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This is her daughter and I was able to look up pass codes and usernames she had written down. She used to tell me what wonderful chats she had with you all. She passed away around 5:15 am, and I was at her side holding her. I'm so lost without my mother. Now if I could just turn cancer into a human so I could slaughter it to death

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Your mom is an angel now, and she'd never want you to react with such violence. She was a wonderful woman and you can be proud to call yourself her daughter. I understand the pain, my mom died at age 60, only 3 years ago and before my stage IV diagnosis, now I know she is with me always keeping me safe and guiding me through life, treatments and everyday things.
Kristin

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I am truly very sorry for your loss. There is nothing in the world like a mother's love. I know she did not want to leave you. She said the same in a post. Her concern was for you always. My deepest condolences.

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Thank you for informing us of your mothers passing. I am so sorry for your loss. And yes your mothers greatest concern was leaving you behind. My deepest sympathy to you and your family .

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I am so sorry for your loss of your mother, your pain has touched my heart. I want to reach through this computer and wrap you in big hugs if it were possible. I did not know your mother as I am a newbie. But I will get to know her thru her posts and others replies. This forum is about helping one another and I am certain your mother would love us to pour out love to you during this time of grief. If I can be of any help please feel free to send a private message. I have a daughter who must be about your age and she can certainly understands your pain and grief. I pray that you receive loving guidance in your grieving now and in the months to come.

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It is true Deb carried you in her heart, and will for eternity, I have no doubt. Your mother did the best she could, up against a great foe. She fought to remain with you. And I agree, she would not want you to think of slaughter.

I see cancer as a bodily dysfunction. I can't even hate it. I seek only to defeat it, for myself, and for all who find themselves struggling for their lives against it.

Your mother adored you, as mother's do. She will live in your heart. I know you'll make her proud.

So deeply sorry for your loss.

We all thank you for taking the time to let us know about our Debsing. That is so very kind of you. We do worry about one another, and we all knew we needed to pray extra hard for your mom. She reached out to us. And we responded as lovingly as we could. You are a very caring and thoughtful young woman.

I'm sorry, I do not know your name, but I feel your sadness and I am sending you hugs.

Please feel free to post here anytime you have the need or desire. We are here for you. We know how difficult this must be for you. Keep talking to your mom, honey. She will hear you, and try to respond. Watch for the signs.

With love,
Andi

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So very sad for your loss, thank you for letting us know and she'll always be a part of our community here, may she RIP xxx

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I am truly sorry for your loss. Deb was a big part of our community and she will be missed.

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Sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother, debsing.

Please accept my condolences and know that your mother loved you very, very much.

all the best
caya

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I can feel your pain, I am verry sorry for your lost.in this group even we didnt know each other we are like sisters.

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I am so sad and sorry to read this. May Debsing rest in peace and live in your heart forever. Ceesun

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I am so sorry and sad to read this. As Andi wrote, thank you so much for taking the time to let us know of your mother's passing.

Carol Ann

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I am so sorry for your loss. I remember on this board you mom was such a fighter. I will be praying for your comfort in the days ahead. Pam

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I am so sorry to hear of your loss! There is nothing in the world like a mother's love. I believe my cancer diagnosis hit my mother especially hard - she watcher her mother go through BC twice and finally succumb after it had metastasized. My grandmother passed away when I was only 3 and my mother 25. My mom has said since then that she truly believes her mom is an angel and watching over her - she has had clear signs over the years that no one would ever believe.

As hard as it is right now to think of life without your mom, she will still be with you forever...

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Sorry for your loss.

The most important thing is for you (and your siblings, if there's any) to check with the doctors and find out if there's anything you all can do to prevent this from happening to any of you. In other words, find out if there're genetic traits and/or environmental factors related to the cancer.

Sending you good vibes.

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I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Hopeful

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So sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that those of us on the board are still fighting in honor of those that have gone before us. By participating in clinical trials, sharing our experiences, comparing treatments and generally never giving up....our hope is that we are all playing a part in "killing the beast" so that younger generations do not have to worry about a breast cancer diagnosis!

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So sorry to hear about your mom. I'd be just as angry. But you can be so proud of her courage and fight to stay with you. It will be people like your mom who finally make the difference in the battle to "kill" cancer. God bless you. I hope you begin to find some peace soon, though the loss never goes away.

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The support on here is amazing, and I'm so relieved to know now that my mother had you all. I already miss our trips to Siteman. I always took her to her appointments and we were known as the ornery pair. Between her and I, we tried to keep on top of things as much as possible. Often, we knew or recommended things that they hadn't even considered (MRI when the brain mets were found). Unfortunately, her peritoneal mets didn't show up on the last scan and ended up giving her the bowel obstruction, which was not reversible in her case. She was a warrior, and I was her horse she rode into battle. We put up a hell of a fight together.

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I am soooo sorry. May be peace be with you and yours,

Karen

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I am very sorry to hear of your dear moms passing. I lost my mom to BC 18 months before I was dxed and know it's painful.

Thanks for letting us know.

Please remember a mother's love NEVER dies. It stays in your hearts forever.

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How blessed your mom was to have you by her side. That takes enormous strength. You should be proud of yourself!

You will never look back and regret and that is a gift.

You two fought an amazing battle. It seems the cancer was just too far ahead of you, on so many fronts, to catch a break. And focusing on the HER2+ aspect and not the very daunting positivity of your mom's hormones is a lesson for all of us. Cancer has many faces, many components.

I have 2 daughters. I was 50 when dx and I have asked them to begin mammograms for a base line reading in their 30s. Now in their 40s they do annuals, and one does an ultrasound as well.

I also believe strongly that the first of each month we must all examine our own breasts. I never had a lump. A marble or a pea. I had a general hardness of my entire left breast. I did not know that ANY change whatsoever should be immediately looked after. I never thought I had cancer.

I did move my annual mammo up and make an appt w/my GYN. I thought it must be a cyst. I had never had a single lump. Turned out what I had was a 9 cm tumor -- lobular (vs the more common ductal) which is deeper and more aggressive.

When I recurred, the bc was throughout my liver. My blood work reflected a very slight elevation in liver enzymes. 3 mnths later, it was noted without concern by my docs. 3 mnths after that, when it was again mentioned without need to worry, I stood firmly and asked for an ultrasound. This led to a CT scan which led to a biopsy.

We must actively participate in our own wellness.

So as a mother, I am asking you, Deb's daughter (I wish I knew your name) to take good care of yourself. This is what I tell my dghtrs, not to scare them but to arm them well...

With love,
ANDI

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I, also, am sorry to hear of your mom's passing. My mom passed away on Feb. 14, Valentine's day, the month after I started chemotherapy 10 years ago. It's difficult to lose your mother and my thoughts are with you.

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I am so sorry for your loss my dear. I will keep you in my prayers. I know how hard this is, as I have gone through this myself. I hig you in the distance.

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i'm speechless. I am so sorry. I am very close to my mother and I would be completely lost without her. And I think she would be completely lost without me to. I hope you can take it day by day and know that we are all here thinking of you. Your mom was such a lovely lady

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I'm so sorry to read this. She thought of you especially in her ability to beat this. You were always her reason for fighting so hard. Thank you for letting us know. She loves you so much and wants you to be happy no matter what.

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I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. I was pulling for her. I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain. I'm sending hugs to you.
Cathy

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My heart breaks with you and for you! I am so sorry to hear of your loss...know I am praying for comfort and peace in the continued days. Huge Hugs!

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So sorry to hear about your Mom's passing.

Adriana.

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Dear Debsing's daughter,
I am so, so sorry your Mom is an angel now. In one of her recent posts she wrote she couldn't bear to leave you, her daughter. She loved you to bits! You have been an amazing pillar of strength to her.

I think she felt her end was near, but she fought on regardless. May she be at peace now.

I do understand your anger at cancer. The wound is still fresh; the disease took your precious Mom. But in time you will come to terms with it. You have done everything you could to help her fight cancer, but we, as human beings, do not have enough knowledge yet to always beat the disease. I try to focus my anger, my frustration and my energy on finding ways to help future patients beat the disease.

I wish you peace and the strength to handle this sad loss.

Hugs

Jacqueline

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Dear Debsing's daughter,

I am so very sorry for your loss. We treasured your mom, and she treasured you. Thank you for letting us know what happened, and for reaching out to us.

Sharing sadness doesn't make it go away, but it can lighten the burden. You are welcome here any time. You're family.

All the best,
Amy

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Blessings to Debsing and her brave daughter. I love how the two of you fought together. I am sure she felt stronger with you by her side. I am so sorry that she is not by your side right now. She will be watching and helping from above. So sad for you. Take good care of yourself and reach out to your friends and family.

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Dear Debsing's Daughter, blessings to you at this very difficult time. Your mum was very fortunate to have you and the love you shared.
Marie

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i wish i could hug you. i am so very sorry. You have to carry her in your heart and listen to what she is wanting for you all thru your future. My heart goes out to you. And to the two women who posted here including kristen saying they lost their moms close to the time of their cancer journey. how many times did i wish my mom had still been alive when i was having my treatment. a mother stays inside a heart forever. deeply imprinted. you will never really lose her. please keep the faith, as bonnie says.

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So sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy to you and your family and friends.
big hug
sarah