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valleygirl · 02-15-2012, 07:34 PM

How do you deal with your friends who avoid you? I'd say 96% have been very distant. Some have been my friend since childhood. I have some coworkers that I think of as family, who I've worked with for over twenty years. I'm not sure how to deal with this.
I'll text and won't get a text back, I think phone calls have been avoided and once I do get a hold of them I can tell they're not comfortable
talking about what I'm going through. I have tried to just keep the conversation light and up beat, but there always seems to be a monkey in the room.
Even on facebook no one seems to response to my posts. earlier tonight I asked friends to join me for our local Relay for Life, asked them to message
me if they were interested, No messages. My husband suggested that I just invite some over for dinner, he thinks they may be more comfortable
talking in person. I'm not comfortable with that because I'm not comfortable with how I look in tops. If I do go anywhere I leave my coat on. I had a
double mastectomy, have a implant on one side and an expander in the other, but find it very noticeable. I'm still in some pain and wearing a bra
is painful. I know I've been very emotional lately and having a hard time turning it off. I only know one other woman who has had breast cancer but
she lives 1000s of miles away and don't know her very well. How do you deal with friends?

02-15-2012, 07:34 PM	#1
valleygirl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Millsboro, Delaware Posts: 140	how do you deal with friends who aviod you? How do you deal with your friends who avoid you? I'd say 96% have been very distant. Some have been my friend since childhood. I have some coworkers that I think of as family, who I've worked with for over twenty years. I'm not sure how to deal with this. I'll text and won't get a text back, I think phone calls have been avoided and once I do get a hold of them I can tell they're not comfortable talking about what I'm going through. I have tried to just keep the conversation light and up beat, but there always seems to be a monkey in the room. Even on facebook no one seems to response to my posts. earlier tonight I asked friends to join me for our local Relay for Life, asked them to message me if they were interested, No messages. My husband suggested that I just invite some over for dinner, he thinks they may be more comfortable talking in person. I'm not comfortable with that because I'm not comfortable with how I look in tops. If I do go anywhere I leave my coat on. I had a double mastectomy, have a implant on one side and an expander in the other, but find it very noticeable. I'm still in some pain and wearing a bra is painful. I know I've been very emotional lately and having a hard time turning it off. I only know one other woman who has had breast cancer but she lives 1000s of miles away and don't know her very well. How do you deal with friends?