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JennyB · 03-26-2013, 12:29 AM

Europa, wow big changes well done you. A 3rd date that is amazing and I too would be terrified- the idea of dating is a very scary one after any time out and the 'deed' thing also is a biggy. Llet him know you're scared but open to it tell him the medical things maybe not about miss ladies retirement just yet but that tamoxifen changes feelings BUT you want to try, how you feel about him connections etc I in my limited experience reckon you have to make it less heavy when you explain how you feel. Early day relationships can be skitty things but believe me there not imposible.
My late Aunt met her husand after breast cancer - double mastectomy no reconstruction just before she discovered her bone mets. They were together for 8 years and had so much love and happiness. It is possible even after all we go through. You need to not write yourself off you are way too young to think a partner is not possible for you.
Good luck Europa
Jenny xx

03-26-2013, 12:29 AM	#7
JennyB Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Port Hedland, Australia Posts: 382	Re: Dating after cancer Europa, wow big changes well done you. A 3rd date that is amazing and I too would be terrified- the idea of dating is a very scary one after any time out and the 'deed' thing also is a biggy. Llet him know you're scared but open to it tell him the medical things maybe not about miss ladies retirement just yet but that tamoxifen changes feelings BUT you want to try, how you feel about him connections etc I in my limited experience reckon you have to make it less heavy when you explain how you feel. Early day relationships can be skitty things but believe me there not imposible. My late Aunt met her husand after breast cancer - double mastectomy no reconstruction just before she discovered her bone mets. They were together for 8 years and had so much love and happiness. It is possible even after all we go through. You need to not write yourself off you are way too young to think a partner is not possible for you. Good luck Europa Jenny xx __________________ Diagnosed Nov '10 IDC whilst pregnant with 2nd child Her 2 ++ ER/PR + but weak and patchy 50% + 5% Left mastectomy Dec '10, 6cm tumour 1 of 2 lymph (micro mets) Clear margins but lymphovasculer invasion Stage 3a Grade 3 Fec 100 x 3 Jan '11 Taxotere X 3 and Herceptin X 1yr Staging scans - CT brain & body and bone - May '11 - NED!! Start Femara - in chemo induced menapause 25 Rads June '11 Dec '11 Menstruation resumed - zoladex inj monthly and Tamoxifen Feb '12 Back on Femera and Zoladex March '12 CT brain & body & bone scan all clear Zometa x2/yearly April '12 - Oopherectomy Praying the Herceptin is as good as its hype!!