Hi there. I'm writing for whom I consider a friend. When I began my cancer journey she worked at the Cancer Center where I had my treatment. I could always tell she was wearing a wig, but I was never brave enough to ask but she came out and told me one day she too had been through breast cancer. This was well before Herceptin was available. She even took her wig off for me (I am crying as I type this because of her braveness) and showed me her bald head and with only 1-2 strings of lonesome hairs hanging down. From that point on, we had a connection. I found her a cool long, blonde, "harley girl" wig for her to wear when she's out on the bike with her husband and she was so thankful! All these years she's worn one wig, the same wig every day. Anyway, she is one who her hair has never grown back. Yes, that certainly did scare me as I stood there talking with her with my scarf on and bald as well. I can tell you though, I really don't think it bothers her so much but then again, I don't live with her or see her every day. She didn't even tear up when she told me. She has a smile on her face everytime I see her and is always upbeat. I know for some it's extremely hard to deal with. It depends on how you as a person decide to live with it. I don't know, maybe she's here, maybe she's reading this if so "HI WENDY!
I wish you the best of luck.
PS, my hair has never grown back under my left arm either, but I don't know if that's from the Taxotere or the radiation.