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Hi Joy,
I can totally relates to what you are saying since I am the same problem myself. I too ,am afraid of dating and I am not even trying to meet someone anymore since BC. I think that you have been honest about telling him about BC survival and that is what you are.
As I am writing this I can also hear a little voice in my head about being honest. But I agree also with the other posts that you do not need tell everything straight away. Yes prognostics for stage 4 are different but give him some chance to know you first and vice and versa. I also mostly think that if you trully think yourself that you will be saved somehow then you are not really lying and as we know from this site there are so many things in the pipeline for Her2 that really it is far from being a fantasy.. and even if this is not the case I have been enriched by a couple of relationships that are now finished, and I would not change these experiences because they did not last..humm I have just convinced myself to get out there too :-).
Love and good luck with the date in question
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35 y/o
June 06: BC stage I
Grade 3; ER/PR neg
Her-2+++; lumpectomies
Aug 06: Stage IV
liver mets: 6 tumours
July 06 to Jan 07: 2*FEC+6*Taxotere; 3*TACE; LITT
March 07- Sept 07: Vaccination trial (phase 2, peptide based) at the UW (Seattle).
Herceptin since 2006
NED til Oct 09
Recurrence Oct 2009: to internal mammary gland since October 2009 missed on Oct and March 2010 scan.. palpable nodes in May 2010 when I realised..
Nov 2011:7 mets to lungs progressing fast failed hercp/tykerb/xeloda combo..
superior vena cava blocked: stent but face remains puffy
April 2012: Teresa Trial, randomised to TDM1
Nov 2012 progressing on TDM1
Dec 2012 blockage of my airways by tumours, obliteration of these blocking tumours breathing better but hoping for more- at mo too many tumours to count in the lungs and nodes.
Dec 2012 Starting new trial S-222611 phase 1b dual egfr her2+ inhibitor.
'Under no circumstances should you lose hope..' Dalai Lama
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