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Old 05-16-2012, 10:22 AM   #1
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Men's health article for caregivers

Interesting article below. I can agree that I am stressed. But, at the same time, I don't feel like I can complain since I'm not the one with cancer. Anyone else affected by this? And how are you coping?

Caring for wife with breast cancer can affect men's health:
http://www.news-medical.net/news/201...ns-health.aspx
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01/11 ~ Mastectomy
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07/11 ~ Reconstructive surgery
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03/12 ~ Tumors dx her2 metastisis, not entdometrial cancer. Back to BC tx.
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09/12 ~ PET/CT scans show NED. : )
04/13 ~ Rash on original breast biopsied as cancer.
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06/13 ~ PET/CT scans show NED : )
11/13 ~ Jaundice eyes and skin. CT scan show mets to liver as well as peritoneal carcinomatosis with malignant ascites. Began Abraxane/Herceptin tx.
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Old 05-16-2012, 12:29 PM   #2
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Re: Men's health article for caregivers

I worried a lot (and still do) about my husband's health when I was doing treatment. He's an extremely caring person and literally forced me to stay alive a few times. He also was an air traffic controller and then tower manager in his 37 year career with the FAA so stressful environments have always been part of his daily life. During my treatment months he did usually do a few stress reliever things - going to the driving range, playing golf with our son while I was getting chemo, working in the yard, etc. In spite of all that, in one of our more serious discussions I told him I would rather be the one with the cancer than the one watching someone I love have cancer. It's such a mean beast and effects the entire circle of family and friends.
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3/12/10: mammogram/ultrasnd/biopsy-invasive bc & DCIS; 2 tumors (2cm er-/pr-/HER2-& 1.8 cm er-/pr-/HER2+); grade 3;poorly differentiated
3/24/10:sent.node biopsy clear
3/31/10:bi-lateral mx.;atypical ductal hyperplasia-lft side
4/21/10:wound revision-infection/scarring 4/28/10:seromas both sides
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07/2010: port not working-2nd port didnt'work;3rd port opposite side.
07/2010: 2 weeks after 3rd port surgery, threw 3 pulm. emboli-IVC filter installed; warfarin
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12/03/2010 - finished 33 rads Hooray!! cont. Herc. every 3 wks
4/2011 - pneumonia ??? Nope-radiation pneumonitis. No more Herc.
5/2011 - NED!!! port out.
8/2011 - clean PET & CT scans.Still NED
7/2012 - Still NED/very blessed.
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Old 05-16-2012, 08:00 PM   #3
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Re: Men's health article for caregivers

Thank you. i am currently undergoing treatment. I am VERY concerned for my husband's well being. I wish he had someone here he could go to beers with, go hiking with etc., who understood what he is going through. I wash there was a male support group for husbands with wives with breast cancer.
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Old 05-19-2012, 05:32 AM   #4
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Re: Men's health article for caregivers

There is such an organization:

http://menagainstbreastcancer.org/
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Old 05-19-2012, 09:05 AM   #5
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Re: Men's health article for caregivers

Thank you so much Jackie! I have.passed it on to my husband.who I hope will use it.
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Old 06-21-2012, 08:31 PM   #6
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Re: Men's health article for caregivers

My life-long brain tumor was diagnosed two years after my husband and I had our wedding. Already an overly-cautious person, hubby was constantly worried about whether or not I'd burned down the house or getting hurt because of my cognitive problems. (Ever watched 'Fifty First Dates'? There are quite a few familiar scenes ...

11 years later, he had to take me to Dallas to undergo GKRS for three of the new growths. Then boom! Two years later I was diagnosed with breast cancer!

Two years after my initial diagnosis of breast cancer, hubby experienced angina while doing his daily walk (no longer able to jog due to runners' knees) My late Mother-in-law (1927-2008) had had a heart attack 12 years prior, and hubby has been on high blood pressure medicine since his early 20's.

So he went through operation to get two stents put in his arteries and continued to walk daily - per his cardiologist's advice. Guess what happened next? I had a recurrence and lost my job again - this time permanently! So what's hubby to do? He's sent to a psychiatirst to get evaluated, prescribed some better 'anxiety pills', and had regular meetings with a therapist who reassured hubby that he's not 'crazy' considering all he/we had been through. "Trust me, I've seen 'crazy'..."

And we don't even have kids! Yes, it will take its toll...
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Old 07-15-2012, 04:56 AM   #7
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Angry Re: Men's health article for caregivers

I feel that there is some truth in the article.After recurrance and Hema's second course of Chemo I am short tempered and fatigued.Would love to go on napping.
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Herceptin started again on 27th Dec 2012.Xeloda stopped Navelbin added on 7th February 2013.Now on Tykerb Herceptin and Navelbin
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Old 07-16-2012, 07:42 AM   #8
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Re: Men's health article for caregivers

I firmly believe one of the factors of my parents longivity is the afternoon nap...
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NICU 4.4 LB
Erythema Nodosum 85
Life-long Central Neurocytoma 4x5x6.5 cm 23 hrs 62090 semi-coma 10 d PT OT ST 30 d
3 Infertility tmts 99 > 3 u. fibroids > Pills
CN 3 GKRS 52301
IDC 1.2 cm Her2 +++ ER 5% R. Lmptmy SLNB+1 71703 6 FEC 33 R Tamoxifen
Recc IIB 2.5 cm Bi-L Mast 61407 2/9 nds PET
6 TCH Cellulitis - Lymphedema - compression sleeve & glove
H w x 4 MUGA 51 D, J 49 M
Diastasis recti
Tamoxifen B. scan
Irrtbl bowel 1'09
Colonoscopy 313
BRCA1 V1247I
hptc hemangioma
Vertigo
GI - > yogurt
hysterectomy/oophorectomy 011410
Exemestane 25 mg tab 102912 ~ 101016 stopped due to r. hip/l.thigh pain after long walk
DEXA 1/13
1-2016 lesions in liver largest 9mm & 1.3 cm onco. says not cancer.
3-11 Appendectomy - visually O.K., a lot of puss. Final path result - not cancer.
Start Vitamin D3 and Calcium supplement (600mg x2)
10-10 Stopped Exemestane due to r. hip/l.thigh pain OKed by Onco 11-08-2016

"I WANT TO BE AN OUTRAGEOUS OLD WOMAN WHO NEVER GETS CALLED AN OLD LADY. I WANT TO GET SHARP EDGED & EARTH COLORED, TILL I FADE AWAY FROM PURE JOY." Irene from Tampa

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Old 11-14-2012, 11:43 PM   #9
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I want to get sharp edged & earth colored, till i fade away from pure joy.
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