[karen z]

You have gotten some good advice here. My first thoughts (on the weight loss) were supplements- either the kind you can buy in stores (experiment with what your mom might like) or homemade shakes with some good protein and good calories (and tasty). I agree that it would seem like various causes of weight loss should be examined by doctors- thoroughly. Could be any one of the many things (some very easy to fix) raised by others. I would think it is imperative that someone be aound when your mom is eating- for the company and to keep her "on track" with her eating. As for Hospice, if your mom does not want to go (and I am not sure it is warranted) then it might not be a good thing for her to have to go. Going somewhere where she does not want to go could further aggravate existing situations. Your mom is strong-willed and opinionated (I have had the pleasure of hanging out with her) and I would not think it would be good for her to go if she has said "no thanks".