[BonnieR]

First of all, kvogler, you are NOT a failure! Nor is your husband. My guess is that he is feeling as overwhelmed as you and having lots of trouble coping I remember my husband saying to me "but men are supposed to be able to fix things" and he couldn't fix this! We have been married a long time. Here you are, a young couple, a new family, and now this. It's not what either of you signed up for. But it's the hand you were dealt and hopefully he will step up to the plate. I am so happy to hear about the therapy. Get yourself some help and maybe medication for anxiety and depression. The therapist will likely want to see your husband too. My cancer center had a counselor who specialized in our needs
Right now try to take things one day at a time. Don't project too much. It will get better. Keep the faith
And Europa, I love what you expressed. Sometimes one of the blessings of cancer is clarity!!!