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Old 08-19-2009, 05:57 PM   #1
djean
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Unhappy Support for a dear friend...

A very dear friend of mine had a tumor removed from her right breast 5 years ago and radiation treatments followed. (To keep this short) Last Nov the cancer returned in the same breast. She choose to have a dbl mastectomy. About two months ago she had implants put in, only to have some problems with that right (breast) side again. Last Friday the Dr. took out that right implant. My friend has been in much pain and discomfort since the beginning of her ordeal, she had decided not have the implant put in at a later date. She is thankful that the cancer/breasts are removed, but she is very depressed. She said she can't stop crying, that she looks so ugly now (One implant that turned brownish in color, and her right side that has a huge indentation.)I don't know what to say to her. Her husband is wonderful and reassuring, she says. I know it is still fresh and she is still recovering, but what words can I say to help her other than we are all thankful that she is cancer free? Any thought would be greatly appreciated. We are always there for each other, I don't want to let her down now. Thank you.
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Old 08-20-2009, 09:20 AM   #2
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Re: Support for a dear friend...

just by being there for her you are doing the best thing for her!!! I had a bilateral mast. with no reconstruction, and I look pretty lumpy here and there (mostly because now I can see my ribs!). Wish her well from me and tell her that soon enough she will learn to look at her scars and all with pride of all that she has endured! xo Suzan
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5/05 suspicious mammogram-left breast
5/05 biopsy-invasive lobular carcinoma with LCIS,8mm tumor,stage 1 grade 2, ER+ PR+ Her2+++
6/14/05 bilateral mastectomy, node neg. all scans neg.
Oncotype DX-high risk
8/05-10/05 4 rounds A/C
10/05 -10/06 1 yr. herceptin
arimidex-5 years
2/14/08 started daily self administered injections..FORTEO for severe osteoporosis
7/28/09 BRCA 1 negative BRCA2 POSITIVE
8/17/09 prophylactic salpingo-oophorectomy
10/15/10 last FORTEOinjection
RECLAST infusion(ostoeporosis)
6/14/10 5 year cancerversary!
8/2010-18%increase in bone density!
no further treatments
Oncologist says, "Go do the Happy Dance"
I say,"What a long strange trip its been"
'One day at a time'
6-14-2015. 10 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!
7-16 to 9-16. Extensive (and expensive) dental work done to save teeth. Damage from osteoporosis and chemo and long term bisphosphonate use
6-14-16. 11 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!!
7-20-16 Prolia injection for severe osteoporosis
2 days later, massive hive outbreak. This led to an eventual dx of Chronic Ideopathic Urticaria, an auto-immune disease from HELL.
6-14-17 12 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!!
still suffering from CIU. 4 hospitilizations in the past year

as of today, 10-31-17 in remission from CIU and still, CANCER FREE!!!
6-14-18 13 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!! NED!!
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Old 08-22-2009, 02:34 AM   #3
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Re: Support for a dear friend...

留得青山在 不怕沒柴燒

Please tell your friend the above Chinese saying - "As long as the green mountain is preserved, one needs not to worry about getting fire woods."

As long as she is healthy, there're unlimited possibilities ...
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