Thanks DW, Tom and Laurel for more great advice. I think by expecting the worse I'm ready to face anything right now!
I've posted this question elsewhere but does anyone know if her2 bone mets grow or spread very quickly?? It may be a stupid question but the onc says the mri will take 2-3 weeks to schedule and it just crossed my mind if it is mets it could be really growing at a rate of knots!!!
Thanks again to everyone, I really do always feel more empowered and brave to face these unpleasant things having posted here and read your replies