[sarah]

She should see another surgeon and another oncologist and listen to what they say and then take the time to come to a deicision she's comfortable with.
reconstruction can be done with parts of your own body - I'm not up to date on where they think is best now, mine was taken from my stomach and I found that hard but I'm told it's much easier now and I believe they take it from the back but she'd have to talk to others who've done it.
getting Herceptin and radiation are important.
good luck to her
hugs
sarah