Who are you? Unregistered
 

I am wondering who you are posting but unregistered. Every once in a while we get someone who is does not register. Is it because you are not aware that you can register or is it because you don't want us to know who you are??? I think if you were registered more people would respond to your posting. It also helps the board to keep track of the number of posts and where they are coming from. Lots of this info goes into stats for the group. Sandy

Sandy, I am registered, but this is a public forum. I can understand why many may not want to post personal information where everyone can read it. But it would be nice if they could sign their posts with a name--and use it consistantly when posting.
Janet

I didn't mean they had to use their given name. I am sure there are those here who do not use their everyday name and that is a personal matter. It would be nice to see a name to the post. Sandy

What a signal !!!
 

Some wonderful, warm signal you are sending to a hurting and scared heart, Sandy. Shame on you/. The administator of the board is fully capible of watching what gets posted here. So it's back to the "private club" mentality.I'm sure you must be feeling great, with no problems of your own to have so much time to worry about such silliness. Aquinis

Strengths and weaknesses
 

Nothing is as gentle as real strength...

One of the strongest and most welcoming aspects to this forum is the right to state one's opinions politely, even when we disagree.

AlaskaAngel

It wasn't my intention to offend anyone, if I have I am truly sorry. I think this was mentioned once before by the administrator and the benefits for the board to have everyone register. Thanks AlaskaAngel we do have the right in the U.S.A. to express our opinion in a gentle way called "freedom of speech". Aquinis I hope you are happy you have hurt at least one person's feelings and that is me. To answer your question, I am a very, very busy person and you are right I really don't have time for this-enough being said. Sandy

Whoa, Whoa, Whoa
 

THIS is entirely uncalled for. Sandy in NO way was offensive, she just MERELY asked a question and YES, people ARE supposed to be registered to post, but that does not in ANY way mean that they can't maintain annonymity. Joe began requiring registration to post as some "knot head" had the nerve to insult the whole group, but didn't have the guts to sign their name to it. In joining another message board today, the statement of " the people on this board are here voluntarily, so please be nice" was there...We have ALREADY lost alot of knowledgeable, supportive people due to "stupid comments"...chill out. If someone wants to politely ask a question (as Sandy did), then let them and if your having a lousy day, don't take it out on anyone else. I'm SOOOO close to leaving and not posting anymore (just lurking) due to rude comments. Sandy, I love ya (hugs). GEEZ...

Rhonda

I love you too Sandy. Because I (and Maryanne) were in charge of the topic chat room conversations on Sunday nights (just taking off for the summer which is why we're not there), Joe gave me rights to delete/power of attorney. I went in to do the deed but I feel this is Joe and Christine's job, not mine. My job is the chatroom and "sticking" things related to the chats and chatroom (why I was given these rights). I will not abuse them but I WANT TO.

Kindest regards

Becky

Thanks Rhonda and Becky, I love everyone on this board. We all have our own problems and struggles in this journey and are here to help, inspire, and support in any way we can. I don't know what it would take for me to leave this board because I have a lot of support here. I had a need once and I had phone calls, e-mails and so much support here it brings tears when I think about it. You are all special and may God Bless you all. Big hugs to you all. Sandy

((((Sandy)))) Hugs to you!! I didn't think you were being offensive..Just for the record.
Tammy

Sandy,

I didn't find your question offensive at all. Sending hugs and love your way.

Karen

I can't help it....I have to agree with Sandy...its just easier to reply to a NAME...rather then to unregistered. You can use any name you want...you don't have to use a real name, nor do you have to feel like you have to put all your business out there. Just use a nickname you made up...anything. :)

When your trying to follow a post or person here...its easier to do if they go by a "name". Any name...rather then unregistered. Plus if the person posts under "unregistered"....I am almost afraid to reply to that person for fear they are just dropping in and won't even come back to see the reply? You have no idea if the person just found the board that day and will be back...or if its a one time thing? I have seen it happen on too many other boards. Thats why its so much better to use a name/nickname.

That reply to Sandy was totally uncalled for. There was no excuse to be that nasty and mean spirited to her. She was just trying to be helpful.

Sandy please don't take that one post to heart...we all love ya. :)

Chelee

Sandy & Rhonda, I Always Enjoy Reading Both Of Your Posts Or Questions. Don't Let Someone That Is Having A Bad Day Bother You------we Need Your Support. Sheila

On registering !!
 

It would be my hope if everyone registered. Many times when we are seeking grants, the first question asked is: How many members do you have?

It would help us immensley if everyone registered but I do respect the privacy of the individual. But let me give you all some facts:

1. We never validate any information that you give when registering. Although it helps us when we try to help some members who have immediate problems ie: We cannot recomend an oncologist in Los Angeles, if the member lives in New York.

2. We do not even care what member name you use as long as you are consistent when you post.

3. You do not have to make your email address public when registering, there is a box that you can check that will keep your email address private. We never check the email addresses anyway.

4. As far as negative posts go, I think our group rates among the best online groups as far as maturity and lack of infighting goes. We all have one goal:
Survival.

Don't mind the spelling or other errors. I left San Diego 5:30 this morning and it is now 9:30 PM here in Reno, NV

REgards
Joe

Hello Sandy H



Because of some computer failure or something my name fell out and I came unregistered. From the beginning I have registered under my full name Jóhanna Jóhannsdóttir and in Iceland. I have now tried to open my name again because I didn't even notice until few days ago and have not been reading the website for a month due to radiation because of brain mets. Anyway I understand what your meaning with loosing information that could be useful to other members.
I dont have to hide my idendity because I have been interwieved in magazines here in Iceland and Im the only Icelandic woman who has been an naked model with only one breast and published (we are only 300.000 pop). My believe is that more women know about bc they take better care and are more concious. Information, information says the journalist from Iceland.

best regards,

johanna

Sandy

I agree we all have a right to ask questions here...and you did ask a valid question...like you, I feel more on a 1 to 1 basis replying to a name rather than to an unregistered.....keep up the good posts...you are loved and valued on this board!

Sandy,

I too believe that it is better when someone posts with a name. If nothing else, it does make it a little more personal and easier to relate to as a person. No one need use their real name but it is nice to put a name to the posts.

Jóhanna Jóhannsdóttir What a beautiful name

Johanna! Love that name!

It has been a while since you posted. I admire your bravery. I don't think I could pose naked even with 2 good boobs!

I hope you get through your treatments soon!

Maria (MTS)

"Private Club mentality"???
 

This part of Aquinas' post was disturbing to me.

A private club is the LAST thing Christine had in mind when she developed the idea of this web site.

Some of us are more active in responding to posts than others, but we do not consider ourselves clubbish, cliqueish or anything of the kind. We enjoy reaching out and encouraging newcomers is part of that - including to Aquinas.

The fact that many of us are even still alive to turn on our computers is remarkable. And for me I want to interact with others like me, as well as give hope to some poor soul who has just been blindsided with bad news that they can and will get through it.

Johanna, I think Sandy was concerned about you and was just reaching out in her own way. Glad you are so full of life and committment to educating other women in your country. We are here to support you in this effort.