[Pat94]

I am so sorry you are in this fix. I started out thinking my first doctor was great based on recommendations and initial meeting and surgery. Turned out he screwed me so badly it is absolutely scary. Being an excellent cutter doesn't mean he didn't cause me harm in the long run. When in crisis I tend to exist in inertia but I had enough time before my recurrence to know I would never deal with that group again. I am certain if I had remained with the first group I would have died from my chemo side effects.
When I did recur I switched to a new group. The team assigned to me has been terrific. The new practice is part of a NCI Comprehensive Cancer Center; the difference is just amazing.
Never settle for mediocrity or worse. You are a unique human being, not just a bc patient. Try a new doctor; if he/she doesn't work for you try again until you get one that is right for you. You will be in my prayers; let us know where you are looking and see if any of us have any suggestions.