Re: how do you deal with friends who aviod you?
You may be dealing with other people's fears about cancer. Just the word cancer scares alot of people.
I say just ignore them and make new friends.
I learned something from a co-worker who died of breast cancer 2 months before I was diagnosed.
Most co-workers ignored her or were overly sweet to her. I just treated her like I always did. We talked about whatever she was in the mood to talk about or professional things going on. We enjoyed a nice friendship until the week before she died when she became unconscious and couldn't talk anymore.
I did not tell most of my friends and relatives when I was diagnosed. I only told a few friends and relatives who I knew could handle my health problems and swore them to secrecy. Most people I know still do not know about my health problems 13 years later. I can be more effective in my various interests and projects, because everybody treats me normally. This method may not work for everyone, but it works for me.
Hold your head high and keep going. Don't worry about other people's fears so much.
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