['lizbeth]

My crazy friend,

I don't have the answers for you.

You let the ex walk all over you like a door mat.

The new wife sounds like a housekeeper - she finds opportunity, marries the guy, sucks all she can out of him, then dumps him and keeps the house. I'm sure she's a very nice person, despite the fact that she's on the 3rd husband . . . hmmmm.

I feel that you should have fought for what rightfully belonged to you. If you don't value yourself, then he won't. There is being nice, and being naive. Part, or all, of the house should have gone to you. Now it is what it is. Put it out to the universe about what you feel you deserve instead of seething over what you lost - manifesting wealth to see what good things come to you.

Changing jobs - I think Bonnie has a good point. You might seek out someone who has more expertise in this area to weigh the issues. Please don't ask me for career advise - I could probably use a job counselor myself, lol.