[Colleens_Husband]

Rhonda:

If you were a guy, then not only would you be polite, but you would have the maximum chops on her. You told her that you made it through worse and she can too. In a guy way, you did your best to be encouraging and supportive. If she were a guy, after she got over being mad she would thank you for helping her get over herself and then you would go do some manly activity like shooting a defenseless animal, yanking a defenseless fish out of the water, or driving over defenseless squirrels with a four-wheeled drive vehicle and you would be bonded forever because she knew you are a straight-shooter who would be willing to risk friendship to help her out.

If you were a guy.

But there are different rules for women and even though you didn't mean to put her down, she realizes that you had it worse than she did and that she really ought to cowgirl up. So now what do you do? Perhaps you may wish to consider phoning her up, admitting that you may have inadvertently trivialized her own travails. And then you can go do something manly together and bond forever. Except for the manly part.

Lee