Mom/Thank you

[Mel]

I posted in a couple of weeks ago because I was completely lost with my mother's diagnosis (Mom/Questions) - I received such helpful information and so many words of support. Unfortunately, right after that post and her appt that day with the onc, she began deteriorating very quickly. Her onc did not seem to be aware of how sick she was, and was really pushing chemo w/ Herceptin, but watching the nurses (home health, and onc) gave us a very different story - they seemed to be very surprised that the doc would suggest putting her through chemo at this stage of the game. She decided against the chemo, signed onto hospice at home the following week, and passed away last Friday. The nurses who helped us to care for her were amazing, and we are all so thankful that we were able to keep her at home, she did not want to die in the hospital.
I just wanted to acknowledge the excellent information and words of support that I received here in my single post - I had never utilized a support site like this, did not know what to expect. Thank you Paul, Ron, Eleanor, Lolly, JaneP, LOLAM for your kind words and information.
I still do not have much education or knowledge on this topic other than what I received here, but I wanted to offer up my ear and my support to anyone who is supporting a loved one in the end stages of this disease. I'll follow the posts periodically, or feel free to email me directly.
Thanks again for such a great site,
Mel

[Paul]

Dear Mom,

I was deeply saddened to hear of your mom's death. Your willingness to assist others in the midst of this terribly difficult time speaks volumes about your good character as well as your mom's character. This community will always welcome, encourage and value your assistance and perspective.

It is said that love is how we stay alive, even after we're gone. Based on your post, I know that your mom's love lives on in you and will continue to thrive in your heart and in your mind. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family. Please stay in touch.

With deep care,

Paul

[Paul]

Dear Mel,

Sorry for the improper heading in last post. Obviously, I meant "Mel," not "Mom." Take care, Paul

[Kitty]

Mel,

I am so sorry to learn of your mother's passing, I'm sure it has been hard on you. I do think it is wonderful she was at home like she wanted, in the end you couldn't have done any more than that. God bless you, I will keep you in my prayers.

Kitty

[Ron, Cyndi\'s Husband]

Mel,

I am very sorry to hear the news of your mother's passing, but glad you took the time to post. We care.

For those who love the Lord: He has taken her from your present and placed her in your future.

God Bless You and Your Family,
ron

[Lolly]

Mel,
Prayers of love and support go out to you and your family. Your mom was blessed to have you by her side during her last days; it was a very couragous and loving act.
Thank you for letting us know, and thank you for offering your support and hard-earned wisdom, it is greatly appreciated.
Love and Hugs, Lolly

[JaneP]

Mel, I am sorry. It is never easy to lose a parent, no matter what your age.

Jane

[Lisa]

I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. I can't imagine your pain, but I can share your grief. I am thankful, though, that your mother was able to be home under the angelic care of Hospice.

I hope you never again have need to know about this disease, but we'll be here if you need us. It's so unselfish for you to offer your support to us, as well, at this time. Thank you.

Much love and light to all,

Lisa

[Sheila]

Mel, remembering your Mom with deepest sympathy...how very lucky to have a son to take care of her in her battle. I just lost a dear friend 1 week ago to BC....I spent her last day with her. She was my inspiration, a free spirit who wouldn't give in till the end....through sadness we gain more courage and inspiration to fight this disease and find a lasting cure. Thank You for taking the time in your sadness to post.
Prayers and Hugs
Sheila

[lolam]

So sorry for your loss. Makes me treasure my relationships while I can so that good memories will live on forever. May God comfort you in these days. I know He will. He never leaves us or forsakes us. For those who know Him, Heaven is surely a wonderful place. We will see our loved ones again and that is such a comfort to me. Hugs, Lola

[Mel]

Sheila,

Thank you and I am so sorry for the loss of your friend as well. What a gift that you were able to be with her on her last day. The courage displayed by my mom, your friend, all the women and men on this board is astounding. It gives me hope - if they can face this disease on the front lines, then I can deal with this loss.

I had a good giggle due to your post - My friends all know me as "Mel" and so that is how I posted, but my name is actually Melinda. It hadn't occurred to me that everyone would think I was male :)

My thoughts and prayers to you too Sheila.