Re: Messed up emotionally
I am sure your friend wasn't thinking. I remember when I found my lump, I was petrified. Totally numb - more numb than when they told me it was cancer. The unknown part is terrifying and then being told its nothing serious is a giddy relief (I guess as none of us were in that spot).
People do say stupid things. For example, Herceptin wasn't available when I was having chemo but right after radiation was over it was. So I was going to be getting Herceptin alone. I had done chemo and radiation but had to tell my boss about the Herceptin when "everything was done and over". When I told him all about it, he said, "are you going to die"? My heart skipped 5 beats but somehow I recovered fast and said, "yes, I am going to die and you are too. Everybody dies". I just about think he swallowed his tongue. So, anyway, not everyone is smart. That's the bottom line - not everyone is smart.
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Kind regards
Becky
Found lump via BSE
Diagnosed 8/04 at age 45
1.9cm tumor, ER+PR-, Her2 3+(rt side)
2 micromets to sentinel node
Stage 2A
left 3mm DCIS - low grade ER+PR+Her2 neg
lumpectomies 9/7/04
4DD AC followed by 4 DD taxol
Used Leukine instead of Neulasta
35 rads on right side only
4/05 started Tamoxifen
Started Herceptin 4 months after last Taxol due to
trial results and 2005 ASCO meeting & recommendations
Oophorectomy 8/05
Started Arimidex 9/05
Finished Herceptin (16 months) 9/06
Arimidex Only
Prolia every 6 months for osteopenia
NED 18 years!
Said Christopher Robin to Pooh: "You must remember this: You're braver than you believe and stronger than you seem and smarter than you think"
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