Kelleanea,
How are things going with you?
Somehow missed this thread when it was posted.
Your husband might have been depressed. In between me and my husband we've had six surgeries in a 20 years span. After his mother passed away from Alzheimer's and my 2nd bout of breast cancer, he finally told his family doctor and received a referral to a psychiatrist who prescribed some counseling sessions.
When that wasn't enough, he began to take very low dose anti-depressant. Turned out his family (from his Father's side of Scandivanian roots) has the depression tendency. Maybe people didn't get enough sunlight in that region. With regular exercise and the low dose antidepressant, he's been doing much better.
If your husband wouldn't go to counseling, it might be worthwhile to go by yourself. A professional counselor could help you sort things out and give you some good tips.
Communication is a two way street. Sometimes we just have to be patient and tactful...
I often laugh that even though I was the one going through multiple cancer treatments, family members around me are the ones that were falling apart. (My 2nd Sister literally went 'nuts' when she came from overseas to help take care of me in 2007. Fortunately her husband wanted her to go home when she was planning to stay longer...
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