My goodness you guys
 

I am always so blown away by the wisdom and effort you all show. Thank you so much for all of your words and seeking advice from others on my behalf-it means so much. You said things in ways that I hadn't thought of and can take to heart and assimilate so easily. I'm feeling a little braver and who knows where any of this will go. This man is off to Chicago for business and I think he will contact me when he gets back, but I'm open to whatever.

Anyway, I feel so much better after reading this thread-because my friends and family have said similar things on this issue-but you guys KNOW about these things.

MMMmm, I just love you all so much!

Para Una Amiga Muy Valiente Y Bonita
 

This is your first spanish lesson from me -

Translation: "To a very courageous and beautiful friend"

Joy - I think it is marvelous that you are venturing out and trying to enjoy new experiences. That is what " living" is all about. YOU GO GIRL

I dont know you personally but from your picture and how you help others on this board, you seem to be a very warm and loving person. Anyone would be very lucky to FIND YOU.

I also vote to meeting this gentleman and see how you like him. If he is not the one, you are taking the first step to a positive future.

Don't forget to have fun along the way even if you don't meet Mr. Right
on the first few try's. And please keep us posted as to how it's all turning out. How fun for all of us to focus on something different and exciting for a change - like our very own little mini soap opera (hope I am not sounding too personal - lol

seriously Joy - HAVE FUN ON THE WAY.

Take care my friend

Hi Joy, cancer or not, you have so very much to give to someone, that any guy would be crazy not to appreciate it. I understand your hesitancy but I vote that you go for it. The very fact that you are thinking about it and actually acting on your thoughts proves that you are ready to take on another thing in your life. Joy, Your name fits you so well. You are a constant inspiration to all of us. Please let the male population see all that we do. You go girl!!! Best of luck and I'll be praying for good things for you.

Joy,

Go for it! After 4 years, you could use the practice in social situations. Each one is a learning experience, so, even if this one doesn't work out, you will have learned something to help you handle the next one (which there definitely will be, because you have to keep trying!). Life is to be lived, not watched. Take a chance.

Hopeful

Hi Joy,

I'm so glad to see you posting again - I've been worried about you (although I did spy and saw you had been logging in regularly!).

You have every right to yearn for what "ordinary" people want - and you should have that and more, since you are "extraordinary". After all, the reason you are fighting so hard for life is to HAVE a life.

Although we know each other only from our posts here, I think we Her2 sisters (and brothers) know each other better than most strangers do. Where else do people bare their souls so openly as here?

So, knowing you as I do, I know that anyone would be enriched by getting to know you. I don't think you could be anything but "honest", but don't feel like you have to push(scare) people away.

Put yourself out there, Joy, and give someone the opportunity of a lifetime - to bask in your shining light.

Much love
chris