[chicagoetc]

Ouch. That's a lot of news/surgery to handle in such a short period of time. And that's a lot of skipping the normal progression (if there is such a thing as "normal" in this race). I'm sure you already know this, but go slow, cry as you need, recovery from the surgery, live one day at a time but as fully as you can. I suspect your priorities will clarify even more (just the diagnosis of breast cancer in and of itself changes life and priorities, often in a good way).

Looks like you have two youngsters. They need you. Whether it's for eighteen months or eighteen years. I know something about human development. Even infants are at highly formative stages of life. What you do for/with them will affect them for the rest of their lives (not that you need to or should be the only one providing them nurture and love).

I can't imagine how I would respond in your situation, nor how you will respond. But God does. Other folk on this forum do. And I am sure you will learn as each day goes by.

I will pray for you and follow as you keep us up-to-date re your situation. Be good to you.

Melanie