[PinkGirl]

Thank you very much dlaxague for your posts. I could not agree more.

By not having a memorial page we are supporting society's view of fear and avoidance of death. I agree that the stories of the survivors who are living vibrantly with this disease are inspirational for the newbies. But what happens when those "living vibrantly" survivors die? Are they no longer inspirational to us because they died? I feel like we are sweeping them under the carpet so they don't upset anyone. That is crazy. Kate, Carol, Michelle, Nicola and Sandy were inspirational to me and important to me when they were alive. And now they are still important and inspirational to me.

I hope I am not offending anyone. This is how I feel. I really don't "get" the other side of this discussion. When I was dx. I knew that people died from cancer. I didn't join the her2support site to have anyone tell me that I was going to live to be 100 yrs. old. I joined for support and information. In the process I have come to know some amazing men and women who have become very, very important to me. I would not have been frightened by a memorial page. If I had been frightened I would have chosen to not look at it. I am starting to ramble.....