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starwishn2 · 01-13-2013, 07:51 PM

Everything everyone has written is excellent. In my situation my husband would not talk about how he was feeling (still doesn't) but I could see he was hurting. If friends or family asked him how he was doing he would said "fine, Jeri is the one that needs the support". I asked several male friends of ours to stop by and just visit with him and see how he was doing. I know most men won't talk about feelings but he seemed a little more at ease after talking with his friends. That might be a place to start with your husband.

I work in the social work field and am very "pro" therapy. I think it's great you will be speaking with a therapist. Hopefully your husband will want to join in those meetings soon. This is such a tough journey. You are in my thoughts.
Jeri

01-13-2013, 07:51 PM	#9
starwishn2 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Utah Posts: 124	Re: Cancer and marriage Everything everyone has written is excellent. In my situation my husband would not talk about how he was feeling (still doesn't) but I could see he was hurting. If friends or family asked him how he was doing he would said "fine, Jeri is the one that needs the support". I asked several male friends of ours to stop by and just visit with him and see how he was doing. I know most men won't talk about feelings but he seemed a little more at ease after talking with his friends. That might be a place to start with your husband. I work in the social work field and am very "pro" therapy. I think it's great you will be speaking with a therapist. Hopefully your husband will want to join in those meetings soon. This is such a tough journey. You are in my thoughts. Jeri __________________ Diagnosed 16Dec1993 ITP (auto immune disease - low platelets) Splenectomy 11Nov2009 Rituxen May2011 ITP playing nice Diagnosed 3Jul2012 BC 2 cm - Grade 2 - Stage IIB HER2+++ ER+/PR+ bilateral mastectomy 20Jul2012 Metastasized cancer found 1 lymph node expanders placed during surgery TCH chemo "cocktail" started 24Aug2012 every 3 weeks - 6 treatments Herceptin - 18 treatments LAST treatment Taxotere & Carboplatin 7Dec2012 -yay! Continue with Herceptin 26Dec2012 Started Arimidex 01Jan2013 (for 5 years) Surgery to remove expanders/reconstruction 18Jan2013 Infection in left breast from reconstruction/infection in most nails - SO many meds! 22Feb2013 Left implant not playing nice.... might need to remove and try again - blah! 04Apr2013 3Jul2013 - one year since diagnosis - booo cancer! 15Aug2013 LAST chemo infusion!! YIPPPEEE!!! 13Sep2013 2nd reconstructive surgery.. the FOOBs are looking good!