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MJsHusband · 06-06-2012, 08:15 AM

I agree with Suzanne's words. He likely wants to hold on to normalcy as long as possible and not feel like you are "giving in" to the bc in any way. I have the opposite issue. MJ will not slow down and she is stage 4 with a second metastasis already. She flies from D.C. to Ohio every other week for work(works from home the other weeks). She hates to miss the gym, even though she has thrown up on her last two workouts. She just finished her 3rd cycle of Xeloda/Tykerb(one more to go) and feels like crap all the time, but..... she won't take a break or slow down. She may be thinking along the same lines as your husband, that she can't give into it at all and needs to keep living a "normal" life.

Anyway, that's my 2 cents from a male caregiver perspective. I hope you can take a break from work and your husband can come to understand your need for this.

~Greg

06-06-2012, 08:15 AM	#3
MJsHusband Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 87	Re: working while going through treatment- male input requested I agree with Suzanne's words. He likely wants to hold on to normalcy as long as possible and not feel like you are "giving in" to the bc in any way. I have the opposite issue. MJ will not slow down and she is stage 4 with a second metastasis already. She flies from D.C. to Ohio every other week for work(works from home the other weeks). She hates to miss the gym, even though she has thrown up on her last two workouts. She just finished her 3rd cycle of Xeloda/Tykerb(one more to go) and feels like crap all the time, but..... she won't take a break or slow down. She may be thinking along the same lines as your husband, that she can't give into it at all and needs to keep living a "normal" life. Anyway, that's my 2 cents from a male caregiver perspective. I hope you can take a break from work and your husband can come to understand your need for this. ~Greg __________________ 08/10 ~ Dx IBC, Her2+++ ER-/PR- Stage 4, mets to liver. Age 43. 08/10 ~ Began 12 weeks of Taxetere/Carboplatin/Herceptin tx [10/10 ~ Scans show liver lesions are gone. NED! 11/10 ~ Ended chemo. Herceptin-only tx 01/11 ~ Mastectomy 03/11 ~ Radiation 07/11 ~ Reconstructive surgery 10/11 ~ PET/CT shows NED :) 01/12 ~ Malignant tumors found in uterus, cervix, fallopian tubes and lymph nodes. Dx as endometrial cancer. Stage III2c 02/12 ~Hysterectomy(all tumors removed). Back to NED. 02/12 ~ Final Herceptin treatment. 03/12 ~ Began Cisplatin/Adriamycin tx for endometrial cancer. 03/12 ~ Tumors dx her2 metastisis, not entdometrial cancer. Back to BC tx. 03/12 ~ CT scan shows NED. :) 04/12/~ Began Tykerb/Xeloda. 06/12 ~ Ended Xeloda. Continuing Tykerb. Still NED. 09/12 ~ PET/CT scans show NED. : ) 04/13 ~ Rash on original breast biopsied as cancer. 05/13 ~ Surgery to remove skin and tissue around rash. Continue Tykerb. 06/13 ~ PET/CT scans show NED : ) 11/13 ~ Jaundice eyes and skin. CT scan show mets to liver as well as peritoneal carcinomatosis with malignant ascites. Began Abraxane/Herceptin tx. 02/14 ~ CT scan shows NED. :)