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Becky · 12-08-2013, 06:25 AM

I am sure your friend wasn't thinking. I remember when I found my lump, I was petrified. Totally numb - more numb than when they told me it was cancer. The unknown part is terrifying and then being told its nothing serious is a giddy relief (I guess as none of us were in that spot).

People do say stupid things. For example, Herceptin wasn't available when I was having chemo but right after radiation was over it was. So I was going to be getting Herceptin alone. I had done chemo and radiation but had to tell my boss about the Herceptin when "everything was done and over". When I told him all about it, he said, "are you going to die"? My heart skipped 5 beats but somehow I recovered fast and said, "yes, I am going to die and you are too. Everybody dies". I just about think he swallowed his tongue. So, anyway, not everyone is smart. That's the bottom line - not everyone is smart.

12-08-2013, 06:25 AM	#6
Becky Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stockton, NJ Posts: 4,179	Re: Messed up emotionally I am sure your friend wasn't thinking. I remember when I found my lump, I was petrified. Totally numb - more numb than when they told me it was cancer. The unknown part is terrifying and then being told its nothing serious is a giddy relief (I guess as none of us were in that spot). People do say stupid things. For example, Herceptin wasn't available when I was having chemo but right after radiation was over it was. So I was going to be getting Herceptin alone. I had done chemo and radiation but had to tell my boss about the Herceptin when "everything was done and over". When I told him all about it, he said, "are you going to die"? My heart skipped 5 beats but somehow I recovered fast and said, "yes, I am going to die and you are too. Everybody dies". I just about think he swallowed his tongue. So, anyway, not everyone is smart. That's the bottom line - not everyone is smart. __________________ Kind regards Becky Found lump via BSE Diagnosed 8/04 at age 45 1.9cm tumor, ER+PR-, Her2 3+(rt side) 2 micromets to sentinel node Stage 2A left 3mm DCIS - low grade ER+PR+Her2 neg lumpectomies 9/7/04 4DD AC followed by 4 DD taxol Used Leukine instead of Neulasta 35 rads on right side only 4/05 started Tamoxifen Started Herceptin 4 months after last Taxol due to trial results and 2005 ASCO meeting & recommendations Oophorectomy 8/05 Started Arimidex 9/05 Finished Herceptin (16 months) 9/06 Arimidex Only Prolia every 6 months for osteopenia NED 18 years! Said Christopher Robin to Pooh: "You must remember this: You're braver than you believe and stronger than you seem and smarter than you think"