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Andrea Barnett Budin · 10-11-2012, 10:03 AM

Mary Anne, your post was so well stated! Those of us who love someone "in pain and transition" must indeed find a way to deal with unwanted realities. How true that simple idea is! And how towering a goal to reach for!!

I know hospices across this country do the most amazing job at this delicate time. They are angels with a special wisdom that most of us just can't begin to fathom. For the patient, and for the family standing by.

Jen, keep talking to your Mom. Tell her how much she is loved, by so many, and especially by you. (As a Mom, I surely know that there is nothing sweeter than my daughter's lovingkindness to me.)

We all have seen how you adore her, and that is an understatement. I feel certain as well that your Mom treasures you and is beyond proud of how strong you are. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree... Good for you, Jen. You are a role model for others in your family. Never forget that. It is that very concept that kept me going strong throughout my personal battles.

We all send you and your family our support and loving admiration, which will never falter. I am trying, as Mary Anne says, to cope with this most unwanted news about Sheila. Her resolve is such a beautiful thing we've all seen demonstrated over the last decade -- time and time again. Positively remarkable how resilient Sheila has shown us all one can be! The might of the human Spirit is awesome!.

Surely her Spirit is willing, in fact eager, to go on. Her body just isn't cooperating. I pray she will continue to talk to her body (and yes I mean that literally) cause I do believe it's the body's job is to follow the commands of the mind.

I am sending much love,

Andi

10-11-2012, 10:03 AM	#120
Andrea Barnett Budin Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: LAND OF YES! w/home in Boca Raton, Florida Orig from L.I., N.Y. Ever hovering IN THE NOW... Posts: 1,904	Re: Prayers needed for Sheila Mary Anne, your post was so well stated! Those of us who love someone "in pain and transition" must indeed find a way to deal with unwanted realities. How true that simple idea is! And how towering a goal to reach for!! I know hospices across this country do the most amazing job at this delicate time. They are angels with a special wisdom that most of us just can't begin to fathom. For the patient, and for the family standing by. Jen, keep talking to your Mom. Tell her how much she is loved, by so many, and especially by you. (As a Mom, I surely know that there is nothing sweeter than my daughter's lovingkindness to me.) We all have seen how you adore her, and that is an understatement. I feel certain as well that your Mom treasures you and is beyond proud of how strong you are. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree... Good for you, Jen. You are a role model for others in your family. Never forget that. It is that very concept that kept me going strong throughout my personal battles. We all send you and your family our support and loving admiration, which will never falter. I am trying, as Mary Anne says, to cope with this most unwanted news about Sheila. Her resolve is such a beautiful thing we've all seen demonstrated over the last decade -- time and time again. Positively remarkable how resilient Sheila has shown us all one can be! The might of the human Spirit is awesome!. Surely her Spirit is willing, in fact eager, to go on. Her body just isn't cooperating. I pray she will continue to talk to her body (and yes I mean that literally) cause I do believe it's the body's job is to follow the commands of the mind. I am sending much love, Andi __________________ Andi BB '95 post-meno dx Invasive LOBULAR w/9cm tumor! YIKES + 2/21 nodes. Clear mammo 10 mnths earlier. Mastec/tram flap reconst/PORT/8 mnths chemo (4Adria/8CMF). Borderline ER/PR. Tamoxifen 2 yrs. Felt BLESSED. I could walk and talk, feed and bathe myself! I KNEW I would survive... '98 -- multiple mets to liver. HER2+ 80%. ER/PR- Raging, highly aggressive tumors spreading fast. New PORT. 9 mnths Taxotere Fought fire w/fire! Pronounced in cautious remission 5/99. Taxotere weekly for 6 wks, 2 wks off -- for 9 mnths. TALK ABOUT GRUELING! (I believe they've altered that protocol since those days -- sure hope so!!) + good old Vit H wkly for 1st 3 yrs, then triple dosage ev 3 wks for 7 yrs more... The "easy" chemo, right?! Not a walk in the park, but not a freight train coming at 'ya either... Added Herceptin Nov '98 (6 wks after FDA fast-tracked it for met bc). Stayed w/Vit H till July '08! Now I AM FREE! Humbly and eternally grateful for this life-saving drug! NED since '99 and planning on keeping it that way. To hell w/poor prognosis and nasty stats! STOPPED VIT H JULY '08...! REMAIN STABLE... Eternally grateful...Yes is a world & in this world of yes live (skillfully curled) all worlds ... (e e cummings) EVERY DAY I BEAT MY PREVIOUS RECORD FOR # OF CONSECUTIVE DAYS I'VE STAYED ALIVE. Smile KNOWING you too can be a miracle. Up to me and God now...