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Andrea Barnett Budin · 10-22-2015, 04:26 PM

I've finally learned to see that I am polite TO A FAULT. To my own detriment. It's so ingrained in me not to be confrontational.

So, I now just gracefully back away. W/o the confrontation.

In the past, with beloved friends, I've tried addressing an issue, to be sure. Because the relationship is that important to me. And it's one issue that needs addressing.

Juls and Susan, you see my point. That is good. Cause it took me far too long to realize this. I think you're ahead of the game of Life armed w/this awareness... YOU deserve to derive pleasure from your relationships. Of course, there will be disagreements, but when you are consistently depleted and fairly enraged with each encounter with a person, it's time to let go...

10-22-2015, 04:26 PM	#12
Andrea Barnett Budin Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: LAND OF YES! w/home in Boca Raton, Florida Orig from L.I., N.Y. Ever hovering IN THE NOW... Posts: 1,904	Re: The power of words I've finally learned to see that I am polite TO A FAULT. To my own detriment. It's so ingrained in me not to be confrontational. So, I now just gracefully back away. W/o the confrontation. In the past, with beloved friends, I've tried addressing an issue, to be sure. Because the relationship is that important to me. And it's one issue that needs addressing. Juls and Susan, you see my point. That is good. Cause it took me far too long to realize this. I think you're ahead of the game of Life armed w/this awareness... YOU deserve to derive pleasure from your relationships. Of course, there will be disagreements, but when you are consistently depleted and fairly enraged with each encounter with a person, it's time to let go... __________________ Andi BB '95 post-meno dx Invasive LOBULAR w/9cm tumor! YIKES + 2/21 nodes. Clear mammo 10 mnths earlier. Mastec/tram flap reconst/PORT/8 mnths chemo (4Adria/8CMF). Borderline ER/PR. Tamoxifen 2 yrs. Felt BLESSED. I could walk and talk, feed and bathe myself! I KNEW I would survive... '98 -- multiple mets to liver. HER2+ 80%. ER/PR- Raging, highly aggressive tumors spreading fast. New PORT. 9 mnths Taxotere Fought fire w/fire! Pronounced in cautious remission 5/99. Taxotere weekly for 6 wks, 2 wks off -- for 9 mnths. TALK ABOUT GRUELING! (I believe they've altered that protocol since those days -- sure hope so!!) + good old Vit H wkly for 1st 3 yrs, then triple dosage ev 3 wks for 7 yrs more... The "easy" chemo, right?! Not a walk in the park, but not a freight train coming at 'ya either... Added Herceptin Nov '98 (6 wks after FDA fast-tracked it for met bc). Stayed w/Vit H till July '08! Now I AM FREE! Humbly and eternally grateful for this life-saving drug! NED since '99 and planning on keeping it that way. To hell w/poor prognosis and nasty stats! STOPPED VIT H JULY '08...! REMAIN STABLE... Eternally grateful...Yes is a world & in this world of yes live (skillfully curled) all worlds ... (e e cummings) EVERY DAY I BEAT MY PREVIOUS RECORD FOR # OF CONSECUTIVE DAYS I'VE STAYED ALIVE. Smile KNOWING you too can be a miracle. Up to me and God now...