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Old 12-23-2014, 05:08 PM   #3
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Re: Tired and angry

I think you have right and reason to be angry with cancer. Cancer sucks, and you've both been hit hard. Just don't compound the problem by getting angry with yourself because you're angry at cancer.

I think you should talk to someone at your cancer center/oncologist's office about respite care, because you need regular breaks from the load you carry. Also query your insurance company about visiting nurse services. You can't be a good caregiver to your wife if it's all on you all the time. The well-being of caregivers is often ignored, but your health and optimistic outlook are essential to your wife's recovery. I know there are resources, because I read about them when I was in treatment. You just need to ask about what's available in your area.

And at the very least, you can always come here to vent about it. As a practical matter, that won't get the work done, but it might make you feel a tiny bit better.
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