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Becky · 08-06-2008, 08:32 PM

Although I was the "patient" and not the caregiver, from the "patient" point of view - my daughters were in 8th, 10th grades and freshman in college during the worst of treatment.

Try to remember that your loved one is your mother and you are the daughter (or your loved one is your wife and the mother).

I used to tell my girls (especially my middle one - ugh!) that "I'm not dead yet and I'm still your mother".

Let your loved one be the role they are in your family. Don't take over thinking it will help them out because day-to-day, it will not.

Just my two cents from the other side.

08-06-2008, 08:32 PM	#10
Becky Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stockton, NJ Posts: 4,179	Although I was the "patient" and not the caregiver, from the "patient" point of view - my daughters were in 8th, 10th grades and freshman in college during the worst of treatment. Try to remember that your loved one is your mother and you are the daughter (or your loved one is your wife and the mother). I used to tell my girls (especially my middle one - ugh!) that "I'm not dead yet and I'm still your mother". Let your loved one be the role they are in your family. Don't take over thinking it will help them out because day-to-day, it will not. Just my two cents from the other side. __________________ Kind regards Becky Found lump via BSE Diagnosed 8/04 at age 45 1.9cm tumor, ER+PR-, Her2 3+(rt side) 2 micromets to sentinel node Stage 2A left 3mm DCIS - low grade ER+PR+Her2 neg lumpectomies 9/7/04 4DD AC followed by 4 DD taxol Used Leukine instead of Neulasta 35 rads on right side only 4/05 started Tamoxifen Started Herceptin 4 months after last Taxol due to trial results and 2005 ASCO meeting & recommendations Oophorectomy 8/05 Started Arimidex 9/05 Finished Herceptin (16 months) 9/06 Arimidex Only Prolia every 6 months for osteopenia NED 18 years! Said Christopher Robin to Pooh: "You must remember this: You're braver than you believe and stronger than you seem and smarter than you think"