[Sheila]

Michelle
I can understand when you said he came from a family that didn't show love, or express love.
When I was married the first time, my husband was the same way, his family never showed love, no kiss, no hug, no I love you...I on the other hand came from a surreal family in a sense that I never ever saw my parents argue, my father had so much love for my Mom and love was freely expressed....he never left the house without a kiss goodbye and an I love you....AND HE STILL DOES IT!!!! They will be married 60 years this year....both cancer survivors, and both so in love....they function as a unit....Like I said, I also expected this type of love the first go around...3 children and 19 years later it was still no where to be found...I was a single parent raising 3 children with no help from my husband....I went for counseling, prayed alot, nothing improved. Finally right before 20 years I said ENOUGH. That was 16 years ago, funny how time heals. We are now good friends, but it took getting divorced for him to realize that alcohol, emotional abuse, no love or respect and never being their took a toll on me and the kids. He still shows no love to his children or grandchildren, probably never will...he leaves for IRAQ Sunday, by choice on a government job...will the kids and grandkids ever know him? There are some people, men and women both that feel running away from life events that are uncomfortable is the only answer.... easier to run than face the situation. It is sad that these life altering events sometimes divide people rather that unite them and make them closer....all you can do it keep fighting for yourself, hopefully they will come around....they are the ones that stand to lose by not being there for you!