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Honesty
IS the best policy. I would be honest with your brother. Something along the lines of "I wasn't completely honest with you in expressing how I felt about your leaving everything to ... Upon reflection, I decided that I would feel (whatever word(s) you chose)...if I were able to treat my husband, who has always worked hard for me, and our children, to a (trip, vacation, memory)....Also, it would be nice to have money put away for your children's college (not sure of their ages)...
Tell him you don't want to feel penalized for always doing the right thing, for helping with no ulterior motives, etc.
I feel so badly for you...that is hurtful, but at least you're honest. My family (I'm one of 10 siblings) has always said that if everyone we knew died together -- we'd OWE money. No fortunes down the line, but that is alright!
Take care.
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