SAD NEWS - Lolly has earned her wings
 

Dear Group -
Had a call this afternoon from Lolly's husband (the great looking guy she is hugging in her pic that shows with her posts). I am still in shock.

At 4:56 am Pacific time this morning, Lolly went to join her other HER2 sisters who she helped and comforted so much over the past years. Family and hubby by her side.

Hubby reported that she did complete the radiation, but the mets were too active to have much effect. The skin mets went deep and her breathing was affected. Earlier in May she went to the hospital rather suddenly feeling bad. She was stabilized and sent home on May 21 with oxygen and a morphine drip. Even though she could move around a little she was feeling too weak to get on the computer.

There was no hospice sent in as her amazing husband learned what to do for her and took off work to take care of his dear Lolly. How much love does this show??!!

"Her last days were exactly how she wanted them," I was told.

Her obituary will run in the Corvallis Gazette Times in a couple of days.

Lovely Lolly, we miss you, but you are doing other important work now.

Oh my gosh. I am completely shocked, and saddened. Lolly has been a huge inspiration to me and to so many others. I will miss her so much.

It is so shocking! She is the sweetest person I know, I can't believe what I just read and it is very disappointing.
I was hoping that she would be back on the board actively after the radiation. My heartfelt condolences to her husband and the family.

Julie

I am so deeply sorry to hear this. She will be missed greatly. What a wonderful man she had in her husband, everyone should be so blessed. We've lost so many of our wonderful sisters lately, my heart goes out to all of their familes.

So very, very sorry to hear about Lolly. My condolences to her family and friends.

I just went Oh, No!! I had just read her last post I
guess about hurting her back. I will miss her kind
words and my heart goes out to her family.
God Bless.
patb

Steph,

This really saddens me. Lolly will truly be missed. Her posts have been a source of inspiration.

My prayers go out to her family.

Joan

This is so sad, my prayers are with her family and friends.

Thinking of Lolly!
 

I am in complete shock. I didn't realize she was this sick. Her posts were uplifting and gave me hope when I first joined this group four years ago. I send my sincere condolences to her family. I am so sad that another member has earned her wings.
Barbara H.

I am so heartbroken. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.

I am also in shock, I also did not realize how ill Lolly was. She was a great inspiration to me and I am sure many others here on the Her2 site.

She will be greatly missed, my prayers go out to her family.

all the best
caya

Oh NOOOOO, I sit here crying over her loss. I am shocked as well.

Please let her family know they are in my prayers during this difficult time.

I always loved reading her post's, they were so full of information.

no, no, no, no, no!
 

I am so saddened by losing Lolly! My prayers are with her amazing husband and family. How lucky she was to have such love in her life. She was always, unfailingly a beacon of positive sunshine in her posts.

That's it - NO ONE ELSE IS ALLOWED TO LEAVE! We have enough amazing angels helping us now - that's it! I mean it, don't anyone else leave - EVER!

I am in shock, this is just too many....too much.

Love to you all - love to our angels!

Donna

I can't believe this!!!!!!!!!!!My heart totally sank when I logged on and saw Steph's post!!! CRAP!!!!!
WE NEED A CURE!!!!!!!!!!!! NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was so saddened to log on and see this news.

May God comfort and give Peace to all of Lolly's friends and family and also to us, Lolly's her2 family.

Peace and love......

Mary Jo

No, no, no - I can't take this blow.

I am just stunned, and crying. I, like others, had no idea Lolly was so ill. My prayers will go out to her and her wonderful husband and family. Lolly was such a sweetheart. She will be missed.

I am in shock, deeply saddened, and my heart is breaking. This sick feeling in my stomach will not go away.

Donna

I'm numb. This is too much.

Lolly, we will miss you.

We miss you so much, sweet Lolly. Thank you lord for giving her such a wonderful husband and family. Heaven's gain is such a tremendous loss to us. Her sweet love and inspiration and knowledge will be so missed. It won't be the same without her input and "smiles". ma

So sad
 

I am sad to lose our sister in Oregon. My thoughts and love to Lolly's husband and family.
Linda in Oregon

I sit here stunned, I will miss Lolly and pray for peace for her husband & family.

Mary

This is so devastating...Lolly was the first to embrace me when I came on the board 5 years ago....we forever sent pm's concerning our node battles....we would always compare...I am heartsick at this news. My sympathy to her dear husband and family

NO, I can hardly deal with this as Lolly was such an inspiration, kind spirit, fighter and loyal friend on her2. This is not what I wanted to hear tonight, sad news. I pray this her2 angel is at perfect peace, surrounded by heavenly love.

I've clicked on this 2-3 times and I am just speechless. This is so agonizing. Shine on, our dear Lolly.

Very, very sad. She was so kind to me. I am at a loss for words. Sending love to Lolly's family.

Tonight I am very saddened. To Lolly's family; please know she will be dearly missed. May her spirit and strength live in all of us here. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you Lolly for 4=ever being an inspiration in my life.

Brenda, I'm speechless too.
I remember when the Her2support site was down some folks "hung out" on the breastcancer.org site so we could keep in contact. Lolly registered as "lollyanna".

I thought of her in that way - not in the pollyanna context of someone who was blissfully unaware of the realities she, we, face. Lolly was very much aware and determined to fight with everything she had. While always giving encouragement and helping us see the possibilities rather than the defeats.

I will always think of her that way, and of the picture of her on the water looking back over her shoulder as if it were the happiest day of her life.

We will all miss her dearly, and through my tears I'm praying for comfort for her family and loved ones.

Chris

I'm shocked and can't beleive this. This is the saddest news. I can never forget her kind and innocent face. She will be missed for anyone who had a chance to know her.

Lolly has earned her wings
 

Hi,
I am very, very sorry to hear about Lolly. My sympathy to her family and friends.

I Wish ...
 

...there had been a gentler way to let you all know about Lolly. Sorry. She meant so much to the success of this web site in its infant days. And was such a beacon of hope here.

When I found this site over 5 years ago (I am losing track!) Lolly greeted me with open arms. We meet here when she came to the University of Washington to participate in the vaccine trial. I first met her in person the day after my Gamma Knife procedure.

She was so upbeat and happy to try the vaccine.

One thing that helps explain her compassion and helpful nature is that she told me her grandfather was a doctor. She seemed to know a lot about how bodies work and not be afraid to find out more to understand as much as possible about her/our kind of cancer.

She lived with much grace and I know she did not want to hurt us with her dire situation.

I am so sad to hear this news. My deepest sympathy to her family.
She was an amazing woman and so helpful and inspirational to us all.
a very sad day
sarah

I echo the sadness and shock that has been expressed. I feel angry - we need a cure for this stupid disease. I am totally stunned. I had no idea she was so ill. Oh God.

Thank you Stephanie
 

I am so shocked and sad. Just didn't think we'd be saying goodbye to Lolly, didn't see that one coming.... Omigosh. Lolly, our angel. Love and strength to her wonderful husband and family and to all of us....love to you Lolly, thank you for your many kind words to so many of us....may you find peace and kick a** in heaven!!
Love, Jade
xo

Cancer just isn't fair.
Oh my, so sad - we will miss you sister Lolly http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/17/17_1_24.gif


http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/12_3_49.gif To Lolly's family,

May it be of some comfort to you that she is not hurting anymore and that she is at peace. May the memories you shared together provide you with solace and remain in your hearts forever.

With heartfelt sympathy,
Joanne S

Hello all. This is her son Bo. It's so hard to write this as she just passed this morning but upon clicking her shortcut and seeing just exactly how active she really was on this forum, how many supporters she had, and finding out just how much this forum and all the people on it meant to her I just want to thank you all for everything you've done to help her.

Her activity on this site I always considered somewhat of a private thing so I never asked for many details about the things she discussed with others. It made me feel good enough just come home and find her time and time again on the computer just a tapping away. Running off to the bedroom with a smile "I'm going to go post to my HER2 sisters!", she just enjoyed it so much. When she started to get weak, I asked her if she wanted me to post anything to her sisters here but she said she rather would wait until she had more energy. Knowing her, I imagine she just didn't want to alarm anyone.

During this time, my father pretty much abandoned his office and continued to work from home. He kept her fed with whatever she wanted, kept her hydrated, maintained her oxygen pump, her morphine drip and her bandaging. When he wasn't doing any of these things they were in the living room talking and reliving old times. My sister and I chipped in when needed and I kept up the kisses on her forehead. Those were her favorite.

I'm still uneasy about going through and reading her posts, but the few I have read talk about how much of a presence she was on this site, how much support she has given to others, how brave she was, how strong... Regardless of the Kleenex it calls for it's nothing new to me. The ladies at the cancer center all claim that she was the exact same way while getting her treatments. Here she is in the same situation as all the others that had to be there, yet always trying to help any patient she could with support, a good sturdy shoulder and whatever information she could provide in attempts to ease their worries. It was said that the employees who also provided support always felt better themselves when mom left.

Growing up with a mother like that you just never think this day is going to come. It did, but I'm OK for I have a lifetime of memories, lessons and smiles from a mother that, even into her last day, would always crack the biggest grin every time she would look up and focus on my eyes. Towards the end I was able to share great words with truly one of the greatest persons you could ever hope to have as a mother and friend.

Again, I thank you all for the support. She certainly had a willpower beyond imagination but the friends she made here helped to greatly lessen the load she seemingly never had any fear of carrying.

Here is a photo that was taken by my father while at the very campsite she used to visit with her family as a child. Sly Park in California. May she get the rest she deserves.

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My thoughts and love to the family.

I can only echo what everyone else has said. Lolly always had uplifting and supportive words for all. A lovely and grace-filled person. Bo and family, I am so sorry for your loss of this great woman. You and your mom look so happy in the photo you shared, thank you for including it.

Joe and I are shocked as well. Lolly was one of our original members and we will miss her dearly.

Our condolences to her husband Frank and to the rest of her family. Her presence on this website will sorely be missed.

Hugs
Christine