in a dilemma

[ElaineM]

I agree with the other people who responded to your message about what to do. I also think Hema knows.
Our bodies and our spirits know what is happening on some level even if nobody tells us the whole story.
Spend as much time as you can with Hema. Talk to her. Tell her how much you love her. Ask her what she wants. Assure her that you will do everything you can to make sure she gets as much care as she needs and wants.
Hugs to both you and Hema during this difficult time.