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jaykay · 07-18-2013, 08:55 AM

You are definitely on an emotional roller coaster. My 2 non-professional cents:

I believe that we gear ourselves up for the cancer fight (both mentally and physically), get through each step and when the end is near, it's kind of "what's next". All that energy that has gone towards fighting the beast can now be diverted elsewhere and I think it's natural to start thinking about past experiences, both good and bad.

I also believe in a little anti-depressant assistance. Not Ativan, but something like Celexa or other SSRI's. It helps even you out emotionally. Talk to your doctor.

Now - for the really opinionated Janis: You need to go for half his retirement if it is more than your retirement. My best friend's ex took half of hers and my brother's significant other took half of her ex's 10 years after they were divorced - and they were friends! You should talk to a lawyer

He can't bully you anymore and you are a fighter - you've proven that by getting through the cancer fight. And you're worth it!

xoxoxo
Janis

07-18-2013, 08:55 AM	#4
jaykay Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 646	Re: A new day! Thanks for the support last night. You are definitely on an emotional roller coaster. My 2 non-professional cents: I believe that we gear ourselves up for the cancer fight (both mentally and physically), get through each step and when the end is near, it's kind of "what's next". All that energy that has gone towards fighting the beast can now be diverted elsewhere and I think it's natural to start thinking about past experiences, both good and bad. I also believe in a little anti-depressant assistance. Not Ativan, but something like Celexa or other SSRI's. It helps even you out emotionally. Talk to your doctor. Now - for the really opinionated Janis: You need to go for half his retirement if it is more than your retirement. My best friend's ex took half of hers and my brother's significant other took half of her ex's 10 years after they were divorced - and they were friends! You should talk to a lawyer He can't bully you anymore and you are a fighter - you've proven that by getting through the cancer fight. And you're worth it! xoxoxo Janis __________________ March, 2000: 48, Post menopausal (5 yrs HRT) Left breast, IDC 3mm/DCIS 1.6cm, ER+/PR-/Her2+++, mod differentiated, MIB low, lumpectomy, node neg via SNB, rads=33 Stage 1a June, 2000: Tamox 4.5 years,Femara for 5 years (end in Jan. 2010) Sept, 2012: 61, Via mamm, ultrasound, biopsy, right breast, 2.3cm tumor, ER+/PR-/Her2+++, poorly diff, KI67 60-70% BRCA 1 and 2 negative October, 2012: Bi Mast with tissue expanders, port placement Final Path: IDC 2.8cm, DCIS, 1/4 sentinal nodes positive (@#$%). Stage IIB Nov 29, 2012: Begin TCH/6x/every 3 wks, H for 1 year/every 3 weeks. March 14, 2013: Finished chemo April 9, 2013: Begin radiation 28x May 22, 2013: Finished rads June 1st, 2013: Started Aromasin for 5 yrs. July 15, 2013: Switched to Letrozole (Femara). Probably for the rest of my life October 16, 2013: Exchange surgery October 31, 2013: Finished Herceptin December 5, 2013: Port removed Glad this year is over!