There's so much to each and everyone of us and our caregivers! You are such a great group of people - you are my information and inspiration

Could we place this in a special place?

Ok here's me:)

I was a cash manager at a very large Los Angeles entertainment company. I am an accountant and have an MBA in Finance. I used to love my job but was working 10-12 hours a day for the past three years, plus weekends and vacations, oh yeah- I think the stress here triggered my BC. I was 49 when dx in July 2005.
I did lose my job in a department re structure this January. where did the 10 hours go?

I am married, almost 25 years. My sweetie Paul is an engineer. Have two daughters Megan (21) lives at home and is in college, a psychology major, I tell her I am her first case! Youngest daughter is Kirsten (18) and graduating from high school this year, she's a handful.

Right now, I'm home. Trying to beat this thing. Enjoying all the family life I did not have for the last three years. I like to knit and sew. All crafts really. Love to cook. Hopefully this Summer I will be able to work in my yard. Would like to back to work but we'll see

I sign on as MCS, my initials. chose this because there are so many Maria out there

Blessed all of you.

MCS (Maria)

Jackie

03-18-2006, 04:10 PM

I am 47. I am an Elementary Resource Teacher (I work with Learning Challenged kids in 1st & 2nd grade). I have been teaching for 25 years. I have been married to a wonderful, supported man for 26 years in May. I have two children, son 22 (in grad. school) & daughter 18 (HS senior).

I am new to this site and see it as a great help in my journey. I wish I had found it earlier. I was diag. 4/05. Have finished with chemo. and Herceptin (was suppose to take Herceptin until 9/06, but heart strength has dropped too much.)

Thanks to all who post on this site and to Joe & Christine for providing this support group.

Jackie

helenh

03-18-2006, 07:27 PM

Hello All

I'm so glad to have found you all, although I seem to sit back, read many posts and take it all in, this site has been a godsend.

When I was diagnosed Jan 2005 I had been working as an Assistant Manager of a Bank 40-45 hours per week, in a way I feel my body was telling me to slow down. I had worked in the banking industry for over 30 years. Taking a year off work 3 operations, 4 A/C & 4 Taxol, has left me with mild lympaedema and neuropathy in fingers and toes. I'm currently on a gradual return to work program and negotiating with my Health Insurance for late Herceptin, (my chemo finished July 05), in Australia we have to pay for Herceptin for Early BC.

With positive support from my family; married 25 years, son 19 old and myself being the eldest of 10, 3 brothers and six sisters and friends have kept me going on this journey.

Best wishes to all
Love
Helenhttp://www.her2support.org/vbulletin/images/icons/icon7.gif

Liz J.

03-18-2006, 09:49 PM

Hi all,

I live in Brooklyn, N.Y. and am 48yrs old. Was dx 4/05. Had mast. 6 rounds of CAF and am currently receiving Herceptin every 3 weeks. I have been working as a Human Resource Specialist (liked it better when we called it Personnel) for the past 20 years. I worked full time until dx. Was home for 6 months and now work 3 days a week. I have a great hubby, he is a retired police officer and I have a 26 year old son who is currently teaching high school. I also have two girls. (Golden Retrievers) They are such loves. I always have been an animal lover. I enjoy cooking, reading, tending to my many plants and love going to Atlantic City. No, not a chronic gambler. Just a favorite getaway. I get so much solace and information from this site. Don't know what I would do without you. One night my computer was acting up and I almost panicked. Many thanks to Christine & Joe for getting this going and for all who have been so supportive. Most importantly I must Thank God that we have come a long way. My thoughts and prayers are with all. Hugs, Liz

Sue2001

03-25-2006, 10:03 PM

Hi all,

I was diagnosed in January 2001 at age 40 with Her2+++, ER-, PR-, stage 3 BC. I had 3 tumors in the breast with 4/13 nodes positive. I had a mastectomy, 3 months dose dense AC, 3 months of weekly Taxol and then a year of Herceptin. I was in a clinical trial for early stage Herceptin treatment and I credit Herceptin with my being NED since.

When I was diagnosed I worked as a store manager for a large retailer. The job required 60+ hours a week and overseeing 200+ employees. I tried to continue to work through the chemo but found it was too difficult and eventually took a leave of absense. When my treatment was over I decided not to go back. It took breast cancer to make me realize that I was a workaholic and missing precious time with my family. I also wasn't taking care of my health; physically, emotionally or spiritually. I was lucky that I could afford to stop working. It was the best decision of my life. I now spend a lot more time with my husband of 25 years, my son Michael, my beautiful grandson Jace, my parents and sisters. Cancer is a horrible disease but it is also the catalyst for some very positive changes in my life.

I love to hike in the White Mountains here in New Hampshire. I also enjoy reading, writing, drawing, playing the piano, camping, yoga and working in my gardens. When I finished my treatment my mother and sisters took me on a celebration-vacation to Cape Cod, MA. We had such a great time together that we have made this an annual event. It's a time when all of us girls can spend quality time together. I also volunteer with the Dartmouth Hitchcock Cancer Center talking with newly diagnosed breast cancer patients. I am continually amazed at how strong women are.

Being new to this HER2 group I enjoyed learning something about each of you. This thread is an excellent idea. The site itself is excellent -- thank you Joe and Christine. I look forward to getting to know you all better.

Hugs to everyone, Sue

lisahammo

03-26-2006, 07:25 AM

Hi everyone

Glad I found this thread. I am 41 y.o., married for 6 years and have a 5 y.o. son. He has just started primary school, and I don't work, so I have time to myself, which is wonderful.

Over the years I have worked in accounting practices, for a plastic surgeon, trained as a beauty therapist, waitressed and that's about it.

I love cooking, socialising with friends, genealogy, and just spending time with my family. They are the most precious thing to me. WE have just added to our family with a gorgeous female Spoodle called Coco.

Lisa

dberg

03-26-2006, 09:48 AM

I was dx at age 45 in the summer of 2004. I am a teacher, but just subbing right now. I can't wait to go back to those toothless 1st graders in the fall. My wonderful husband and I have been married for 25 years, have 3 great kids (20, 18, 16) and a 2 year old yellow lab.

Jackie

04-09-2006, 03:21 PM

Just bring this forward.

jener8er

04-09-2006, 05:24 PM

I guess it's my turn then :) I'll be 40 in August, was diagnosed in Oct 04. I used to work as a secretary for a "Big Six" accounting firm, but have been home with my kids since '95. I now have 4 kids - 13, 11, 6 and 3 - and don't have time to work! I do the bookkeeping for my husbands 2 video companies, and that keeps me very busy. Originally from the UK, but now living in California, just outside LA. Glad to be here and getting Herceptin and not having to fight for it like everyone else in the UK. I wish my family was closer, that's one thing this whole experience has taught me. I've been married for 15 years and my husabnd has not dealt with this well at all, partly because HIS Mom died of BC when he was 20 - not a good experience for him. Still kinda struggling through the whole thing, but feeling very well. Brain MRI tomorrow, so all posititve thoguhts will be appreciated!

LOVE LOVE LOVE this site, everyone on it, and all the information and support available here. It's a club none of wanted to belong too, but I am amazed at some of the great people I've come to meet over the past year and a half. OK, I'm done!

jhandley

04-09-2006, 11:14 PM

Hi

I am one of those who do a few different things. I am a teacher, an Army Reservist, a scientist and a single mum of Annie aged 9. I am also a 5 year survivor of BC. I am into outdoor activities particularly canoeing/kayaking and cross-country skiing. Lately I have taken up biathlon (ski and shoot) and run a competition for cadets every winter. I also play piano, guitar and the bodhran and am involved with our local drama production of Blackadder ( playing the Queen). Having BC has made me do more things perhaps because of the possible time limitations in the future..I am also planning to do volunteer ski patrol this year and am midway through an advanced first aid course.

cheers
Jackie

tricia keegan

04-10-2006, 01:28 PM

Hi before dx I was a sales mgr,mainly top end furniture and designing kitchens,I also did interior design.I took a year out for treatments and to rest as my job was very stressful with long hours.I have two daughters and a son and three adorable kittens and one older long suffering cat! I don't see my children too often as my daughter is a teacher in Oman and my son is married to a japenese girl living in Scotland but moving to Japan shortly.I do see my youngest daughter every second weekend as she lives near college.I love to read swim and walk and since dx last year spend time on my laptop.I discovered the Komen site last year which was a great support to me and just recently found this site which is brilliant and everyone seems very friendly and helpful so I hope to get to know you all a bit better over the coming months.Not sure when I will return to work as yet as I still have some treatments to go but enjoying the rest.:)
Tricia

Barbara

04-10-2006, 02:40 PM

Hi:

I am a retired hospital administrator with a Masters in Hospital and Health Administration. I was diagnosed 1/04 stage 2B, 3.5 cm, one of 13 nodes positive. I had 4 A/C and 4 Taxol teatments and am nearing the end of my second year of Hercpetin. Unfortunately, my Herceptin was sequential and not concurrent. I have four great children, three are married and four little grandson's between 4 months and four years of age. I am now 61 years of age and hoping to beat the odds. I have the most supportive children/spouses and my husband of almost 35 years to cheer me on.

Barbara

Marlys

04-27-2006, 10:05 AM

Just bringing it forward again. Would love to hear more about some of you who post frequently and have not add to this thread.
Marlys

julie a

04-30-2006, 05:51 PM

Hi All

From Melbourne Australia, 47 yrs young and just diagnosed staged 4 (lung).

Have worked for the government either in the water industry or telecommunications doing a myriad of admin/account activities. Have 2 wonderful kids that are 22 and 21, two very cute dogs (king charles spaniel x maltese) and a fantastic partner of 17 years. Still keep in contact with the kids father which is a plus.
Love anything outdoors - love golf and really really enjoy gardening and grow alot of vegetables and fruit including thornless berries -raspberries, blueberries, loganberries, blackberries, strawberries..yum. Really enjoy listening to the birds in my backyard - eastern spinebills,blue wrens, firetails etc.
Had a great trip to Canada/Alaska last year - beautiful country!
Have a great oncologist who is a gem!
No one else in family with this. I have a twin brother and sister and very healthy parents that are coping well with all this and feel as if my whole family are truly spoiling me. Enjoy every day!

SherriT

05-01-2006, 11:17 PM

I am 37 and was diagnosed in Dec/05 with stage IIIb invasive breast cancer (IBC). There is no family history of breast cancer so this came as a very big shock to someone who has generally never been sick a day in her life.

I am a paralegal at a large law firm but have not worked since just after being diagnosed. I have been married to a wonderful man for seven years (we've been together for over 14 years) and have the most precious [soon to be] five year old boy.

I am now starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel with chemo treatments and am now having to make the surgical decision of "remove just the one or both". I keep saying that it would be so much easier to make the decision if someone would just tell me what the 'right' decision to make is.

This site has been a huge source of information for me. Thank you to everyone who posts to it. I wish you all nothing but the best for the future.

Petesmom

05-02-2006, 06:58 PM

I am an administrative assistant with a new project that is working to increase family practice doctors in rural Alabama. I just transitioned into this job after working for over 6 years with a Robert Wood Johnson Foundation grant called the Southern Rural Access Program which dealt with addressing access to health care issues in 8 southern states. That was a great program and I felt like I was part of a family that included Alabama, Arkansas, Goergia, Louisiana, East Texas, South Carolina, Mississippi and West Virginia. There are some wonderful people out there working to improve health care for rural, underserved folks. Before the admin assistant job, I was a therapist at a mental health center ( I have a masters degree in counseling) working with adults and older adults in nursing homes. When I had my first bout with bc in 1998, I felt I needed to get out of that stressful environment which is how I found my current bosses. It was the best move I could have made. Life is good.

Petesmom

cosmicdust

05-03-2006, 03:00 AM

I live in northern Minnesota with my husband of 11 years. I am 50+ years young and dx'd stage 4/mets liver & spine 11/05. On the prior path of life (b4 bc) I was a mainframe software engineer and business analyst for a major health insurance provider. (ironic!?) I have 3 grown children and 8 super :-)grandchildren. (ages 16 to 1 year)
My husband (Dave) and I have 40 acres not far from the hq of the Mississippi. We have an 'oldie but goodie' 5th wheel parked out there and will soon be camping out! (got elect & water recently!) My in inlaws will soon be returning from Az to join us out there for the summer. Hubby drives school bus and occasionally OTR with his brother. (he prefers to be in the woods!)
I am starting herceptin/taxotere today (3 weeks) with Zometa monthly. From reading the postings in this site from you all, I have added faith that this disease CAN be controlled. I am still on the planet and fighting!
Blessings to all from Minnesota and 10Q!!!

sadie

05-11-2006, 08:46 PM

I live in lower Michigan. 52 yrs old; Dx Oct 2005 w/1cm IDC; No family history of bc;
Work as a billing specialist at an engineering firm for almost 20 years.
Before that, I worked for 12 years in the medical field as a registration clerk at a hospital and then as a biller at a neurologist's office.
I have a daughter who is married and has given me the most precious granddaughter, almost 3 yrs old; and a son who just recently moved to Washington.
Before bc, I was caring for my mother who has alzheimer's. We had to put her into a nursing home once I was diagnosed. I didn't know if I would be able to care for her any longer. My family and friends have been wonderful supporters thru-out these trying times.
I love to read, surf the net, shop for the home, dine with friends, watch tv(big fan of "Lost"); Also like sitcoms. I have 2 cockerspaniels that also keep me busy. I plan on living a long, healthy, happy life!

RhondaH

06-10-2006, 02:50 AM

as the last entry was a month ago:)

Rhonda

LOPSIDED

06-10-2006, 06:33 AM

HI, I'M 41 AND WAS DIAGNOSED IN SEPTEMBER 2005. 2.5 CM TUMOR IN RIGHT BREAST, 8 POS. LYMPH NODES, A/C, MASTECTOMY, TAXOTERE, RADS AND NOW 1 YEAR OF HERCEPTIN. I'V BEEN WORKING AS A BANK TELLER THE LAST 6 YEARS. I AM SO GLAD I FOUND THIS SITE. IT HAS SHOWED ME THAT YOU CAN SURVIVE AND GO ON, I ADMIRE EVERYONES STRENGTH & COURAGE AND WANT YOU TO KNOW HOW MUCH IT HAS HELPED ME TO READ YOUR STORIES. I ALSO TAKE CARE OF MY FATHER WHO IS 89 AND HAS HAD 2 STROKES. I DO HAVE HELP FROM MY SISTER. LIFE IS A CHALLENGE AND I KNOW SOMEHOW I WILL FIND A WAY. SHEILA

rinaina

06-10-2006, 07:04 AM

This was a great idea, a way to get to know more about everyone other than their cancer histories. I am a retired dental hygienist. Four and a half years ago I had a 4 level cervical disectomy and fusion and was told by my neurosurgeon and my rheumatologist to give it up due to a few other bad disks that they couldn't operate on due to where they were located, (too much of a threat to the brain). Then 2 1/2 years later I had a tumor removed from my parotid gland...a by product of having Sjogren's Syndrom...they were worried it was lymphoma but thank G-d it wasn't. then 1 1/2 year later I had b.c. So basically now I guess you could say I am a full time manager of my health and becoming an expert researcher. I will be married 33 years this August to my high school sweetheart who is a CPA and we have a 27 yr old daughter who is a teacher and a 24 yr old son who just finished his 2nd year of law school. I am very thankful and appreciative for this wonderful life I have been given and intend on living this life out for many years to come.

astrid

06-10-2006, 07:13 AM

I work for AT&T as a process engineer. I have worked for AT&T for 22 years. Another 8 and I will have 30 years and I WILL retire. I have been with my husband and best friend for 25 years. I have a 21 year old son and two step children, 25 & 28. My son is enrolled in a dual degree program with Elon University and NC State University. He will graduate with a BS in Computer Engineering and a BS in computer science with a minor in Math. I have two cats, a dog, an 80 gallon fish tank and a dozen hummingbirds. We have a place at North Topsail beach and we all love the ocean. We will be going to French Polynesia for our wedding anniversary in September.

panicked911

06-10-2006, 10:38 AM

Great idea:

When I was diagnosised last Septemeber - I was workig as an attorney specializing in all types of litigation - Now needless to say all of that has chnaged and I am only working part time on a greatly reduced scheduled.

For me, the law was second career, previously I worked as a journalist for 16 years until the kids came and my mother became very ill and subsequestly passed away in 1998. Hence law school.

My husand hasbeen a saint thru all of this and I relalize I have been very fortunate that mt cancer was diagnosied early ( stage 1 no nodes) and that I live near and am being treated at major NY cancer center ( MSK) - my 10-year old daughter's best friend father is a doc there so when I freaked out he stepped in and paved the way.

I have 7 more herceptain treatments left ( it will be atruely happy thanksgiving ) and as the trweatments are progressing it is getting harder to work - I am losing words, my memory is shot and I beleive I am ADD. STill thru it all I realize I am very lucky.

I have two children a son who is 13, and a daughter 10 ( i received my diagnosis on her 10th b'day) . My kids do not know and neither do many fo my friends - I have chosen to kep this very private - hence my sign on. Since then I have been immersing myself in the PTA ( I am VP this year) and sit on the school's foundation board) and renovating a new house - anything to keep my mind busy.

thank you all for all of the information and support you provide.

Susanne

LovingDaughter

06-10-2006, 11:30 AM

I am a brand new first year (almost second year) attorney! I started out as a corporate transactional attorney, but I switched to become a health care attorney after my mom was diagnosed. I decided that I liked the idea of working with doctors! I still do a lot of transactional work, but now I assist with buying and selling hospitals instead of assisting my clients to set up ventures overseas (I've never been a big fan of outsourcing etc. anyways!). I also take on a lot of pro-bono cases. Right now I am defending a breast cancer survivor from an overreaching large international bank.

My mom is in the title business, and my boyfriend of seven years is an artist/graphic designer (he does animation, toy design and the like).

I have only one child--a small 4 pound chihauha named Tinkerbell. She keeps all of us sane when times get tough.

I loved reading about all of you =)

bobbiw

06-10-2006, 11:50 AM

My entire work career has been working for people who have disabilities; developmental and mental health issues. I was working for a private company who provides residential services. My job was supervising clients and the staff that support them. I am 49 (soon to be 50) and have not worked since I began chemo (12-6-05). I just finished weekly Taxol and an now continuing weekly Herceptin for a year. I am anxiously awaiting to have reconstructive surgery and am pondering if I am 'with it' enough to go back to work between now and then. I have a very supportive husband who I have been married to for the past 14 years. We live in Minnesota. Although I dont post often I do visit the board often.
Bobbi

RhondaH

07-20-2006, 02:31 AM

Hi everyone!

Ora

07-20-2006, 01:25 PM

I am so glad you bumped this thread up. After reading your bios, you all seem so real to me now. I am glad I found this forum. I am a 55 year old Choctaw Indian (1/2), 2 grown sons, 4 grandchildren, and a wonderful husband of 25 years. I am a Radiation Safety Officer for a large energy company. I'd tell you the name but since I'm using their computer, they may be looking for a way to get rid of me. I've been with this company for 30 years. I do lots of radiological decommissioning, environmental work, industrial health and safety and project management. I love my job but it's getting harder to do. My mother is 78, lives next door and takes care of me. I wish I had a tenth of her energy. We have one granddaughter who lives close and like to spend time with her. All my others live in California, but we try to see them as much as possible. I like to go fishing with my husband, and most Saturdays my mom & I go to Wal-Mart, K-Mart, garage sales, out to eat, and then play bingo at the Indian casinos. Sundays, we go to church and ask forgiveness. We do live the Okie dream!

geraldine

07-20-2006, 07:40 PM

What a great idea, Well done Rhonda..!!

I run a bar and have done so for many years. I get great enjoyment from this job and have found people to be so caring and considerate ( there have been the exceptions to the rule, but they're in all walks of life).

When i first became ill, these very people were fantastic, raising funds for research and lots of other stuff on my behalf. Every year now we hold a "Stars In Your Eyes" and every one joins in, myself included. It's great fun.

Because of this type of work, it also becomes my social life, but their is Life after Work and this has become more apparent since taking ill.

I have three children..Steven 33 Tracy 31 and Christopher 29. I have 5 beautiful grandchildren, Jamie 12, Kiera 6, Erin 4, Chloe 1 and last but not least Kerry 8 wks.. No. 6 is due in october. If there is a will to live... They Are It for me.!!

At this particular time in life, I am on my own ( No partner ) and yes, I get lonely at times but when I see their little faces.....everything falls into place and nothing else matters.

Life at this moment is sweet, I have my family, Friends, very good workmates but most of all, My Health, cos without that......!!!

Keep these threads going, because they are inspirational.

God Bless to All
Geraldine x

chrisy

07-20-2006, 08:39 PM

Thanks for bumping this up. I needed to be reminded I am more than my diagnosis!

I'm the CFO/Controller for a skateboard company, and have been for 10 years. I left a Fortune 100 company after 17 years and vowed I'd never wear panty hose again! I love my work (most of the time), and as long as my coworkers keep laughing when I tell them I'm old enough to be their mother, I figure I'm doin ok! I feel really blessed to have found "true love" in the workplace - my boss and co-workers have been beyond supportive in my journey.

I live with the love of my life, John, to whom I've been married for 16 years. We met in college in Illinois in 1974, went our separate ways, and "found" each other again 2000 miles west and 12 years later. We have no children, so we get to act like children ourselves. When I need to be reminded why I'm here, I look at him or go visit my sister and wonderful 10 year old niece - (in Chicago burbs) who I very much want to see grow up to become a beautiful young lady.

kat in the delta

07-26-2006, 01:39 PM

Hey Ya'll !
Guess that shows you where I live--Yeah, in the Mississippi Delta about 90 miles south of Memphis, the home of the king--in Clarksdale,MS which is the" Home of the Blues" !!
It's so flat here that for years I thought the Levee was a Mountain, where I used to get cardboard boxes and slide down that levee 'til the grass was as slick as ice .
Now, I'm 52, have a BA from Ole Miss in French, then English, then Math, then to my calling of Sp. Ed.,taught all,but now at home. I have traveled some in my days, but not far- as of late. My father was Italian. My mother--mixture of German/Dutch/Am.Indian. I married a pharmacist and have 3 sons (no girls yet): oldest is a Finance Director, the knee-baby is in final yr of Law School @Ole Miss, and the babyboy-child is still classified as a sophomore, altho'almost 23yrs old, but has finally discovered his unique gift in life--composing classical music on the piano !!!
This appeared about 2 and a half yrs. ago when he was working in PA and keeping the houses of relatives who had gone to Africa for the winter.--can't even read or write it, ne'er lesson one !! That child didn't want a soul to know and kept it secret for a while until he got home, and we had moved into my inlaws(dec.) home where I had the old baby grand revived after 50 yrs.----- I heard this beautiful sound coming out of the livingroom-----what a change from the stuff he had listened to in the past. It is truly quite a story ........e-mail me if you really want to know.....a month ago, the artist Peter Corbin (www.petercorbin.com (http://www.petercorbin.com)) flew him to New York to provide background music for a slideshow of oil paintings and readings from Peter's new book, An Artist's Creel.
With this CHEMO-Brain of mine I cannot get myself Organized or on TIME to do anything-----I am even LATE for my Onc who is 2 miles away.
I have lost a little wt., my wits, and my hair is coming back in all colors of blonde, brown and grey, and in ALL directions, too !!! Me and my surroundings look alike at this point. Somebody please tell me -- --------Willl it get Better ???------ Our Blues Fest. is Aug.11-13 in Clarksdale, Mississippi and I've been making up songs for Super Chikan. Ya'll got some blues songs,too i bet. You can listen to S.Chikan on the links on website of www.daddy (http://www.daddy) rich.net --Chikan and Morgan Freeman are buddies ------ talk to ya'll later--kat in the delta

MJo

07-27-2006, 09:05 AM

I am 55, Italian-American, Single and am a grant proposal writer/fundraiser for a multi-services social service agency that serves immigrants and others. Live in Delaware. I used to be an editor for a small local magazine. I like using my writing skills to solve social problems. MJO

tousled1

07-28-2006, 05:44 AM

I'm 59 and retired. I retired in July 2005 but not due to breast cancer. I took disability retirement after I had my lumbar spine fused (L3-S1). I had worked for the government and spent 7 1/2 years overseas and after my return to the states decided to pursue a different career. I then worked for the teacher's union until retirement. I have 3 children. My son passed away September 2 ,2002 of leukemia (AML), my youngest daughter is an aspiring actress and lives in Chicago, and my other daughter is the mother of my one and only grandchild - Eli, and lives in Georgia. I relocated to Georgia after I went on disability and currently live with my daughter, son-in-law and grandson. I have no significant other in my life but I do hope to get out on my own again once I complete my treatment. I'm too young to be living with my daughter and her family -- Need to spread my wings while I still can.

simimom

07-28-2006, 09:10 PM

I'm so glad I found this group. You are all so informative and positive. I'm fairly new to the group -- I've looked but haven't posted much. I just turned 54. I'm single mom of an 18 year old son who will be starting college in August. He has been my "rock -- I've been able to share my decisions re treatment, my fears and concerns with him. I'm a legal assistant with a family law firm in Los Angeles. I've been with my wonderful boss for the last 16 years. I was diagnosed with IBC in January 2005. After chemo, surgery and radiation, I am finished with all my treatment. I was on herceptin for one year (until Feb. 06). I am now concentrating on reconstructive surgery and working full-time. I've also become interested in volunteering for ACS. I enjoy reading, movies, hanging out with friends, and joking about my cancer -- what's the point of having a life threatening disease if you can't joke about it! Aside from the obvious drawbacks (treatment, etc.), this has actually been an eye-opening experience. I have so many new friends. Thank you all.

dilly

07-29-2006, 01:01 AM

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dawn

07-30-2006, 04:46 PM

Hi Rhonda,

ITs so nice to talk about something besides cancer once in awhile. Im an accounting assistant. I only work during the tax season in the year and take the rest of the year off to be with my kids. It works out great for all of us and now its working out even better.
Dawn

Rendi69CA

07-31-2006, 07:49 PM

I am a certified instrument tech for surgery.

Yorkiegirl

07-31-2006, 08:05 PM

I have no idea how I ever missed this post.

I am/was a Licensed Veterinary Technician.
I took a LOA when I was diag, with Cancer last year.
So, far I haven't been able to bring myself to go back to work.
I just hate the idea of having to give shot's, do blood draws or assit in surgery on animals after all I have been thru.

Christine MH-UK

08-04-2006, 02:58 PM

My field is a social science one where running experiments is usually just not practical, but we had to learn all about experiments for controlled trials anyway. Oh well, I guess I've found a use for those skills now.

I have a little three year old, who is a joy, and a husband, who is wonderful. Also, an excellent oncologist.

I read some research once that breast cancer patients who participate in chatrooms are usually people who have a wide circle of friends and everything to live for (I think that the researchers were hoping that it would provide support to people who didn't have other sources of support). I think that this list shows it.

athena453

08-04-2006, 10:24 PM

I missed this also!

I work for a wine distributor in the mid Atlantic in brand development and marketing. I was a restaurant GM for several years after college (studied art history). Got sick of the crazy hours.
I live with my boyfriend of 3 years with two cats orange long haired and Siamese!

Found the "lump" myself, (though it was way too large to be a lump!), no family history.

No kids, just my kitties and wonderful boyfriend...he's a keeper!

KathyA

08-05-2006, 03:41 PM

I am really a new member and happy to be on board.

I have been a teacher for 38 years, second grade through ninth. 22 years in catholic school the rest in inner city public school. The first 32 years were exceptional. The last 20 years of my career I taught computers. Working in an inner city school was good until the last 4 or 5 years. It became difficult to say the least. When my onc called asking me to come in to see him, telling me that I had a hole in my chest, I left that afternoon to see him and never returned to work. (May 5, 2005) With mets to bone, liver and lungs, I took it as a sign that it was time to retire, one of my best decisions. May 5th was 18 months after I finished treatment the first time.

My husband and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary. We have a daughter 23 who is still finding herself. Charles is still teaching in the city of Mount Vernon which is in New York. He's been there for 28 years and still loves it. He also taught 10 years in catholic school. He is an avid tennis player. Plays every day of the week and at this moment is at a tournament in Cape Cod. He is ranked 8th in the men’s 55 USTA mid-Atlantic division.

I kayak, garden, stitch work, build - as to build a side porch, hide a bed, decorative fence. I like building things the best but don’t do that now or kayak either. I’m not strong enough and I’m afraid of cutting myself. I have done that pretty regularly in the past, cut myself that is.

I often have Saturday or/and Sunday breakfast with friends. This is most important to me.

I love the ocean and walking on the beach. We have a newly inherited home there and I have been able to get there twice this summer and hope to make it again soon.

Basically I’ve had chemo every week for the past 14 months.

Thanks everyone for caring and sharing your prayers, best wishes and info.

Val Pfeiffer

08-06-2006, 08:23 AM

I just changed jobs. I was inspired after my breast cancer diagnosis to go back to work in the field of health care. At the time of diagnosis I was VP of Marketing and Business Development for a financial institution. Four months ago I took a position with the health plan that is part of the integrated health organization that I worked with eight years ago (although at that time I worked in admin for the clinic part of the business). Fortunately I was able to convince the health plan that I could be Director of Product Development at a health plan without any prior health insurance experience. I am learning a lot and I love it. BTW, this is the same health plan to which I submitted the request to go out of network for radiation treatments...I was a member of theirs through my previous employer...but that is a whole different story.

I have two children, Charlie, age 15 and Jane, age 11. In addition to my "day job," I teach Indoor Group Cycling (also known as "Spin") at my local YMCA at 5:00 a.m. three times a week. I also enjoy road biking (although last summer between finishing chemo and undergoing radiation I didn't get out on my bike at all) and graphic design--in my new job I don't do any design work or marketing anymore, so I like to do voluntary design work for non-profits--so I can keep up my skills.

Marlys

09-10-2006, 09:01 PM

This is without a doubt my favorite thread so am bringing it forward.
Marlys

SusanV

09-11-2006, 09:50 AM

Great Idea & Amazing Women !

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I was dx at age 37 on August 3, 2006 and celebrated my 11 year wedding anniversary two days later to my soul mate Chris. Ours was a love a first sight story, and the fairy tale continues....... We have two beautiful children ,my son Christopher John (CJ ) age 9 and my daughter Caroline age 6. My son is into his Playstation II and playing flag football, and my daughter is taking her first year of dance classes. I am an avid animal lover, and have a 2 year old golden retriever named Patrick..He is definatley part of the family. My office at work has as many pictures of the dog as the family !

I am very close to my parents and my only brother who is also the best friend a sister could have. He has been an enoromous support to me, went with me to my appointments, researched on the web and continues to call me everyday to check in. My mother is not handling my dx all too well, but I think in time she will do better. My family is known for our sense of humor which I think will pull us all through ! My husband works for the State of PA and has exceptional health care benefits (Thank goodness), he has also taken time off to help me, and is now trading places with me at home to take care of all the laundry, house work, running the kids everywhere etc....

I have a Bachelor of Science Degree in Business Administration with a minor in Marketing. I have been with the same company for the past 14 Wonderful years...Two years ago I received an amazing promotion and broke into the good old "boys" network. I am a regional manager responsible for 8 of our accounts. I am the only woman regional manager in my office, and take great pride in always being able to run with the big dogs. I LOVE my career, and I pray that I never have to give it up. I am one of those people who perfers managing the demands of both work & home together. I was off work for the first month of my DX and work was both supportive & understanding. I was very lucky that way.

I love reading in my spare time, drink way too much coffee (until the dx) and am your typical Type A over achiever....
I love this site and many thanks to Joe & Christine...

Vanessa

09-11-2006, 11:21 AM

I have a Master's Degree in Social Work and am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I am currently working part-time as an adjunct faculty teaching sociology and social work. Previously, I have worked in foster care and as a therapist at a psychiatric hospital. I also worked as an on-call screener for a crisis center, but had to stop, because my sleep cycle got off track due to being called out in the middle of the night a lot.

I got the opportunity to teach Death and Dying this summer, (initially thought I wasn't going to be able to do it, because of my bc and my dad's end-stage Alzheimers), but it turned out to be a good experience and helped me deal with my dad's passing, incidentally the day before I gave the final exam in the class. My sister and I were fortunate enough to be with him when he died. He experienced a peaceful death. He simply stopped breathing. It was bittersweet as he had no quality of life.

I have 2 grown daughters. The oldest is 25 and has a degree in Corporate Communications. Her and her husband recently celebrated her 1st wedding anniversary and are thinking of starting a family. My youngest daughter is taking her nursing prerequisites at a local community college. They have always been an inspiration to me, especially now. I also have some furry family members, 3 dogs and 2 cats. I am an animal lover.

My husband and I were divorcing when I found out that I have Stage IV bc, so we have tabled the divorce for now. He is working in another city, but comes home a couple of times of month on the weekend. He doesn't seem to really know how to deal with this illness.

I am trying to stay positive and be proactive by making some healthy choices, but there are times when I feel really afraid and don't know that to expect. This board is helping me to feel more hopeful. I am having my follow-up catscan and petscan this week after my first round of treatment, so I am particularly nervous.

kat in the delta

09-11-2006, 11:41 AM

Vanessa,
WHAT perfect timing your note was for me !!! You sounded so sad, tho, but I can relate.......my husband ignores me ........and my cousin who thought "I" had cancer soo bad and didn't know what to tell me, has ended up soo much worse than me. He is in stage 4 and has just stopped all chemo and rads as his bladder cancer has spread throughout his bones...and now popping up everywhere..He can know longer get out of the bed and I think he may be getting hospice. He is pretty much out of it, and I AM SO SAD about him......((.I know my husband is just sick of all of this eventho' he is in the healthcare field.)).....Can you help me out with my feelings about my cousin who is a few yrs. younger than me, ..... you said you were TEACHING the end of life ....???? His mom is there with him and his wife and( 2 children)-10-girl and 12-boy. I am so upset....he is about 2 hrs away and went to the BEST clinic.....now is he pretty much sedated....kat in the delta

Vanessa

09-11-2006, 09:49 PM

Hi Kat,

I am so sorry to hear about your cousin's situation. I will gather up some information for you and forward it to you. One of the best sources for dealing with grief is Kubler-Ross. I have a full day of catscan and work tomorrow, so it might be the next day before I can get to it. I will not forget. In the meantime, best wishes.

Mary Jo

09-12-2006, 06:20 PM

What a great idea. I feel like I know you all a little bit better and a bit more personally AND now know you all have a life outside of cancer. Thank God. I do too!!! :-)

I am a wife, mother and grandma. I am 46 years old and have been married to my highschool sweetheart (since right out of highschool) for 28 years. He has totally been my angel from Heaven all 28 years.

We have 2 grown sons and 1 brand new grandson Isaiah Christopher. Also a 6 year old granddaughter that came to be our granddaughter when our son married her mom. Her name is Jennah Elaine. Isaiah was born Feb. 5, 2006 - 2 days before my radiation was over and treatment was complete (except the herceptin) - What an awesome blessing during the treatment phase of this disease.

I am a food server at a 4 year old kindergarten. I feed approximately 250 little 4 year olds breakfast/lunch 4 days a week. I work 20 hours a week and have every Wed. off. I love my job and was fortunate and was able to work throughout treatment. I usually took off the Thurs. and Fri. following Wed. (bi-weekly) chemo but that was about it.

My hobbies are walking, listening to Christian music, reading (favorite author Karen Kingsbury) spending time with grandchildren, going antiquing, cleaning and decorating our house and basically just enjoying this life God gave me. I try to do all to His glory and live in His love everyday.

As we all are learning - ONE DAY AT A TIME - is the best motto to live by.

Thanks for being here guys - I feel like I truly love each of you.

Mary Jo

Ceesun

09-12-2006, 06:57 PM

I HOPE I AM NOT THE LAST ONE!! JUST FINISHED "OPEN hOUSE" TONIGHT AS I AM A MIDDLE SCHOOL FRENCH AND LANGUAGE ARTS TEACHER IN MICHIGAN. I teach a 6th grade language sampler, 7th grade French and 2 8th grade Language Arts aka English. I have taught for 26 years. I was diagnosed stage 2 in June of 2003 so I took the next school year off. This is my 3rd year back since the diagnosis. This past summer I found out that I had a lung nodule so I began treatment with Xeloda and Navelbine along with Herceptin which I had been on for about 9 months. My heart was not in returning to school even though my onc and nurses said this treatment is well-tolerated.........but I did and so far, so good. I am having a great time although it is very early in the school year!! I have a husband of 31 years Michael and 2 daughters Juliette and Faith. Juliette is having a baby due in about six weeks so I have to be healthy for my first grandson. I pray. Thanks to all of you for the wonderful website. I go by Ceesun because my first name is Cathy and love Florida and lots of warm weather places. Michigan winters are long, dark and gray. Good Night for now...

kat in the delta

09-14-2006, 01:39 PM

Vanessa,
Hope your catscans are clear !!! Please remember to send me info. on end of life & possibly griefing soon to follow. Where do I find that info of ?-Ross you mentioned??kat in the delta

vickie h

09-14-2006, 03:37 PM

What a great idea! I am 58 years old, married for 30 years to a wonderful carpenter/comic. I have 2 daughters, Samantha and Ashley 38 and 36, 4 beautiful granchildren, Travis 11, Lauren 6 1/2, Dylan 6, and Billy 4. I was dx 2/04 IBC stage 3b her2+++ pr- er-. I used to work in dental office as a front office manager, but have stopped working since my diagnosis as I am still on Navelbine/Herceptin. My life has been blessed with all that I have learned on my journeys, no matter how difficult the climb has been.

Today the skies are releasing a light mist on our pumpkins, the doves are feasting on worms and seeds from the garden, and the scent of the damp earth brings joy and hope. The feel of winter plays outside my window as leaves dance quietly to the soil beneath the swaying trees. We are all blessed to have one another everyday. Thank you for being here, for your support and love. You are all in my prayers, Vickie H

Vanessa

09-14-2006, 08:25 PM

Hi Kat,
The information about the signs of dying are at dying.about.com/cs/caregivers/a/DyingSigns.htm

I tried to copy it, but was unable to. The guru of grieving is Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. I find find her information also. Best wishes.

Nanc

09-14-2006, 09:05 PM

I am new to the group. I am also a RN---- seems to be a few of us.
I am many things and I often remind myself that I am more than a cancer patient.
I am a wife to a wonderful man named Vern, we have been married for 23 years.
I am a mother to two great kids, who thankfully haven't caused us much grief ( touch wood). Kyle is 18 and in his second year of university, he is in education and wants to teach high school phys ed. Trevor is 17 ( yah 16 months apart---crazy) he is a great kid, he has the gift of gab.
I am a dog lover and have a baby girl, her name is Casey and boy is she going to miss me when I go back to work.
I am a daughter to a fiesty 77 yr old mother and I am also a sister and an aunt.
I am a nurse with 25 years behind me.For the last two years I have worked as a vascular access nurse. I put in PICC lines (peripheral inserted central line) and help manage all central and peripheral lines in my hospital.
Oh yes I am a Canuck, I live in Winnipeg Manitoba.
I am crazy about genealogy and could search my family tree forever.
The cancer stuff: Dx Feb 2006, stage one, 1 cm, grade two, er/pr+ and her2+. Have completed chemo , rads and I am settled in for my year of herceptin, 3 down 15 to go!!!!!
Take Care
Nancy F

Marlys

09-26-2006, 10:07 AM

Love this thread.
Marlys

RhondaH

12-19-2006, 03:47 AM

thought it was time to bump this up. Take care and God bless.

Rhonda

Heart Sutra

12-19-2006, 10:39 AM

"Eve-
Wheresoever she was, there was Eden" -mark twain

Sue and I met on March 25, 2005. A little less than 2 years ago, in better words, our whole lives.

At the non-stop pestering of a friend, I went with a group of people to a small cafe. I sat across the table from this beautiful woman who was talking about her (one of many simultaneous) jobs as a fitness instructor. I couldn't make the connection between the obviously intense fitness regime she practiced and the fact that she had her face practically submerged in a huge bowl of ice-cream.
I asked her (sarcastically I admit) if eating a gallon of ice-cream was part of some new work-out plan, and she said that there is absolutely no point in staying fit if you aren't going to enjoy yourself and eat whatever you want, and how she couldn't understand people who become obsessed with an idea of health to the point of making their lives one long penance of health food and weights.
As she came up from the bowl, with ice cream on her face, and I could see she was suddenly aware (embarassed?)that she was attacking this huge bowl in front of her. When she sheepishly caught my eye, I asked her if she was enjoying her ice-cream. She laughed and told me to perform something anatomically impossible.
The friend that had pestered me to go out with this group had been telling me for a year about this great woman she knew, and how her and I would be such a great match. I wasn't interested, having been through a terrible separation, and other relationships that seemed great for a moment, and then faded away. I was gladly destined to be a monk in a cave, without further insult from love or hope of love. This same friend had been telling this great woman about me as well, and she too, was not interested.
Neither Sue nor I knew that we were now sitting across from the wonderful person we had heard about for over a year. Strangely, even our friend hadn't planned this particular meeting.
We have been together every day since. We've both been married, have children, been through enough relationships to know what is good and what is not, and we have never once looked back from the moment we met, we never once considered "going slow." There really is a thing as a soul mate, a person who is more a part of you than you are a part of you ( make sense?) there really is very old, very sacred, Love...all we have to do is find it. I believe that Sue and I found this, I believe there is nothing more important, or better. Our screen name here is the title of a book (by Thich Nhat Hahn), an ancient idea, a practice, a way of life... It is what we are I think.

What do we do for a living? Stuff. When you have this...it makes no difference. Like many, what we do is not who we are. Together is who we are.

ask a simple question... http://www.her2support.org/vbulletin/images/smilies/wink.gif

---Kevin and Sue---

DEBBIE S

12-19-2006, 03:05 PM

Great Idea ..... I was 49 when diagnosised .... Have been married to my high school boyfriend since 1971 ..... ( had a 2 1/2 yr divorce and remarried ) ..Life had been going much better these last several years then I was told I had incurable BC ... a month later my husband became legally blind ( had been treating glaucoma for years ) .. So not only did I have to re-adjust my life, my entire way of living changed ... I have always worked full time and continue to do so ... I work for an ASI distributor in Alexandria, VA .. I currently do graphics for special orders as well as purchasing, billing, etc.... have been with this company for 15 years ....I have one son who is 34, married and trying now to start a family .. this would be great since he lives fairly close to me ....My husband is on disability and trys to make my life as easy as possible at home ...Also, have a 15 month old puppy shepherd, Jackson and two Russian turtles Mendel and Sampson....
Although our plans for the future did change once we had these health issues I am trying to stay positive and put it in God's Hand..I did just get back from a weekend to at NYC to see the Christmas Spectacular-Rockettes with my sister ... had a great time, weather great, was able to walk much further than I expected ... Will continue to plan short get-aways when feeling good ... I have always lived in Alexandria but have visited a lot of areas in the USA... Am grateful I have acomplished what I have because my life could have turned out very different ...
Thank you all for sharing, it is very interesting to know more about all of you..

God Bless,

Debbie

Marlys

02-16-2007, 08:43 AM

Bringing it forward!

KRISS

02-16-2007, 11:50 AM

What a great thread. This is the first time I've seen it since I was dx. It has been a great afternoon reading about all of you.

I started out as a stage actress and was very blessed to actuall make a living at it for close to 15 years.I got to travel and perform across the country. Most of the time I was in Chicago, Denver and Boston. I met my husband on the job in Boston. He was supplying the animals for the show. We have now been married for 10 yrs and our lives have done a 180. Figured it was hard to stay together when we were both on the road so we bought a large piece of property and opened an exotic animal sanctuary We had over 30 large cats, 15 primates and an assortment of smaller animals. We have scaled down over the past few years and I started working as a Zoo Keeper. Thank God for this job. I have never had health insurance before. I had only been employed at the zoo for a year before I was DX. They have been truely wonderful working with my sporadic schedule and my co workers are a givng and loving group of people. I's hate to see how my life would turn out without my husband, these people and the zoo it's self.

Belinda

02-16-2007, 03:36 PM

Marlys - thank you for bringing this post forward - it is a great idea!

I am 42. I live in Adelaide, South Australia with my husband Mike (my best friend, a former Kiwi and an environmental scientist who is doing his PHD on environmental asbestos), and our beautiful daughter Lilly, who is 5, and just started her first year of school two week ago. We are a few (too many :) ) years into converting a former (inner suburban) catholic schoolhouse/chapel into a house, which we share with our dog wags and cat pussymellow. Needless to say all renovations are on old right now! Mike makes me feel like 'we' have cancer and I have never had a moment of feeling truly alone in this.

My 3 lifelong best mates - Kaz, Suzi and Helen - are also daily presences in my life, and the best 'Aunties' to Lilly that could possible be conjured!

I have a challenging public service career. I am the Director of a team that provides economic development advice, and establishes policies and programs for SA. My CEO, the Board and Ministers I report to, and my colleagues have been fantastically supportive since my diagnosis. The deputy they have appointed to role share and cover while I am unable to work is a former colleague and cancer survivor, who knows exactly what I'm going through, which is so good. And, having been told her chemo meant she would never have kids, is about 4 months pregnant!

It's funny, but over Christmas I was feeling more content than ever. It was (and is) summer, I had been spending time with great friends, my happy family, feeling like I had the perfect job, great workplace...then on Jan 3, diagnosis hit! Well, I guess if it had to come, then it was better that everything else in my life was going well, and that's all really helping me get through.

And, I just want to mention my Mum, Janine. She is 62 (sorry Mum! - she reads this board and won't be happy about me mentioning her age - she looks 50). She is a computer and software whizz (not many women can say that about their mothers!!!) who does training for a software company. She lives in Perth, Western Australia (about 2400 kms away) but travels Australia doing consulting work. She has been flying in as often as she can, her employer is giving her as much work as they can in Adelaide. And I love her to bits. Even when she is not here, I know she is sending me air to breathe and wisdom to drink, and she makes me feel - as she has done all my life - that I can do anything. And she has set up my computer so I can use my laptop wireless, and so I can join your chatroom when it's going. I love you Mum!!!

And to all of you who post on this board - thank you for what you share, good and bad, celebratory and sad, informative, challenging and seeking - I am learning so much from you.

Belinda

Annemarie

02-16-2007, 04:33 PM

I was a pharmaceutical representive for 10 years. I left my job in September to enjoy myself and my one year old son. I was orginally diagnosed with bc in May of 2000 and have three single lesion brain mets since. I have been NED for two years and just want to enjoy every minute I have left!!

Annemarie

Debra

02-16-2007, 07:54 PM

This has been great for me tonight learning a little more about each of you!

I am a mother of two great kids; age 15 (boy) and 11 1/2 (girl). My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I am an instructor in a Radiology program at our community college here in very cold North Dakota! Prior to that I worked as a Radiographer. I have been continuing to work as I am winding down on Herceptin; I had infusion #44 yesterday. Can't say I am excited about being done with Herceptin for it has been my security blanket!
I am very thankful for this site and for all of you out there. Even though I don't know any of you, I really do feel a special bond with you all because "you have been there" and that goes for all you spouses out there in support of your loved ones! I look forward to growing wiser and stronger with you all.

jones7676

02-16-2007, 08:54 PM

I have worked a variety of jobs throughout my life but my primary field has been health care. I have worked in nursing homes, as a home health aid, as a mental aid and a clerk at small stores.

I worked as an Administrative Assistant starting in 1998 for a small non-profit that contracts services to mental health agencies and started college in 2000. I am one semester from completing a degree in Accounting/Business Management. I had just started a job as an accountant (2 weeks) when I developed a brain met. Unfortunately it caused right sided weakness and rendered me unable to drive. The employer could not hold my spot. I also had brain surgery and gamma knife surgery to the "bed" of the tumor, so I am home on disability.

My friends call me "woman interrupted"!

Currently I do crafting and cardmaking when I am feeling well. My most recent Pet Scan showed a great increase in activivity within my lung and bone met in my femur so I started Navelbine in addition to the Herceptin in late January. I am sure hoping that Tykerb is available soon!

It is very interesting to learn more about all of you!

Soccermom

02-16-2007, 09:03 PM

Here goes...B.S. degree in Communications/Mass Media from the American University,1977. I have 5 years of Martial arts training and due to it, survived an assault with a knife at age 34 (total starnger).Ended up in the Gaming Industry from 1978-1992 (was a Playboy Bunny croupier) (dealer)in the Bahamas, then went into Casino Surveillance (eye in the sky).Married 25 years.Grew up in Atlantic City,N.J. moved to Nassau Bahamas in 1981, then to Biloxi,MS in '93 then to Jackson,Mississippi in 2006 (after Katrina). Lived on a 60' sailboat in the Bahamas with my DH,Golden Retriever and had my only child,a DD, there in 1993. Was a SAHM for 10 years until DH became unemployed, went into retail sales and was diagnosed within 11 months.Worked through treatments and am still with the company after 3 years of what was supposed to be a "temporary" situation.Lost my Mom to BC while I was in treatment,4 weeks before Katrina hit.Mom was/ is my role model for surviving BC for 14 years.
My employer has been less than accomodating since my chemo ended, demanding that I return to full time status or lose my benefits. I was nominated as "employee of excellence" for my store (80+) employees, but apparently its all "lip service" (still waiting after a year for a handicapped parking space! My job is killing me both emotionally and spiritually, but I dont see a way out until I am cancer free for 5 years as hubbie wants to retire in 2 years at age 65.
Have experienced that the "healthy world" is not as understanding as the media would like us to believe. No one seems to "get it" with the exception of other survivors.
Love this site and the all the amazing warriors and caregivers here!
I am owned by my two English Springer Spaniels,Toad Lilli and Tinkerbelle and their baby sister "sandye" a calico stray.
Marcia

Jeanette

02-16-2007, 09:19 PM

Gosh you are all such a talented group. I am a fiesty 67 year old, married to Bob for 45 years, have six children and fifteen grands. My husband was career Navy , so we travelled a lot. I was dx April 2005, seems like ages ago, now just on Arimidex. Though I do have to have a Ultrasound guided biopsy done on March 1st, will let you all know how that goes. This is the gutsiest bunch of women and men I have ever had the pleasure of reading about, Bless you all,Jeanette

VirginiaGirl

02-17-2007, 05:53 AM

It really is interesting to read about everyone and see that in spite of all the diverse backgrounds there are many commonalities, too! I am 41, and have just hit my 2 year survivor mark. My husband, Jim (who is 54), and I have been married for 10 years, and we have a blended family. My stepsons are 27, 21 & 19. They are all smart, handsome, loving young men. The oldest is staying with us for a few months and helping out, the other 2 are in Albuquerque and not sure where they'll be in a few months! Then we have a 9 year old girl together, who adores her older brothers and they adore her. How lucky could I get? This cancer journey has definitely brought us closer, and made my marriage so much stronger! Jim & I used to fantasize a lot about where we'd like to live, what we'd like to do in retirement - including buying & running a campground, living & boating by the water, etc. Now we don't talk about it much, life plans focus on month-to-month right now. Jim is an art therapist/teacher commuting 1 1/2 hrs each way, so he's trying to get a job closer to home for next school year even though it will mean a big paycut. I have worked in mental health the last 15 years, including with mentally ill women, as an in-home therapist, at the juvenile detention center, and for the last 6-7 years as the school social worker for the alternative high school for kids who've been long-term suspended or expelled from area school systems for drugs, weapons, fighting, etc. This has been my dream job, and I haven't been able to figure out what else I might want to do if the day comes to move on. Sometimes I think I'd like to be able to stay home, but then I go to work and talk to the students, and I get so completely out of myself and my own worries. It's definitely challenging, but I laugh A LOT! (Plus, I find out more local hangouts to put on my list of Places My Daughter Will Not Be Allowed To Go When She Gets Older!) My co-workers & boss have been phenomenally supportive, too, I wouldn't have made it without them. And, I'm very grateful for the support and valuable info I've received on this network from all you great people!
Blessings and Peace,

Colleen007

02-17-2007, 08:53 AM

What a great thread...and some very inspiring stories! I graduated from Northeastern University in Boston with a degree in business administration. I have worked for the past 10 years (up until my diagnosis and subsequent disability leave) as a client manager at a major financial services company in the Boston area. I loved my job, but since I was diagnosed at Stage 4 while 34 weeks pregnant with my daughter, I have remained out on long-term disability. So, my latest "job" is concentrating on getting/being well and being Mom to my now 16 month old daughter and 6 1/2 year old son. I met my husband on a blind date in 1995 and knew on the 2nd date that this was the man I was going to marry. Next month, we will celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary and my husband and I will also both be celebrating our 40th birthdays next month.

cafe1084

02-17-2007, 07:59 PM

I think I've mentioned most of my stuff in previous posts, so I'll just put it all together this time. I'm 36 years old and have 3 sons- Gabe 14, Andy 13, and Adam 8. They are the reasons I get up every morning! I have always worked in healthcare, except for a stint in a meat packing plant when I moved out to Nebraska for a very long, cold winter. I was a nursing assistant in high school and after. I was an LPN for 13 years, working with pediatric and adult ventilator patients, hospice, physician offices, hospitals, and long term care for most of those years through a staffing agency. I loved my job and I was great at it, but decided to settle down and landed in a nursing home/rehab facility. I took the staff development/Infection control/restorative position the year before I completed my BSN and that is what I continue to do. Ive started taking classes toward my master's degree. I expect to be a nurse practitioner in a few years. I have been a yo-yo dieter for many years, finally losing and keeping off 80 lbs 6 years ago. I have had lots of trouble carrying pregnancies to full-term, having had 2 2nd trimester miscarriages before my oldest son was born and one after my 2nd son. Some other symptoms have led me to the self-diagnoses of PCOS since my doc wouldn't give it to me lol...and I think Im a super duper type A personality and I never relax....and I think alot of this has contributed to my current condition.

My kids and I go to the Outer Banks NC for vacation every year with my family. We love roller coasters and spend alot of time outdoors in the summer. The 2 oldest sons dad passed away 4 years ago in a body shop accident and the youngest lost his dad 3 years ago to alcoholism. My sons are all very active in boy scouts, chorus, and sports.

I love to read and I write poetry. I love to cook and spend time with family and friends. I have been dating a guy for 5 years who had Hodgkins Lymphoma as a child and I thank God each day my children are healthy and happy. I have too many interests to really be great at any of them, but i love them all the same. I have 2 cats who "followed" my kids home from school...fatty the cat who may hold the record for heaviest house cat, sasha the cat who is aloof and spiteful...can't get rid of her because no one else would put up with it! Then we have Spring, a lab mix who was dumped in
a mine shaft as a puppy with her 3 siblings and her dead mother and we were lucky enough to adopt her from this great lady who has devoted her life to animal rescue and placement.

I thank God everyday he opened my eyes to all that I have and all I would miss if i weren't here.

aaklwalker

02-18-2007, 08:00 PM

What an inspiring bunch you all are. I am a commercial property manager. I manage shopping centers in the north Dallas area. I am 43, have been fighting this for a year and was just diagnosed stage IV. I have the most fabulous family a gal could ask for. My husband is a rock - I have been able to continue working because he has done everything else , cooking, cleaning and remodeling our house at the same time. I have a 23 year old son who married a wonderful girl last month and a 19 year old daughter at Texas Tech.

cmljungren

02-19-2007, 08:28 AM

I have enjoyed reading the posts on this thread! I'm a faithful lurker and have learned much from this forum. Thank you to all who contribute their knowledge and experience! I've been inspired many times by all of you. :>)
I am a RN and have worked in the ICU setting. I took a little over 12 yrs off to stay home full time with my 4 kids. Through my treatment I realized that nursing essential hasn't changed....yes new equipment/meds...but the skill of nursing is the same and I felt despite my long "break" I could return! SO, in Jan 2006 I started back to work in the PACU (post anesthesia care unit...fancy name for recovery room!). I love my job and have found a way to give back and pay forward all the wonderful support I received during my treatment.
I am 42. As I mentioned I have 4 kids....14 girl, 11 boy, 9 girl ,7 boy. My husband and I have been married for 18yrs.
I love to get together with girlfriends and enjoy a good meal/good wine and conversation. I enjoy reading and have been crafty in the past but with kids and work...all hobbies are on hold! Mostly I drive kids to and fro, manage the house and family and work.....that sums it up!

It has been nice to "meet" all of you!!

LindaC

02-23-2007, 09:17 PM

I am 51 yrs old Emt-Firefighter.I love fishing music gardening.Have no children,married at age 45.When I was told about my brest cancer I was going to have surgury,I went to the drugstore and bout a babys nipple with medicine canster on it.I took it to my doctor and told her I wanted this nipple implanted so i can put rum and coke in it for my husband.We all had great laughs over it.never did get the implant becaus my surgury was cancelled because it had spred to liver & bones.
LindaC

RhondaH

03-20-2007, 11:27 PM

BUMP. Take care and God bless.

Rhonda

Malena

03-21-2007, 11:34 AM

I'm a secretary in a import-export! I work part-time and now I have a little (very poor) benefit from the Government.
I'm not married and I live alone, actually not really alone, but with my two dogs!

janet11

03-21-2007, 12:59 PM

Hey aaklwalker. My younger daughter (23) graduated from Texas Tech last year and her husband graduates in May (*smile*).

I also work in North Dallas -- for IBM. I'm a computer nerd -- no 2 ways about it. I'm 58 and have been married 10 years. Yes, at 47, I married for the first time. It does happen (*grin*). I married a widower with 2 beautiful daughters (ages 12 and 14) who are now MY daughters in everything except blood. Oh yes, the elder is now 25 and she's also graduating college this May. Yippee (*laugh*).

caya

03-21-2007, 03:05 PM

I am 48 years old, diagnosed in Oct. 06 ( breast reduction, plastic surgeon found the tumour). I am married to my husband Allan for 24 years, and we have two lovely daughters. Amanda is 21 and at the Univeristy of Western Ontario in London, Ontario studing media, and Cassie is 18, will graduate high school this June and will be attending university somewhere in Canada for journalism.
I have a degree in English/French, worked for Cartier ( the jewellery company) at the Canadian Head Office in Toronto as the public relations assistant for nearly 2 years in the early 80's when I graduated. For the past 15 years my husband and I have run a ladies shoes import/distribution company, selling better grade shoes across Canada. We have represented the Bandolino brand in the past, and currently have the Van Eli and Sesto Meucci lines for Canada. I am lucky in that we work mostly out of our house, we have a warehouse that we share that does all our shipping, so I can do the paperwork from my home office. I accompany my husband to trade shows etc. where we see our customers to help him sell.
I took singing lessons as a teenager and performed in many vocal competitions and musicals when I was younger, and now sing in a choir that performs at retirement homes, hospitals etc. I took a leave from the choir for now (until I finish the chemo). I enjoy reading, walking, baking.
This site has been a great help.
Hugs to all,
Caya

Grace

03-21-2007, 04:15 PM

I'm a writer. My novel, "The Last Enemy" (Grace Brophy) will be published May 1. Publisher is Soho Crime. This is a the first of a five-book series, set in Umbria, Italy, with a very handsome detective, Commissario Alessandro Cenni. The reviews are beginning to come out. The first, from Kirkus Reviews, is good, and next week Publisher's Weekly will do a review. Please keep your fingers crossed that it's a good one. After I was diagnosed with cancer, last summer, I stopped writing for a while (although not on this forum), but I am back and hope to finish the next in the series in late summer.

Erin

03-21-2007, 04:45 PM

Wow, great idea ;-)

I work for the City of Santa Clarita here in Southen California, north of LA. We are a medium size city in terms of population - 175,000 people, but large in terms of land - 50 square miles. I manage federal and state grants for infrastructure development and affordable housing development. Just before my dx I took on a new project managing the development of an 80 unit apartment building in our newly revitalized downtown. The apartments will be available at reduced rates to moderate income people (here in SoCal that means a family of four making less than $55,000 a year...that is our teachers, firefighters, nurses...) I am hoping to keep up with that project, as it is the first of it's kind in our City...and we really need affordable housing (average older 3 bed, 2 bath house is around $500,000!)

I love my work and have continued as best I can with amazing support from co-workers, staff, and bosses. When I told them about my dx and what it would probably mean for my health and energy levels, they swung into high gear...getting me extra staff, moving some of my more time consuming projects to other staff temporarily, etc. That support has made it possible for me to continue working almost a full-time schedule, with some time off for onc appts, tests, and a few days off after each round of TCH.

I have a wonderful husband and two sons, aged 20 and 22, one in college locally and living at home and one in college in Cleveland. Lately all we talk about is BC :-( but back "pre-dx" I spent a lot of time gardening, seeing movies, and spending time with friends who are all part of a wine-tasting club.

Kathy S in Tokyo

03-22-2007, 05:44 AM

I'm 42, diagnosed in Nov 2004, upgraded to IIIC in Nov 2005 and then IV in May 2006 with lung mets. I live in Tokyo where I used to work for a Japanesee company importing U.S. and European radar technology and electronics for sales in Japan. After marrying 13 years ago I quit my office job and have been teaching English at my husband's language school 3 days a week and doing some freelance translating and editing jobs while keeping up with the PTA and other various neighborhood associations. We have 3 daughters, 13, 12 and 9, and a son who is 7. I just started weekly Herceptin this month and may add Navelbine to the treatments next month. I'm thinking of asking my former boss if I can work for him again as I'll need lots and lots of money to cover the Herceptin bills which are 29,000 yen per week (Actually 96,700 yen a week, but I only have to pay 30 percent). It makes me a little angry because I'm on the Herceptin to extend my life so I can be here for my kids, but I may never see them because I have to work so hard and long to pay for the treatments. Sigh.

DonnaD

03-22-2007, 06:40 AM

I was in the early childhood field, first as a teacher and then as a administrator at an accredited preschool with 276 students! My husband retired early in 2002 and our dream was to travel. We have a RV and would go out for a month at time working with Habitat for Humanity for two weeks building houses and then exploring the area. 2006 was not a good year for us. Our daughter who is 29 had open heart surgery and we helped with our grandson. My husband had rotator cuff surgery and then I was diagnosed. We look forward to getting back on the road and will try a build in MN in July. I'll be on Herceptin for the rest of this year so our travel will be closer to home.

We have two wonderful kids. Our daughter is a full time Mom now but was a teacher for the deaf and hard of hearing. She still struggles with chronic health issues, lives about an hour from us and is an inspiration to me. They have one son, Zach who is 3 years old. We LOVE being grandparents.

Our son lives in SD and is married to a wonderful gal, no grandchildren yet.

BC has taught me to count our blessing, we have many and trust God for the future!

ExpectAMiracle

03-25-2007, 05:20 PM

This is a great thread. It is amazing how many women here are so talented! I am in awe! I am 48 years old and was diagnosed last month following a routine mammogram that turned out not to be routine.

I have been married to Thomas for 24 years and am the stepmom to three children (29, 31, 34) and grandmother to 6. One of our grandsons, Marcus, age 13, lives with us. I have been employed by ITT for 24 years as a Data Analyst. I too am definitely a computer geek. I am very active in my church and enjoy reading, movies and spending time with my family. I am a HUGE fan of Taylor Hicks, the winner of American Idol V. I have tickets to see him in concert in April and am hoping that the start of my chemo won't prevent me from going to Baltimore to see him. Now that some adjuvant therapy that I REALLY need. : )

I love this board and have already gotten some great information here and have met some truly amazing folks.

I am trusting God to carry me through this journey. I know HE is in control.

Blessings to all!

hutchibk

03-25-2007, 09:26 PM

This is a great thread! It only makes sense to know more about all you inspirational ladies.

I am 47 yrs, and these days refer to myself as a 'walking educational tool' -
hoping to offer the power of knowledge about bc to anyone I meet, if they are interested. Beyond that, I am a part-time medical patient and part-time Bald Hairstylist, who occasionally has a bad scarf day. My early days included a charmed childhood/teen life as an Army Brat in Germany and Texas.... and 15 years working in publicity/promotions/marketing in the music business. (oh, and a waitressing shift or two as needed throughout college and beyond...)

harrie

03-25-2007, 09:59 PM

I am a dental hygienist. My husband is an optometrist. I have 2 children, a daughter age 27 and a son age 25. I am an excercise fanatic. Played adult soccer for 10 yrs, and currently workout at the gym and am starting yoga.

LAURIE

03-26-2007, 03:25 PM

I am a general manager for a nationwide (and canada) clothing retail store. I went on disability when I first started chemo in Sept. since I stand on my feet for most of my 8 hour shifts. I am anxious to get back to work soon (about 7 weeks). My husband does not work due to mental illnesss, so I need to go back to work for the health care and the money. We had been trying to have kids for years, and supplement having no kids for 2 dogs and 5 cats. I really enjoy reality programming, cards (spades, canasta, hand and foot), swimming, bicycle riding, playing Dance, Dance revolution (good exercise)and playing Wii video games. I am also a huge U2 fan!!! I am the youngest of five kids in my family. I met my husband my first semester in college (1989). He has really enjoyed having me at home since this "challenge" came our way. I have realized how lazy he is and how he is okay mentally to get a job. Ha!! He said he is sick of me nagging him all the time now. He has gone to every single appointment, etc... and he is nice to look at. I guess it's good I still think he is still a hottie. I have to go play cards with my parents, thanks for starting this link.....

Annemarie

03-26-2007, 06:21 PM

I worked 10 years as a pharmaceutical sales representative. I stopped working this past September because it was difficult to keep up with my health and work full time. I am a 7 year bc survivor. I am her2 +++, er/pr+, 3X I have had single lesion brain mets.

Life has not been easy but I am married to a wonderful man. We have been married almost 12 years and have a soon to be 2 year old baby boy via gestational surrogacy. He has given our lives purpose and hope beyond what I could have ever asked for.

LindaC

03-29-2007, 07:27 PM

Hi,
I work for the Railroad carcleaner and volunteer Firefighter EMT for the last seven years.Before that I worked for the school buses taking handicaped children to school and home attendant to the elderly.Boy do I miss the school busses.

mslinda

03-30-2007, 09:42 PM

Boy, I don't know how I missed this for so long.

I've posted some, but mainly a lurker. This is the best group of heros that I have ever known. Thank you to each and every one for giving me courage and hope that I can be around for many more years to come.

I was 55 at diagnosis. The shock of my life. I have been NED for 2 years now. I started chemo 3/29/05. I did not have Herceptin.

I am a housewife. But not always. I worked in the financial world for 34 years, and quite my job to care for my mother who has Alzieheimers. We had to put her in a nursing home October, 2004. I was diagnosed 12/28/04.

I have learned through this journey that life is precious. I try to live the way my Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, wants me to live, and to glorify him. I may not always be successful in that, but He forgives me. So I try to forgive when someone offends me. Life is way to short to carry grudges.

I am married for 34 years to the most wonderful, supportive, and understanding man. He has been with me every step of this journey. I have two sons, 32 and 29, and two grandsons 3 and 1. Life is good.

Linda
S. Mississippi

Tricia

03-30-2007, 09:55 PM

What fun. I ironically work in marketing for a local Hospice Program. I have been marketing and Sales for a few years now and love it. I also worked with the senior Living Industry. My Husband works for OXY- Occidental I am sure some of you out there know what that is. I have three children Noah 9 Shore 8 and Ethan 2 and we are finished. We love watching movies, we love hanging out. My parents are my next door neighbors and that works out great.

Marlys

08-23-2007, 07:19 AM

I thought it was time to bring this forward. It is one of my favorite posts.
Marlys

Believe51

08-23-2007, 09:04 AM

I am a woman of many hats (of course not "hard hats"-LOL)! I am a chef by true nature and have degrees in Culinary & Pastry Arts. I did have a catering business in town for a while but I had to retire after a big car accident. For a while I was working as a Night Auditor at a large hotel in a third shift position, I have been a night owl since birth!! I have worked on an Oncology floor at a local hospital for 5 years while I was in school to get an Occupational Therapist/Massage Therapist degree, that too had to be put on hold because of the accident. Right now I am a Circulation Office Manager for our local newspaper and I love it. And for the last 6 years I have been a Certified Beauty Advisor for Avon full time, doing facials and such on the side. But my favorite job besides working in a kitchen was working with special needs children and adults, which I still can incooperate into my days as we have many special needs carriers employed with us. As a matter of fact, nothing brings more joy to me than to hear them call my name since many do not even talk during their days with the caregivers. When hubby gets back on the right track I plan on starting another business. A coffee house that we can cater out of, a good friend of mine will be my partner.

My dearest husband is a talent man who has a family history of art and creativity, his great/great/great grandfather made the 'Doors of Florence' or better known as the 'Gates of Paradise' according to Michaelangelo. He worked in construction, finish carpentry, and dabbled in electricity. Our hobbies included motorcycling in the past and selling the bike burned with pain since it was a physical reminder of what the cancer was stealing from us. Cancer shall steal from us no more. Ed loves cars and took great pride in his ride. We had a collectors 1998 Cadillac El Dorado ETC that he bought for me and like the 'Gift of the Magi' I gave it up to finance his treatments. His hobbies include playing the guitar which he has stopped because treatment has left his hands numb. We listen to old albums and get all sentimental. Music has always been a large part of who he is. We have two keyboards but I stink!! LOL. Cannot wait to hear noise in my house again!!

I have a son named Jason who has a 3 1/2 year old daughter, Tia. Ed has never been married before and has no children, only his step son and boy what a great father Ed has been. Seeing him with our Tia makes me smile from the inside out. He tells me all the time that he was waiting for me to come into his life and EVERY day he mentions that I have given him the best years of his life. Ditto My Love. We have been together for 15 years and married 12 years on October 21, 2007. There has never been a day during my love for him that I wished I was somewhere else, even now. Especially now, I am so honored to be the women he is sick with for I know what damage I can do. Besides Girls, God sent him to me and it was all meant to be. September 7, 2007 will be his one year cancerversary and I treasure every day of it and always have.

The best part of my life is being his wife, a mother and now a grandmother. We spend much time with family and friends, and my mom has been over every night since his dx.

Things I cannot live without, this site and the family members on it!! We love you all!! Great post!!>>Believe51

dorinda

08-23-2007, 01:39 PM

I Have Been A Respiratory Therapist For 19 Years. I Still Work And Have Since I Was Dx With Bc 9 Mons. Ago.i Love What I Do And Also The Insurance Is Great There. My Co Workers Are Great To Me And Are Like A Second Family . I Am Blessed. Before That, I Was A Stay Home Mom To My Two Girls That Are 33 And 34 Years Old. When I Went Back To College To Get My Degreee .i Was The Oldest In My Class And Sure Enough I Am The One Who Gets Pregnate. Ha! So My Two Girls Were 14 1nd 15 Years Old When Their Baby Sister Was Born. She Is Now 19 Years. It Is Like Having Two Sets Of Families.the Youngest One Feels Like She Grew Up As An Only A Child. It Kept Us Young And Tired. Ha! Oh Yeah The Question I Always Get Asked When I Say There Is Long Stretch Between My Girls Birth, They Ask Same Husband? Yes Were Are Going To Be Married For 37 Years In October .what Can I Say God Does Have A Sense Of Humor. I Thought I Was Finishing Up With Raising Children And Decided To Go Back To College And Look What God Had Planned Also. So I Did Both Got My Degree And Became A Older Mom.i Was A Stay Home Mom With The First Two And A Mom That Worked Outside The Home With The Younger One.i Would Have To Say Mygreatest Accomplishment Is Geing A Mom. I Loved Being A Mom To My Girls.

StillHere

08-23-2007, 06:56 PM

Rhonda, I was always waiting until I was able to post a picture w/ my biography. So I guess it is time. We will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in Sept 2007. We started dating when we were just 16 and I also must say- like many others on the thread, that BC has brought us even closer together. Jeff and I have 2 wonderful children (Son Randy 29, and Daughter Nicki 27). They both are still single, so hence I am craving grandchildren. I try very hard not to mention the fact too often, although I have said that if they are not married by age 30, they should just find some good genetic material and procreate so their mother can spoil some grandkids to her hearts content. Not too suttle eh? Work life - Hummm I have worked for a large healthcare organization for the past 26 years as a Medical Secretary, OB Tech, Certified Surgical Tech, OR Materials Coordinator, Regional OR Business Manager, and presently a part-time Endoscoptic Tech. I was only a manager for 1 1/2 years before my diagnosis. I found it very difficult to not speak my mind after BC. This was not compatible with keeping a position in administration. My husband urged me leave the stress and politics of management and so I took a 4 hour per day job as a tech. I love the hours in the summer, but will look into volunteering for www.compassionandchoices.org (http://www.compassionandchoices.org) this coming fall/winter. I have been a member of this organization for the past few years. I want to become a stronger advocate for end of life choices. If anyone is in need of assistance they have a free confidential client support program you can contact at: 800-247-7421. I am glad this thread has been bumped up again. It was interesting to read some details on everyone life outside of the BC thing. Peace be with you all. Karen

LisaElder1972

09-14-2007, 11:49 PM

I was a CNA for 5 years with plans to become an RN when I was diagnosed with IDC Stage 2B 2 cm ER/PR and HER2 positive in June 2006.After a bilateral,expanders and silicone implants I had 4 DD AC and 4 DD Taxotere.Had 7 months of Herceptin,forced to stop when EF dropped to 28.Am on Femara currently and struggle daily with pain issues.Was approved for Social Security Disability so I am able to stay home.I have 2 beautiful children,Macy is 16 and Brandon is 9.I have been married to my soul mate Johnny for 18 years.I was 33 when dx and will be 35 on October 2nd,thanks to the good Lord.I miss working,I miss my patients and I do get lonely sometimes when hubby's at work and kid's are at school.Healthcare really is a common occupation among us here.

Lisa

BonnieR

09-15-2007, 12:05 PM

Thanks for bumping this thread. I am fascinated to read what an accomplished group we are!
I too am an RN. Have not worked in the field for many years. Was a psych nurse and had some interesting jobs during my days as a "hippie" nurse.
Now in alcoholism recovery myself for 22 years.
Married 32 yrs. No children
Have been an artist for about 15 yrs. Mostly expressionistic landscapes. Am represented in a few galleries. Very active volunteer in the art community.
My husband and I are a Therapy Dog team and visit hospitals and institutions with our dog. Well, HE does it now.....
I am a huge Clay Aiken fan. A "Claymate" at my age! lol
We recently moved back into our remodeled house. It was hard to be diagnosised when not "home" so I am happy to be getting settled again. I swear, if stress causes cancer, then ther remodel is to blame!!

PinkGirl

09-15-2007, 12:37 PM

Hi All
I have had many jobs - all in the accounting/administration/clerical field.
My hubby's job has required us to move alot - he's been posted to 5 different offices, so I find some kind of job each time we move. My jobs have been part-time since 1991 when I had a 2-level spinal fusion. No kids, but lots of family around - sister, brother, sister and brother-in-law, mother-in-law, and mother all live in the same town as us, along with nieces and nephews. My mom has Alzheimer's and lives in a nursing home - I try to visit every day.

My interests are gardening, knitting, READING, word games, crossword puzzles, entering hockey pools, and I have 55 houseplants.... might need therapy for that one.

Before BC, I was very active - enjoyed walking and exercising. I like to stay home - I'm not much of a social butterfly. I like to curl up with a good book, fuss over my houseplants and drink tea with my friends. I live in a small town in the northern part of Ontario (it has already snowed here) and I have the flannel sheets on the bed ! The American tourists are all packing up and going home after their summer of fishing, and some new ones are moving in for the Fall moose hunt. I was born in this town and my dad was a railroader.
I haven't worked since my dx. and I don't plan on it. I am 53, and my husband is planning on retiring one of these years. I also love animals, especially golden retrievers.

I like to bake and I like to eat the baking - preferably something with chocolate.

I am very intrigued by the number of nurses in this group. Have there been any studies on that ??

Hazel Joyce

09-15-2007, 01:07 PM

Another RN to add to the mix! I've been a nurse for 30 years. Most of my career was spent working 11pm to 7am. 14 years working at a hospital, then 10 years working in a nursing home. I went back to hospital nursing 3 months before I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I took an LOA during A/C, went back after 3 doses of Taxol/H, then threw in the towel several weeks later. I haven't worked since June 2007.
I have been married for 11 years. We were married on the 10th anniversary of the day we met. He is my soul-mate and best friend. We have a blended family of 4 kids, ages 28-35. We have 4 grandkids who live nearby. The only "child" we have together is our boy Emerson, a 5 year old Cavalier King Charles Spaniel. He and I hike in the woods and walk on the beach. He is the cutest little thing!
I have a collection of dolls and spend a lot of time on doll message boards and ebay. I really enjoy the internet.
Right now I'm busy with Herceptin, doctors' appointments, scans, etc. Sudoko and light reading fit well into my hectic schedule. I just started taking a fitness class at the cancer center. I have really gotten out of shape since all this commotion started!

Nice to have met all of you!

Sandy in Silicon Valley

09-15-2007, 01:52 PM

Hi,

Figured that, given what's been posted in this round of jumping this thread up, I might as well copy & paste parts of my home-made obituary - since I think it gives the relevant info (and then some, but I've made cuts in the interests of brevity):

<meta http-equiv="CONTENT-TYPE" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><title>Obituary</title><meta name="GENERATOR" content="OpenOffice.org 2.2 (Linux)"><meta name="AUTHOR" content="Sandy"><meta name="CREATED" content="20060823;6570000"><meta name="CHANGEDBY" content="Sandy"><meta name="CHANGED" content="20060825;8280000">" <style type="text/css"> </style>Sandy Greenberg, a social worker, child advocate, former early childhood educator, avid motorcyclist and traveler, died _________ of metastasized breast cancer, at age _________.

Sandy grew up in Brooklyn and Queens, NY, lived in Columbus, Ohio from 1968-1979, had permanent residence in Schenectady, NY from 1979-2001 during which she lived in Haifa and Jerusalem, Israel in 1987-88 and 1991-93 respectively.

A staunch Zionist and grassroots political activist, Sandy volunteered in numerous capacities, as a Hadassah outreach driver, a League of Women Voters family court monitor, a Russian immigrant settlement facilitator, a tutor at a homeless shelter, and a Child Advocate for Santa Clara County foster children.

Love of dancing, especially to live music, was a key to full enjoyment of life for Sandy. She and her husband Bruce served as volunteer publicity coordinators on the board of Dance Flurry, an annual gathering of dance and dance music enthusiasts held in Saratoga Springs, NY. Sandy volunteered as an aerobic dance instructor at Plaza del Rey in Sunnyvale, from 2001-2005; after craniotomies for brain metastases, she took belly dance classes at Sunnyvale Community Center, and she and Bruce enjoyed swing and country-western dancing at various venues in Silicon Valley.

As a survivor of an abusive upbringing, Sandy had a special place in her heart for abused and neglected children. Early in her career, she worked as a library aide, distributing children’s paperback picture books, recruiting parents and children to join reading programs, and reading aloud, often using puppets to engage the children. After graduating from Queens College, City University of NY, in 1969, with a major in Comparative Literature, Sandy taught preschool, kindergarten, and parent-child classes for parents of toddlers and preschoolers.

In 1988, at age 40, Sandy returned to school to earn her graduate degree in Social Welfare. Upon graduation, she directed a program for Parenting Teenagers at the local YWCA. In Israel, she assisted Rami Benbenishti, a professor at Hebrew University, helping in his research, editing articles for publication, and developing software applications for child welfare settings. Upon her return to the U.S. in 1993, Sandy entered the SUNY-Albany School of Social Welfare PhD program, but dropped out after her second semester of studies.

Sandy married her live-in soulmate, Bruce, and moved from Schenectady NY to Sunnyvale, CA in 2001 with Bruce’s daughter, Shiri. Initially, Sandy worked as Senior Grants Coordinator for Emergency Housing Consortium, then as Parent Resources Facilitator for San Jose State University Associated Student’s Child Development Center, and finally as Adoption Social Worker for FamiliesFirst, a non-profit foster family agency.

Ms. Greenberg chose “early retirement” on disability after undergoing a craniotomy for a metastatic breast cancer tumor in her cerebellum in early 2005. She was able to continue her volunteer activities after healing from a second craniotomy later that year, and enjoyed traveling to Cancun, Kauai, Dublin and County Wexford, Ireland, SE Australia and across the U.S.

In 2006, unable any longer to ride her motorcycle for long distances, due to occasional imbalance and fatigue from residual cancer and treatment symptoms, Sandy undertook a solo road trip by car, up the Northwest coast, to Salt Spring Island, BC, Canada, visiting with friends along the route.

Sandy's favorite hobbies (play therapy) involve handcrafts such as making beaded jewelry, creating bowls and baskets from coiled fabric scraps, crocheting caps and scarves for newly-diagnosed breast cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy, embroidering and sewing.

Sandy is survived by her husband, parents, sister, three daughters and one granddaughter."

PinkGirl

12-20-2007, 04:12 PM

Thought I would bump this up in case any of the
new members would like to add their bio's.

juanita

04-03-2008, 06:25 PM

Bumping this back up for any new memebers who might want to add theirs to this. I can't believe how long it got, and it was fun rereading this.

Carol Carlson

04-03-2008, 08:35 PM

Guess I missed this one so here goes.......
I am also a R.N. seems to be several of us here.
I've worked in various settings including hospitals, director of nursing at a nursing home, taught a nursing assistant program for the Red Cross, worked in psych and most recently worked for a large health care corp. and did nursing assessments for elderly patients in the hospitals for nursing home placement, and marketing for the same corp. My last postion before retiring 2 years ago was Marketing Director for an Assited Living facility.
I've been married to a chemist for 47 years... WOW... he worked in R&D
We have 3 children 45,43,38 and 3 grandchildren 23, 7, and 5.
I keep busy with the grandchildren and playing bridge. My passionate hobby is photography, esp. nature and the grandchildren who are such beautiful subjects !!!!
We've lived in the same house for almost 40 years and seen our town grow too fast. We live in a lovely rural community between Boston and Worcester, Mass.
Our oldest child is in a graduate program at the University of Tenn. and in Dec. will be a Nurse Practitioner in family Mental Health.
Our next child is a senior underwriter for a large insurance co. in Mass. They live about 30 minutes away... thank God, so I can see my "little ones" often.
Our youngest works for a social service agency in Worcester and lives about 30 minutes away also.
Our daughter in Tenn. comes "home " to Mass. on a regular basis and readily admits she misses " crazy" Mass. and is anxious to come back after she finishs school, though she loves going to the Smokies.
By the way,
1 daughter, 2 sons
grandchildren.. 2 grandsons, 1 granddaughter
Thanks for the opportunity to expand on my personal life.
Carol

kcherub

04-04-2008, 06:26 AM

Wow, this is really intriguing! Okay, here we go, and I am working backwards:

Owner of a children's boutique (furniture, linens, clothing, gifts) since 2002...

SAHM from 1999-2002

Culinary student 1997-1999

Starbucks supervisor 1996-1999
Wedding consultant 1996-1999

Office manager for 2 attorneys 1993-1996
College student (Political Science) 1990-1994

Other than that, I have worked in a dental office, sno-cone stand, video store, Kirkland's (over Christmas), and Arby's (at 15, for two days until they made me clean the toilets after a particularly nasty day--LOL. I was only 15!!!)

That's it. My work life in a nutshell. :)

Take care,

fauxgypsy

04-08-2008, 08:30 PM

Thought I would update this. I now teach various biology courses at community college about 45 minutes from my home. Throughout grad school I did everything I could to get out of teaching. Most of the time I had a research assistantship. Because of lymphedema I could no longer do the faux finishes and found myself applying for a teaching position. Because of my diagnosis I was considered to be disabled but I did not have the quarters I needed. I had pretty much plowed all my money back into my business. I have never felt disabled except short term when I was on chemo and recovering from surgery. Within a short time I found the position I have now. I was scared to death. My throat tightened, my palms sweated, for weeks. Then it got better. I really enjoy teaching and just finished my second year. I was excited this spring when I was voted one of the favorite teachers. The students tell me and each other that I'm harder but that thery learn more. Makes me proud. There are so many things that I want to do that I don't know how long I will teach but I'm very happy with it now. I also still paint, though not as much and will be in a show in August.

Previously:
Thanks to everyone for keeping this going. I missed it as well. It is good for all of us to be reminded that we are not our diagnosis.
I was Navy brat. I can't remember all the schools I went to. I quit school in the early seventies in the midst of bomb threats and dissension during integration in the heart of Mississippi. I started college when I was in my thirties and went on to a M.S. degree in biology. I helped start a short lived literary effort called "Surfacing" and thoroughly enjoyed my University years. As my career was ramping up and I was going on for a Ph.D. in forensic science I had a reaction to a medication for my stomach and ended up clinically depressed, almost suicidal. I left school and ended up in the hospital for depression. The week after I got out, my mother died. It took months to recover. At that point I believed that I had burned my bridges and decided to follow another interest. I had taken a class in faux finishes and turned that into a fairly profitable business for many years. I also painted murals. Even after I started chemo I continued it but my mastectomy has pretty much limited what I can do physically. For some time I have been interested in getting back into science and I applied just last week to for a research position in of all things, cancer research. I am in the process of setting up a web page with my fine art, as well. In the process of writing my CV, which is scientist's version of a resume, I was reminded of all I had accomplished. It is good feeling. I am more than a cancer patient. When I was first diagnosed they told me I was stage IV, then they thought they had made a mistake. At this point I have no idea what stage I was or am but I have been NED since May of last year and I am just beginning to accept that I may have years to go.
I was married for 27 years to someone I should never have married but I have a beautiful daughter from that marriage and another wonderful daughter from before that. And five wonderful grandchilden. When Heart Sutra was writing about her relationship I thought of my husband. I was at his last wedding as the matron of honor and through all those years we stayed friends. Then one night I looked up at him and my whole world changed. I could not have gotten through this without him. My daughter told me a few months back that she thought that if I had been still married to her father when I was diagnosed that I would be dead now. I think that it is not what we do that defines us so much as who loves us and who we love. Dale has been a part of my life, on and off, for over twenty five years now and I am so glad that I have him.
We both love making things and gardening, we have many interests in common. This week we started our summer garden and planted close to 150 tomato plants. I guess you could say we like pushing our limits. His health is not good but he loves to stay busy and it is very hard to slow him down.

Leslie

Joanne S

04-08-2008, 10:37 PM

I was born and raised in a wonderful Detroit neighborhood. I am 100% Greek and the first in my family to marry a non-Greek. I have a wonderful husband--been married 23 years and I have two lovely daughters. My eldest is 22, she attends Wayne State University in Detroit; and my youngest is 17,a senior in High School.

The city gradually changed for the worse much through my adult years so when my husband retired from the Detroit Police Department in 1994, we moved from Detroit to a Detroit suburb I have worked for the same health insurance company in Downtown Detroit for 32 years. I had many different jobs through the years; most recently I worked as a mainframe programmer for hospital claims systems. Only a couple weeks before my breast cancer diagnosis, I was promoted to a systems analyst. Sadly, I started sick leave the same day I was to start my new job. I started chemo immediately after my BC dx 09/2006; unfortunately I've not worked, but been a total couch potato ever since then.

I'm currently in physical therapy because I've been inactive for so long (chemo, radiation, 3 surgeries and complications) so now I'm severly deconditioned. I am now finally working towards gaining back my strength and endurance and losing weight in hopes of getting back to where I was before cancer.

Hobbies before BC: I loved gardening, shopping, home decorating and creative crafts; such as, porcelain doll-making, wreath making, decorating/painting sweatshirts, making beaded fruit plates/arrangements, silk flower arrangements, and lastly making jewelry using sterling silver, Swarovski crystals, stones/beads.

WomanofSteel

04-10-2008, 06:12 AM

Suzan, you are not alone, I also live with my wonderful partner of 6 years. Last year we had a civil union ceremony and are about to celebrate our 1st anniversary. She has been my right hand through all this. I also have a daughter Logan from a previous marriage who will be 16 in May. She is my pride and joy. I work full time as a merchandiser in a craft store. I used to be a visual merchandiser for a women's clothing company. I have many supportive friends and a sweet cat named Sydney who are there to keep my spirits up. I like to read and watch movies and walk on the beach. I like to do "do it yourself projects" and worked with a carpenter for a while. I am happy to be part of such a great group of women.

Leslie's sister

04-10-2008, 10:51 AM

I have just got around to reading this thread. What a neat idea. I feel like I know everyone a little better. Interesting surprises. My bio is pretty boring in comparison but here goes.

48 years old living in the same area, high desert of So. Cal., that I grew up in. Divorced raising 3 children. 18 son in first year of college at UC Irvine, daughter sophomore in high school, and daughter in first grade. (yeah I know I will be 60ish when I'm finally done raising kids but I love every second of it) Worked in escrow business 17 years and owned an escrow business for 10 of those years; real estate developer & home builder from 1987 to present (though the house building business is pretty nonexistent these days). The Lord has blessed me in many ways, most significantly with my beautiful children, and for that I am thankful. My midlife crisis has been a passion for running, especially running marathons (finished 77 marathons to date). I have run a marathon in every state having completed this goal in Philly Nov 07. I have also run in 5 Boston marathons and have a goal to run in 10 consecutive Boston marathons. Think of me in a few weeks, I will be out there finishing Boston #6.

Lisa

Marlys

07-29-2008, 08:26 AM

This has always been one of my favorite threads. So many newer people are here and I would love to know more about You!!!
Love & Hugs, Marlys

Jackie07

07-29-2008, 10:34 AM

Indeed a 'fun' thread. Wish I had found it earlier. Be prepared, since it's going to be a long one...

I was born in Taipei, Taiwan at the beginning of the Sixties. My Father, the colonel, is a very, very strict and conservative, 'Ching-dynasty' (ancient) type of guy. He married my Mother who is 8 years his junior at the end of WWII when the Japanese surrendered after the atomic bombs.

However, they ended up having to fight the communist in the 'impossible' civil war. They lost contact when the Nationalist Army collapsed (there's no way to fight the 'war' because the communist army forced civilians to the frontline.) After the communist took over the Mainland, my parents were reunited in Taiwan. After having 5 healthy children, they had a sickly premature baby who was constantly having health-related issues. He was 45 then, and she was 37.

The 'spoiled'(as my Father always calls me)baby girl grew up to be the tallest among three sisters. I had been labeled as a 'very bright, yet also very lazy' child. I was on the ping-pong team and the hand-ball team in elementary school, the track team in junior high, and the basketball team in both high school and college. I love music and was given a brand new piano from the family when I was admitted to the top college in Taiwan. Several of my nieces have used that piano since I left Taipei in 1984.

I was the 'ugly duckling' because the brother right before me has been dubbed 'the handsome little prince' since he was born. He was so good-looking and popular that even my junior high school teacher couldn't help making fun of my pimples and questioning why I was not as good-looking as my popular brother.

But the 'ugly duckling' went to the best college in Taiwan and ended up getting a master's degree from Texas Woman's University. I married a good-looking young Texan who was born 4 days after the handsome 3rd Brother. Amazingly they are of the same height, same built-up, and even wear the same size of shoes. 3rd Brother commented after the engagement was announced: "I didn't know that you had 'worshipped' me so much...". One of my college basketball team members (with a Ph.D. in English from Boulder, Colorado) asked how come a handsome American like 'him' would marry a not-so-good-looking Chinese girl like me; and how come a smart, capable woman like me would marry a country boy who didn't care about getting a PhD or making a lot of money...

Well... it is because God has brought us together. I was singing in the choir at First Baptist Church just a little more than two months after I had moved to the Central Texas town to take a reference librarian's position. The salary was so low that no self-repecting American would apply for that job. This handsome (my colleague assured me) young man drove 1 hour to town and sat in the pew and saw the only Asian girl in the all Caucasian choir in the all Caucasian church... I was nice to him because I thought he was just a college kid... He was curious because he just got dumped by his Filipino girl friend who had moved out of state... During our first dinner out I was basically 'analyzing' for him why the physical therapist chose not to stay in the small town near where he lived...

Less than two years after our honey moon trip to Taiwan, I was diagnosed with a life-long brain tumor (love is so blind that he never suspected there's anything wrong with his girlfriend/wife)and underwent a 23-hour brain surgery. My oldest Brother came and helped (drilled me) with my rehabilitation while the groom was finishing up his college courses. My In-laws parked their RV by the hospital for the 40 days and then took me home for another month after I was discharged from the hospital.

I lost my job as a mid-level supervisor a year after the surgery and was very, very depressed. Staying home and closed up to the outside world, my neurological function dwindled quickly. By the time I got a hostess/cashier's job at a Chinese restaurant, I was so weak then I wasn't able to stand behind the cashier's counter for more than 30 minutes (I was eventually allowed to sit on a high stool when there's no customer around.) I made mistakes in balancing the account... I forgot what customers had ordered off the menu...The only thing that had saved my job was that my English was fluent enough by then and the new owner couple who had just emigrated from Taiwan could not handle the phone orders without me...

After 3 years - with good, nourishing Chinese food in the restaurant, I started back working part-time at a near-by college library and taking some college courses in the local community college (a self-prescribed rehab.) A couple of years later, I picked up another part-time job at the local college library. Then in 2000, after the library expansion, my position became full-time. Barely half year later - boom! my doctor said I had to get Gamma-knife Radiosurgery because the residue tumors suddenly doubled their size... (I am pretty sure I was poisoned there because the new director scheduled me to work the Saturday after the library got a new 'tar' roof Friday afternoon and I was the only staff 'constantly' working under that roof afterwards...)

A little more than a year after the GKRS, I lost my newly promoted full-time Reference Librarian's job (the library had built a new wing and expanded opening hours just 6 months before my Gamma-knife) at the library where I had worked 7 years.

I was on unemployment when we found out my first bout of breast cancer. I entered teacher training program with the scholarship from Texas Workforce Center and a travel stipend from Texas Rehabilitation Commission while I was undergoing the radiation treatment. I worked at three schools after substituting the first year. But none of the schools would renew my contract - the wig, the note-taking,... it's not hard for people to figure out that there's 'something wrong' with me.

So here I am again, battling another recurrence, trying for another line of work. I am taking 'medical coding' class on-line and hope to get through the program soon to get a job in one of the hospitals in the area.

'Life is not fair but God is good'. With helps from both sides of the families and our friends from the church, we have 'sailed through' all the obstacles so far. Truly, since we have been down to the Valley of the Shadow of Death several times, we 'have no fear' because His 'rod' has been protecting us...

And this website, to me, is heaven...

dhealey

07-29-2008, 03:32 PM

This has be a wonderful thread. Great idea getting know everyone this way.

I will be 54 in Sept. and have been married to my high school sweeheart for 35 years. I have been a nurse in various family practices for 25 years. Been with the current doctor for 8 years. My husband and I bought our last house "ever" 2 months before my diagnosis. I have continued to work through all my treatments and Monday started in the Phase II trial for breast cancer vaccine. I have 3 children, Jenny 35, Hannah 23 (recently married) and the baby Ross 21 ( still in college and thinks he is in love), also have to grandchildren Tate 6 and Pierce 5. My hobbies are race walking, reading, sewing, gardening, quilting (I am presently working on a quilt made out of wedding dresses for the Making Memories for Terminal Breast Cancer patients. The quilt will be auctioned off with several others and they use the proceeds to make wishes come true for terminal breast cancer patients. Kinda like the make a wish foundation. Breast cancer has made me face my worst fears head on and live each day as it were my last. I am currently working on getting all the junk out of my life. It has also brought my husband and I so much closer.

I want to thank all of you on this site, you have all been such an inspriration during my journey with cancer. You all Rock!

christie

08-07-2008, 01:55 AM

hi everyone,

i read the posts which you all write, but yes other than knowing the cancer details , we dont have much idea about each other. this thread is nice, i hope everyone writes into this and we can become a closer knit family.

I live in Nairobi , Kenya. I am trained to teach children with special needs, God has given me lot of patience and i feel i fit here the best, to reach out to these kids, at present i am not working.

we also look after a school in the Kibera slums in Nairobi, i am in the board and we look after the funds and manage the funds for them, there are so many poor kids, most of them orphans, abused, raped and Hiv positive in that school. we make sure they are provided with 2 square meals and clothing and education and telling them about God's love.. , we have 120 kids at present. i help in managing the accounts and we as a board take measures to ensure that the kids get what all we can provide by manging the funds we receive in a effective and accurate way.

I hope through this we can improve the lives of some of children God has entrusted in our hands to make their life better.

My husband, Daniel , has just started his own business, he is an engineer and is dealing with compressed air systems , Boilers and steam systems.

i have 2 children, keturah (13) and Kenneth(11).

I feel blessed to be their mother,

I have wonderful friends and also family who help me so much and are concerned about me. I love people around me and love being with them, i cannot live in isolation.

Above all i love Jesus and i know he is my best friend, i share everything with him.

love
christie

juanita

11-04-2008, 05:14 PM

thought it was time to bump this back up to the top for anyone new.

Marlys

03-15-2009, 01:20 PM

In reading the blog of "newbie" MMoons I realized it has been a long time since this thread has been brought forward. Therefore by the power vested in me by Joe & Christine (although they may not know it) I am bringing it forward again. Hey, those of you who have not shared let's hear from you.
Love & hugs,
Marlys

ElaineM

03-15-2009, 03:08 PM

I am a retired teacher who has lived in New York, Japan and Hawaii.
I currently participate in an interfaith organization.
We have been planning several events. One of those events will probably be broadcast on local T. V. in the fall or winter of 2009.

Mary Anne in TX

03-15-2009, 03:20 PM

I've read and re-read this thread a couple of times. It's like having a "tea party" with ol' friends! I love visiting with everyone this way. I'm an old (and hoping to get older) school teacher and librarian who has done sales management for the last 28 years. My current goal is to be an old retired person. I get close, but have never quite gotten there. I'm counting on being able to raise our granddaughter (never giving up on her daddy getting zapped by God and taking over the job) and sending her off to college and really taking the plunge and retiring. Except that is for always making time to learn more about this goofy disease that is always knocking on the door.
ma

ElaineM

03-16-2009, 10:57 AM

This is a very good idea. We don't need to go anywhere else to get to know each other a little better.

Marlys

10-25-2009, 06:50 AM

Bringing it forward.
Love & hugs,
Marlys

margiermc

10-25-2009, 05:20 PM

Hi, My name is Margie, I just joined the group the other day, can't seem to stay off this website. I have 2 kids, 19 boy attends USF and daughter 18 will attend USF. I graduated from USF as an education major, teaching and my master toward Library Info. Science. I have not returned to work - I will in Jan. I do substitute work. This gives me the benefit of working in my profession, yet I work when I want. I am
married - Paul, he works for the County Gov't, with traffic signals.
My first years of college was toward nursing.
A year ago, I felt a lump in my right breast. They told me I have DCIS, never spreads. I had pain. I went to the ER - they scanned and found
liver met. Stage 0 to stage 4 in a matter of a few weeks. Chemo,
for 10 weeks, now vaccine and trying to stay well.

I am happy to meet all of you, wish it could be in another way.
Stay well, god bless, margie

Marlys

06-01-2010, 07:06 AM

Bringing this forward for the newbies who might want to tell us about themselves and possible find out more about us.
Love & hugs,
Marlys

ammebarb

06-01-2010, 12:33 PM

I have just found this thread and have enjoyed reading about so many women in this battle. I am the sister of a HER2 lady, who was diagnosed in March of 2009. She was a registered nurse in a Dr.'s office until her diagnosis and has since retired. I am also a bc survivor (twenty six and a half years), never tested for HER2. I am a retired kindergarten teacher (30 years)

Barb A.

tricia keegan

06-01-2010, 12:42 PM

I love this thread too, thanks for bringing it up Marlys!

Welcome to all our new members and looking forward to getting to know you!

Marlys

04-24-2011, 07:18 AM

Bringing it forward one more time.
Love & Hugs,
Marlys

JeanBeanie

04-26-2011, 11:28 AM

Hello everyone,

I am married 21 years - to a firefighter Michael. We have no children but we both come from very large families - so there are plenty of kids to go around.
I work now part time as controller for a campany who out fits yachts - for spare parts. I did work stressful hours - until of my second diagonis with bc in March 2011. Now it is all about Michael and I.

adelay

04-26-2011, 12:40 PM

I'm 42 years old, I have been married for 19 years to the love of my life and we have one son who will be graduating from high school in a few weeks and is heading off to Ohio State University this fall. I have a degree in early Childhood Education and have owned my own day care/pre school for the past 18 years. I worked as a director of a child care center before that. Children are my passion. I will be celebrating my 2 year cancerversary on April 28th. Here's to many more years NED...

pibikay

06-10-2011, 12:04 AM

Just stumbled on to this thred.I will be 70 in September and Hema will ne 63 on 29th August.We have been married for 43 years. I am retired lawyer.Hema is basically a home maker.She is into Music and she has participated in lecture demos.We have a dughter and son both settled in the USA. We live in Chennai.India
Best of luck all

harrie

06-20-2011, 12:47 AM

Hema is very beautiful.....

pibikay

06-20-2011, 07:00 AM

Thanks Harrie

Estelle

06-28-2011, 09:33 AM

I just saw this! I like the idea of getting to know some non-cancer facts about our friends and fellow fighters. I am currently retired after 28 years of working as a public sector lawyer doing civil rights work (primarily employment discrimination, and housing discrimination and accessibility issues). I went to law school because I saw the law as a means to effect positive change, particularly for those who have no voice -- and I have been blessed that in most of my jobs I have been able to do just that. I also taught law school for 7 years while my daughter, my rock, now 26, was young. I have an BA in music, which was my first love, and am now happily singing to two choirs, including a semi-professional choir - www.heritagesignaturechorale.org (http://www.heritagesignaturechorale.org) -- and composing sacred choral music. I am also catching up on a lot of travel that I postponed throughout the years.

And most importantly, I thank God every morning for new mercies.

snolan

07-14-2011, 08:07 AM

Just saw this post would like to chime in.

I am a Physical Therapist Assistant for the last 15 year. Working mainly in inpatient rehab settings. Love to work with stroke, and head injury patients. I currently have switched venues and am the clinical coordinator for a PTA program, I still see home health patients on the side. I have enjoyed switching to the teaching side as it has forced me to relearn a lot of things we forget over the years. My husband and I also enjoy racing mountain bikes. We are not pros or anything but enjoy it and it gives us something to do together. I have two girls ages 11 and 8. I coach my 11 year olds basketball team, and my husband coaches my 8 yo soccer team. So we stay very active, which has helped me keep motiviated on recovery and getting thru tx.

RhondaH

01-29-2012, 03:21 PM

Hello all my BEAUTIFUL ladies!!!! It's been almost 6 years since my dx and while I don't post much, I do check up on you all. It looks like this hasn't been around for a while, so please feel free to add to it. Take care and love ya.

Your Breast Friend,

Rhonda

Pray

01-29-2012, 11:25 PM

I worked as a sub-secretary for district and voluntered for Saint Vincent d' Paul Society. 10 years and for The last 6 I was President our Parish. Until my dx. Now I watch a new born twice a week and I am having so much fun!

fauxgypsy

02-01-2012, 07:34 PM

I can't remember whether I have posted here or not. I am an artist and I am an instructor at a community college where I teach Anatomy and Physiology, Nutrition and other Biology courses. For many years I had a company and did faux finishes and murals. After my mastectomy, I couldn't do the large faux finish jobs without having flareups of lymphedema.

Pray

02-02-2012, 06:02 AM

Leslie, I'm sorry part of your passion had to come to an end. Gods blessings to you!

Kmswilson

02-03-2012, 08:10 AM

I just saw this thread! What fun! I have been married for 11 years and have a 5-1/2-year-old son, Jake, and a daughter, Ellee, who will turn 3 at the beginning of March. Before my stage IV diagnosis when my doc suggested I "spend as much time with family" as I could, I was an account supervisor for an ad agency in Louisville, KY. I handled a large portion of our GE Appliances account developing marketing and training materials and an internal sales training website for them. I loved it, but it was extremely stressful, and i worked a ton of hours. I believe some blessings have come from this last year's journey in that I've been able to spend so much time with my family, especially my kiddos. I've been on LTD and social security disability. The agency I worked for, however, is fabulous. They have stocked our pantry with carloads of food, diapers, toilet paper, paper towels, etc., several times over the last year, raised funds to help with medical costs several times, and they run a care calendar where someone brings my family dinner every Monday, Wednesday and Friday (primarily coworkers who participate), and they've kept this up for over a year! They are amazing people, and I can't help but feel thanks fo how blessed I am by coworkers, friends, and family.

NEDenise

02-03-2012, 03:39 PM

Hi All!
What a great idea! I'm so glad this got bumped back up! I've often wondered what some of my HER2 friends do when they're not fighting the cancer beasties.

I am married to my high school sweetheart and very best friend. We've been a couple for 31 years...married for nearly 24 years. We have two wonderful sons, Jack 14, and Ben 13.

I have been a teacher for 26 years, and have taught every grade from preschool to 8th grade, except for 1st grade. The responsibility of teaching children the basics of reading...easily the most important thing they'll learn in school...has struck fear in my heart, and caused me never to venture into a first grade classroom. I was teaching 4th grade when I was diagnosed.

It's been exactly one year today since I left my classroom to go to the surgeon's office and get my pathology results. At first, I was anxious to get back to school. Then, I was too sick to consider going back. Now, I'm trying not to go back until the fall. I miss the kids, and I miss teaching. I miss my fellow teachers and staff members. I don't miss the paperwork....the testing...or my miserable principal. (I've been "sick" for an entire year now, and I'm still waiting for my first get well wish from her!) There are 5 other schools in the district...and I'm hoping that when I go back, I'll be assigned to one of them!

Anyway...my husband is an architect. He plays the trumpet, as does our son Jack. Ben, the younger boy, plays violin and French Horn. All three play in the wind ensemble at our church. (I would love to say that I play the piano...but alas...I do not.)

Our favorite thing to do together is laugh. We do an awful lot of it. We tend toward sarcasm, but not at the expense of anyone's feelings. For me, laughter really is the best medicine, and it's been a blessing to me during this whole BC ordeal.

We have a Norwegian Elkhound, Molly, whom we refer to as being pampered. (as opposed to being spoiled)

My hobbies are reading, crocheting, and chocolate. Not necessarily in that order. To say I love to exercise would be a lie...and my mother told me not to lie...but I can say that I love the idea of exercise. I often comtemplate it quite seriously. I've even had dreams about it...but so far...my motivation to do it while I'm awake is spotty at best.

Well...now you know a little about me...
If you're reading this and you haven't posted your "non-BC self" yet...

What are ya waitin' for!? We're dying to get to know you better too!

Denise

KsGal

02-04-2012, 01:07 AM

Well, my name is Jody, and I live in a small town in Kansas. I spent 15 years being a medical transcriptionist, specializing ironically in oncology and hematology. About 1-1/2 years ago I decided to take a part time job outside of the house. I had spent those 15 years working at home and raising my kids, which was such a wonderful blessing for all of us really, but felt it was time to get out and do a little now that my kids were about grown. That grew pretty quickly into me getting promoted and becoming a full time assistant manager in a restaurant/dairy store a block from my home. I love the people I work with, but the job is major stressful and pretty physical as well. I'm 43 now, and my youngest son and daughter still live at home, so I spend a lot of time with them. Right now I am in a holding pattern until I get this first set of therapies out of the way, but being diagnosed has really changed the way I feel about things. Im moving back to where I came from in a couple months, and kind of starting over the way again the way I wanted to do things in the first place. I probably wouldn't have had the motivation to do it before, but it comes easily now. Im pretty excited about what the future holds a few months down the road after the move, and spending time with family and friends that I have not been able to for years now.

NEDenise

02-04-2012, 12:24 PM

Jody,
Your move sounds exciting! I hope all your "starting over" dreams come true!
Denise

Becky

02-04-2012, 01:21 PM

I just looked at my post on this that was over 6 years ago. So much has changed! I did move and I am still in my "new" house - now here 6 years.

My daughter Robin is now 25. She ended up getting a BA from Rutgers in English and then went to Le Cordon Bleu and got a culinary degree. She is currently a sous chef in Manhattan and is getting married on May 26, 2012 (so we are very busy). Leigh (23) also finished college and has a degree in Baking and Pastry arts from Johnson & Wales University. She's worked in kitchens but recently saw an ad for a nanny who cooks. Her employers are a Princeton professor and a Gastro Surgeon. So she cares for their babies (2yrs and newborn) and prepares dinner as well as department events for their work and dinner parties (she adores this job). My youngest, Cara (20) goes to community college and works full time for the ARC (she is a care giver in a home for mentally disabled women. The home is a house just like any of ours). There are 6 women in the house. It is a hard job but she loves it. I am hoping it encourages her to get a nursing degree.

My husband now works for Rolls Royce (the turbine division not the cars). I am still at BASF but I DID get a sales job. I am in the Distribution group and I sell 6 (out of 13) divisions products only to BASF distributors. It is hundreds of products and veried. It is fast paced - sometimes almost crazy but it is what I wanted and it was weird to read my post on this thread from 6 years ago and wha la - I am actually doing what I said I wanted to do (even though I would still like to get into a business group and just do one line of products). However, life is a million baby steps. We still have our dog Chloe and our cat, Oil. We do not breed horses anymore but still have one at our home and one sport horse that is boarded (Cara is an avid equestrian and rides and shows).

I thought it would be good to update myself so I did.