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dchips1 · 06-05-2013, 12:19 PM

You can use mouth swaps to keep her mouth /lips clean and refreshed making talking, mouth feel a little better, do not force her to take in nourishment, fluids, chances are she will choke and aspirate into her lungs.

Letting go is harder on the living then those whom are ready to go. Play her favorite music, movies, I made a picture DVD with music for my mother in law to listen and occasionally watch, I think it was more therapeutic for every one else.
My mother in law died 7 days before her 89 birthday, last year. She did not let go till all family had come and went. A volunteer playing a harp was in the room.

I am so sorry she is rejecting everyone and things, support your family and spend time together and cherish the memories together, and it is ok to laugh and live in her presence.

God bless you and your family prayers for all. Darita

06-05-2013, 12:19 PM	#10
dchips1 Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Mesa, Az Posts: 219	Re: in a dilemma You can use mouth swaps to keep her mouth /lips clean and refreshed making talking, mouth feel a little better, do not force her to take in nourishment, fluids, chances are she will choke and aspirate into her lungs. Letting go is harder on the living then those whom are ready to go. Play her favorite music, movies, I made a picture DVD with music for my mother in law to listen and occasionally watch, I think it was more therapeutic for every one else. My mother in law died 7 days before her 89 birthday, last year. She did not let go till all family had come and went. A volunteer playing a harp was in the room. I am so sorry she is rejecting everyone and things, support your family and spend time together and cherish the memories together, and it is ok to laugh and live in her presence. God bless you and your family prayers for all. Darita __________________ dx 1/06 IDC 2cm 38 at dx 2/06 L mast nodes 3/9+ SNB neg ER-/Pr - her2 + Stg 4 liver/pelvis 3/06-9/06Taxol/Carbo/zometa/Herceptin 3/07 6 brain mets WBR down to c-2 4/07 osteonecrosis jaw 1/08 mri new 9mm lesion right lower side 2/08 gamma knife 1 lesion 11/08 regamma 10/09 latent rad necrosis to brain met, 1/20/10 crani: lesion necrosis w active cells continue her add tykerb 1/11 NED just Ingrown toenail! YEAH GOD 8/11 Tykerb, herceptin weekly, elevated her2 levels, negative scans oct -march 11 new neuro deficits lower legs 3/12 2 spinal metsTykerb, Herceptin 04/12 4050cGY rads T 2-4 & T7-9 5/12 Brain,cervical lumbar clear/thoracic slight decrease 10/12 t 2-4 shrunk t-9 grew start Xeloda, 02/13 stop xeloda,5/13 on metformin, decadron, Tykerb, iv and IT herceptin 5/30/13 total #11 #2 of 80mg dose weekly. 9/13 100mg of IT her, IV hern, 750 mg tykerb, 3mg dec. last Mri T--3 SHRUNK t7-9 shrunk no edema. Left shift in CBC bone marrow BX negative. 10/13 Ct has shown Double left ureters with stones/cysts in them, after 3 births and lots and U/S iit takes cancer to figure out you have 2 smaller ureters going into 1 kidney! 12/13 Mri brain no new lesions, cervical and lumbar arthritis. Tspine lesion at T3 stable, T 7-9 GROWTH lots of pain 1/29/14 HIHO HIHO its off to Neuro surgery I go Life is Good when you wake up in the morning and take a breath and know that God has given me another day.