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v-ness · 03-03-2010, 07:46 PM

people never cease to amaze me.

when i was in my 20's i met an older guy at a bar. he was a fireman. he told me he was a vietnam vet (like his best friend was) and that he had stomach cancer from agent orange so that's why he'd gone on disability. well, his V-vet best friend was bullshit when i innocently mentioned it to him. the only truth he told was that he was a fireman, the vet status and stomach cancer were just stories. and here i'd even spent time with him one night as he clutched his stomach in pain. his disability was a back issue that even the fire dept thought was faked.

he's lucky i didn't disable him in a place he'd regret forever.

as someone who lost a husband to cancer i find what your thankfully EX boyfriend was doing deplorable. unfortunately, i've been around the net a lot and i've seen similar stories, the latest was a guy faking a brain tumor to get his ex-girlfriend back.

i'm glad you caught on to him. obviously your spidey-sense about that guy was more accurate than you ever imagined.

valerie

03-03-2010, 07:46 PM	#9
v-ness Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western ma Posts: 280	Re: survivor dating a man who lost a fiancee to BC people never cease to amaze me. when i was in my 20's i met an older guy at a bar. he was a fireman. he told me he was a vietnam vet (like his best friend was) and that he had stomach cancer from agent orange so that's why he'd gone on disability. well, his V-vet best friend was bullshit when i innocently mentioned it to him. the only truth he told was that he was a fireman, the vet status and stomach cancer were just stories. and here i'd even spent time with him one night as he clutched his stomach in pain. his disability was a back issue that even the fire dept thought was faked. he's lucky i didn't disable him in a place he'd regret forever. as someone who lost a husband to cancer i find what your thankfully EX boyfriend was doing deplorable. unfortunately, i've been around the net a lot and i've seen similar stories, the latest was a guy faking a brain tumor to get his ex-girlfriend back. i'm glad you caught on to him. obviously your spidey-sense about that guy was more accurate than you ever imagined. valerie __________________ 8/09 - IDC 1.8 cm triple positive, lumpectomy left breast 10/09 began chemo (taxotere & carboplatin) and weekly herceptin. 1/21/10 finished chemo, continued on herceptin every 3 weeks until 10/2010. 2/10 began 7 wks of radiation 6/10 mom dies of primary peritoneal ovarian cancer 8/10 got my last remaining ovary out 10/10 mammogram all clear 3/11 MRI shows 5 'spots' in right breast, largest 1 cm unidentifiable on US needle biopsy proved the largest to be old inflamed cyst -phew! 7/10 switched to Arimidex 8/9 switched to Femara - allergic to arimidex Femara made me lose hair quickly so switched to Aromasin Aromasin made my hair fall out too and the bone pain was too much. back on Tamoxifen 1/2013. blood clot from trains and planes 5/2014 so on coumadin per onco for as long as i am on tamoxifen tamoxifen was supposed to be up with my 5 yrs in may but my boyfriend was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer so i am staying on tamoxifen indefinitely because i want some ammo against BC, given the stress. lost my husband in only 10 wks in 2007 to stage 4 esophageal cancer. cancer's screwing with another man i love 2/2016 - 6yrs in remission, off tamoxifen and off coumadin - yay!