[Lucy]

Everything you just said is why I said cancer is harder on the caregiver than the one who has the cancer. Have you taken advantage of the Family Medical Leave Act? It allows you to take up to 3 months off work (without pay) to care for a family member and your employer has to hold a job for you (may be a different job but it has to be comparable to the one you had). My understanding is that the three months doesn't have to be taken all at one time to where maybe you could take some time off to get some relief and then go back to work and then take some more time off down the line when you're reaching your breaking point. The downside is the without pay part but if that's something you could swing, it might be worth looking into.