[BonnieR]

Welcome. I hope you get some resolution to your concerns here. There WAS alot of "doom and gloom" about HER2+ before Herceptin came along. You can see by my signature that we have similar situations, as far as I can tell from what you have told us. Anyway, I agonized about what treatment to do. I was in a "grey area" and full of fear and trepidation.I got 3 opinions, all different! But by talking to more than one doctor, visiting sites like this one and becoming educated about my choices, I got clarity. There are alot of resources you can use. The American Cancer Society, for instance, talked to me about my options too. And a social worker said to me "if it was a loved one trying to make this choice, what would you want them to do?" I chose to do chemo and Herceptin. Like Sherry said, I would have hated the "woulda, coulda, shoulda". There were some bad days but the worst was the anticipation and dread. Once I made the decision, it was just a matter of getting through it and coming out on the other side. Which we DO!
So do your research, write your questions for the doctors, have someone with you to help hear the answers and make an informed decision. Everyone here will help you. Keep the faith.