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Re: How can I help her?
Jill,
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I know, firsthand a little of what she's feeling. It's bad enough to get that news at all...but with 2 children, so young,and so in need of their Mommy...she must be an unimaginable mixture of anger, sadness and terror. My heart and my prayers go out to her.
She's so lucky to have a friend like you nearby. I know, even at a distance, you've helped me many times.
The advice our sisters have given so far all sounds good to me. My advice is to do any or all of that...but go with your instincts...they've always seemed good to me. And as a mom myself...you can never go wrong with little gifts that will keep the kids busy...DVDs, art supplies, puzzles... It shows you care for Mom and...who doesn't love someone who loves their kids.
I know you'll find the "right" way to reach out to and support your friend. But, remember, she may not be ready to be helped at first...I know I wasn't. So keep reaching out...gently of course...but in time, she's going to be so grateful just to know you're there for her.
God bless
Denise
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