[Trish]

I'm glad you started the thread too. You seem to have things pretty well under control and have had some great advice. I'm really impressed by people who have mets and still work full time. I worked 3days/week and had 3 kids when diagnosed. I had a lot of sick leave and did get back to work for a couple of years post met diagnosis. I quit when I realised the treatment was taking it out of me and I wouldn't be a reliable contributor. I was a Speech Pathologist, loved my work and had very supportive colleagues. I still see many of them and have lots of regular contact with supportive friends. I am working on a project with a former colleague which gives me some work focus but at a leisurely pace. Have loved being able to prioritise my kids (teen and young adult) but after 2 years have just started to miss work a little bit. The hard part of mets is not being able to plan (I have a very "guarded" prognosis). I agree with those who say do as you would without cancer-you have had state of the art treatment (I missed out on having herceptin at early stage) and every reason to hope for no recurrence. It seems to me you are using your cancer experience constructively to re-focus your priorities. Good on you. Good luck with the decision.
Trish