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Jackie07 · 05-12-2009, 03:20 AM

Knowing that 'Hubby' will never venture into the 'computer world', I feel 'safe' to share something private here with you all. Not long ago (a year? Maryanne in Hawaii [Harrie Canarie]might remember because I had discussed it with her via private messages) he was depressed and frustrated and wanted 'out' - see my signature to figure out the reason (he has been a care-giver since day one - you have never seen a more sickly-looking bride...)

Cancer is hard on us patients. But it is equally hard or even harder on our loved ones - because there's not much they can do except suffer with us. I am sharing our story here so others will not lose heart too quickly. Here's a note he just gave me:

"Dear L.B.M.M.,

Of all the regrets I will have when my life is done, the one regret I never will have is that I have loved you. I do not regret the time we have had together. We have gone through many bad times in our life together, things that would have made many couples give up on their marriage. Somehow we have withstood the storms of life and we are still standing, and standing stronger than we ever have before.

We no longer fear things we used to fear. We have gained strength from the storms. It kind of makes me think that God has been with us from the beginning of our marriage. We are stronger than we ever have been. Who else could have looked death in the face and laughed? We could; and God was looking over our shoulder all the time.

Love,

JE

05-12-2009, 03:20 AM	#1
Jackie07 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: "Love never fails." Posts: 5,808	Roller-coaster Knowing that 'Hubby' will never venture into the 'computer world', I feel 'safe' to share something private here with you all. Not long ago (a year? Maryanne in Hawaii [Harrie Canarie]might remember because I had discussed it with her via private messages) he was depressed and frustrated and wanted 'out' - see my signature to figure out the reason (he has been a care-giver since day one - you have never seen a more sickly-looking bride...) Cancer is hard on us patients. But it is equally hard or even harder on our loved ones - because there's not much they can do except suffer with us. I am sharing our story here so others will not lose heart too quickly. Here's a note he just gave me: "Dear L.B.M.M., Of all the regrets I will have when my life is done, the one regret I never will have is that I have loved you. I do not regret the time we have had together. We have gone through many bad times in our life together, things that would have made many couples give up on their marriage. Somehow we have withstood the storms of life and we are still standing, and standing stronger than we ever have before. We no longer fear things we used to fear. We have gained strength from the storms. It kind of makes me think that God has been with us from the beginning of our marriage. We are stronger than we ever have been. Who else could have looked death in the face and laughed? We could; and God was looking over our shoulder all the time. Love, JE __________________ Jackie07 http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2011/06/doctors-letter-patient-newly-diagnosed-cancer.html http://www.asco.org/ASCOv2/MultiMedi...=114&trackID=2 NICU 4.4 LB Erythema Nodosum 85 Life-long Central Neurocytoma 4x5x6.5 cm 23 hrs 62090 semi-coma 10 d PT OT ST 30 d 3 Infertility tmts 99 > 3 u. fibroids > Pills CN 3 GKRS 52301 IDC 1.2 cm Her2 +++ ER 5% R. Lmptmy SLNB+1 71703 6 FEC 33 R Tamoxifen Recc IIB 2.5 cm Bi-L Mast 61407 2/9 nds PET 6 TCH Cellulitis - Lymphedema - compression sleeve & glove H w x 4 MUGA 51 D, J 49 M Diastasis recti Tamoxifen B. scan Irrtbl bowel 1'09 Colonoscopy 313 BRCA1 V1247I hptc hemangioma Vertigo GI - > yogurt hysterectomy/oophorectomy 011410 Exemestane 25 mg tab 102912 ~ 101016 stopped due to r. hip/l.thigh pain after long walk DEXA 1/13 1-2016 lesions in liver largest 9mm & 1.3 cm onco. says not cancer. 3-11 Appendectomy - visually O.K., a lot of puss. Final path result - not cancer. Start Vitamin D3 and Calcium supplement （600mg x2) 10-10 Stopped Exemestane due to r. hip/l.thigh pain OKed by Onco 11-08-2016 7-23-2018 9 mm groundglass nodule within the right lower lobe with indolent behavior. Due to possible adenocarcinoma, Recommend annual surveilence. 7-10-2019 CT to check lung nodule. 1-10-2020 8mm stable nodule on R Lung, two 6mm new ones on L Lung, a possible lymph node involvement in inter fissule. "I WANT TO BE AN OUTRAGEOUS OLD WOMAN WHO NEVER GETS CALLED AN OLD LADY. I WANT TO GET SHARP EDGED & EARTH COLORED, TILL I FADE AWAY FROM PURE JOY." Irene from Tampa Advocacy is a passion .. not a pastime - Joe Last edited by Jackie07; 02-05-2010 at 05:19 AM..