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Lisa:
"Every conversation with everyone I meet turns to cancer. "
I know people mean well, but it is hard when the conversation turns to cancer. Remarks like "Wow, you look good, you wouldn't know you have cancer,"are not meant to be hurtful, but they zing sometimes.
I believe in the "gestalt" philosophy -- the sum being more than any one part. Cancer is a part of us and at any given time can consume most of us emotionally and physically. But, each part of who we are hasn't gone anywhere -- we have the same spirt, personality, drive, focus, love, etc., although tempered by this new component called cancer.
These different aspects that make us unique are wholly a part and partly a whole of our total being. And we are so much more than just our cancer.
So I guess what I'm trying to say to you is that people become fixated on just one part when they speak that way. I just tell people I'm doing good, not borrowing trouble, and getting on with my life.
You are such an inspiration to this board and I value your input.
Be Well.
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