Need help understanding Her2 - scared

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Dear all. My wife who is 36 was just diagnosed with Her2 positive breast cancer. I think grade 3. She is ER - and PR -. 1 lymph node positive. PET scan showed no other areas.

She started chem taxol, carboplatin, herceptin and pertuzmab. Then she will have surgery and radiotherapy. We are two months in.

I am deeply scared. Whatever I read shows that Her2 is very aggressive and recurrence is high. It also shows that if you are lucky you can manage to fend of Her2 for maybe 10-20 years but prognosis beyond that is very poor.

I don't know how/what to think at the moment. Can someone enlighten me please of what I am dealing with. Do I really need to prepare myself for the worst and just enjoy the time we have.