[lkc Gumby]

Hi there . I am sorry that you have had to deal with this. I understand you were following the Onc recommendations.
I am a nurse and have worked for both Medical Oncologists and Surgeons.
The simple fact is Medical Oncs follow Medical Tx and Surgeons do surgery. There is often time a dispute even between Drs.
However it is never acceptable for a surgical nurse to give her opinion over a Med Onc. recommendations. Worse to belittle the caregiver and make her question the decisions she has made. Terrible. I've seen this behaviour.
The bottom line is you sister has received excellent care and it sounds like she had a full pathological response from the Chemo, which is fabulous. Focus on that and rest assured when she is medically cleared, that is when she should have her surgery.
Best wishes dear!